Okay this is a separate post cause my other post was a damn novel. So I always struggled with self esteem, acceptance, love, respect which affected my life and dating life. I also struggled with the ladies thinking they didnt want me, would never love me blah blah blah.
This is goin to sound corny as fuck but I have started doing something once or twice a month that has literally helped me in all of those regards. Also tbh I thought about posting this a few days ago, decided not to post it, then I saw this soooo I am taking it as my sign to post it.
I started taking myself out on dates, and I solidify it in my mind that it is a DATE, even though its with myself. Now I have always been a loner that enjoyed his own company as yall could probably tell, so I did a lot things on my own anyways plus I do enjoy my alone time. When I started to work on myself love and all that, the second I started calling them dates it changed everything. When I started doing that I literally pretended I was going on an actual date with someone, but with myself.
Doing this, on those days/nights I would dress really nicely or appropriate for the activity, such as goin to a park, goin to movies, taking my self out to dinner, out for drinks or whatever else but I looked presentable for a date. That allowed me to put more time into my looks, since then I have changed my hair style, got a skin care routine, I shave my beard now rather than trim it and soon investing into more clothes. Its also helping me with my diet, and motivating me to workout more. On a date you would compliment the person you’re taking out so on that day I compliment the shit out of myself, even if its exaggerated and that has helped me love myself and accept myself more. Maybe you would get the person a gift, so get yourself a gift. It makes me get creative too and makes me go with the flow or try new things, I have found other interests because of this which is making learn more about myself and will bring more to the table in the future.
All this as happened simply because I go about me doing my own thing from time to time as a date. Its helped cultivate a much more positive relationship with myself, its helped me learn to love myself but also respect myself even more because I am starting to realize my worth, and also learn to love my own company to the point where while it would be nice to have a lady friend or a relationship, no matter how lonely I can get from time to time I know that I can make myself happy, also it killed the desperation to finding a GF too.
Like I said at first it sounds corny as shit but this really helped me out with my outlook of my own self, and the effects are also positively affecting my everyday life. Of course a shoutout to SubClub because these products has really started to change me for the better. Hopefully this too can help someone out. Also I apologize if these posts a lil hard to follow, I am tired as hell but as soon as I saw the post I had to dump all this