Hey @weir!
I just noticed your healing journal, and I’d like to help
Congrats on your commitment to a journey of deep recovery and healing, and also congrats on getting through the first 21 days! I understand that you must be feeling exhausted right now, so really allow yourself some time to recover. Deep healing can be rough, and the recon can be especially so. But you have decided that you want to commit to deep and through healing, and that’s huge - so kudos to you!
Have you had any previous experience with Khan or Dragon Reborn?
What is your current listening schedule and plan?
I noticed that none of the previous Dragons (that I know of) had commented here yet, so I figured I’d just jump right in and offer my support and encouragement. DR is by no means an easy sub (nor is Khan), and we need to help each other through it when it gets rough.
Now, I am not going to tell you what to do of course, but I would like to offer my perspective and experience.
And I tell you this with nothing but brotherly love, without any judgement whatsoever
For me (back in the Qv2 days) stage 1 was awful and stage 2 was also difficult, and what got me through it was to run it together with Love Bomb, and I dearly recommend pairing your heavy healing titles with a sub that will also lift your spirit, like Love Bomb, or Sanguine, or Chosen From Within. One of those’ll do.
Before I started with Dragon Reborn I had the chance to “prime” myself with a whole month of listening to Love Bomb, and I think that it made a huuuge difference in how difficult stage 1 and 2 was for me. I just want to emphasize that adding something like that really help you getting through the rough parts. It gave me strength and hope that I could pull through it and emerge on the others side of it - as a whole and healed person. Just consider adding one of them to your stack - It’ll help both immediately and in the long run
And I’d like for you to contemplate on something, and you’ll have to decide for yourself… but I personally think that maybe running Khan and Dragon Reborn at the same time could be too heavy right now.
Indeed it might make the healing process way too difficult and lead to a detrimental effect instead due to perpetually heavy recon. Or maybe even worse - it might feel so hard that it could potentially discourage you from healing subs for a very long time ahead - which could be devastating in so many ways.
A total breakdown is difficult as it is when done with one of these titles, but running two at the same time might just be too taxing and causing too much recon. Take this washout period and consider if it might be too much to do all at once. And really, you won’t have to wait until you’ve completed both DR and Khan in order to start feeling better.
If you were to settle with either one of them, and paired with an uplifting sub, I am sure you will get positive results faster than you’d expect. You’ll start feeling good soon enough, and in a couple of months from now you’ll be asking yourself why you were in such a hurry. I know I did.
But then again… when I first started with DR I felt like I was emotionally hemorrhaging all over the place, and the only thing I kept thinking about was that I wanted all the hurting to stop
Anyway, I just want to help you do this and succeed with your healing in the best way possible. Give me a ping here or a DM if you hit a rough spot or just want to talk!
Edit: I also wanted to add that if you feel uncertain if you are ready with one particular stage, it’s OK to stay on that for a longer time. When asking “When should I proceed to the next stage?” the answer was “When you feel that you have gotten enough from your current stage to fully benefit from the next” - or something to that end.
“Grow slow and steady, and you’ll get there” - everyone kept saying