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#11

Too long has it been since I did a journal entry that’s not just a check-in. Here I am now. Part of it has to do with the strength of my journal habit lately, another part has to do with the personal nature of some of my musings. Here I can share the latest one.

I want to let go of the spell of normality I placed upon myself years ago. Years back when I had rejected the notion of living a normal life for the sake of being normal (instead opting for a highly customized and tailored life and looking at conventional notions more critically), I still recognized the value of some of the conventional/popular notions, such as those found in conversation (i.e. slang) and behaviors around others that would be more conducive to fun friendships, rather than serious discussions. I took it upon myself to adopt such things to not appear so stiff, formal, and intellectual (as much as I lamented the “anti-intellectual” nature of some things, such as false outrage, intentional misinterpretation for the sake of humor, and imprecise language which would be derived from the smaller vocabulary seen in the current vernacular—yet I still use a lot of words in my writings).

I’m asking myself to revisit this behavior of mine. I think a good deal of it is still going to be useful for a while, but I’m going to a new city, to a new environment in the near future. People there are going to have a different style. The pacing of life will be different. More importantly, my goals in that area are going to be different from now. I’m explicitly looking to change my personality in the new place. I’m asking for it. Sometimes in the past I’ve heard from others that I don’t have to change, that I shouldn’t, even. This is one of those times where I want to and I think I should. The environment and the goals call for some adjustments—yet I should still respect my core beliefs and my identity (which are also changeable, but such changes need to be reasoned about more deeply). Off the top of my head I think about how I use sarcasm, certain kinds of humor, jokes in the conversation as well as how much I like to employ my more serious side. The more intellectual side, the one who lets their vocabulary shine. How much I listen to others versus simply looking to respond. How much I want to understand. Or pretend to misunderstand and be confused (i.e. act obtuse) to drive a point or steer the conversation a certain way. All of these became habits and ways of socially developing in order to do fine in my current circumstances. I wouldn’t consider them part of my core beliefs and identity. I consider them changeable—I think subs can help with that greatly.

Asking for this change is big. It’s aided by the fact that it’s also not the most precise. Not that I should precisely adjust specific behaviors yet—I’m not in the environment yet and I’m not sure what it’ll ask for me to change. So I can only manifest changes that focus on the end goal.

  • I remember when I was living with the spell of normality that I had placed on myself in response to the circumstances that had developed in my home region.
  • I am so glad I allowed myself to change my conversational style, social behaviors and other aspects of myself to the degree that allowed me to absolutely excel in my new environment.
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#12

A lot of deep introspection and profound thoughts and changes. Brilliant!

Good luck in the new place :+1:

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#13

Thank you @Lion, it’s been a while since I’ve written about something like this! I want to do it more often because it adds to my written story. Most of the time I’ve been doing written manifestations where I go straight to the target, but this time I felt the journaling process was needed to flesh out my thoughts and help me figure out what I’m looking to do.

There are big changes on the horizon. Already I see that Khan Black ST1 is working—there’s a clear break in behavior today (and I did run 1 loop of KB ST1 at full duration today) compared to my previous days. I hope to write more about my adventures and the changes I see in myself!

It’ll especially be exciting to write and look back on what I see in myself in the new place vs before then, because that’s a huge shift in my environment and focuses.

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#14

Listened: Khan Black ST1 (15 min)

I’ve enjoyed running KB ST1 solo more than I expected to. I thought it’d be an unfortunate detour in response to current circumstances, but I’m liking how my sexual energy is getting cultivated. My desire for P has decreased so much in such a short period of time, it’s practically undeniable that this subliminal is working. Even in the few times that I’ve let go since running the sub, I recovered fairly quickly. No doubt this works. I’ll want to run Khan Black ST1 for a while, and start stacking it with my romance subs in the future when it’s time.

There’s a lot of excitement building within me regarding my upcoming trip because it’s the trip where I’m going to lock in the place I’ll be staying at in the new city. Not only that, the energetic cultivation will have built a bit within me. There’s also the possibility I’ll meet some people who are interested in me, but I’m not so focused on that stuff. That’s for when I fully settle.

This has been a busy month so far in terms of work and getting ready for this life change. It’s hard to believe that at the beginning of the month I was at the tail end of my long trip.

One action I’ve taken towards romance goals is sign up for a very special type of coaching that teaches skills around seduction. SC has said that their powerful subs are not a replacement for a high quality teacher and I agree. I scheduled this coaching to occur not long after I move in, so I’ll be starting off my time in the new place hot!

#15

Ran a loop of Khan Black ST1 today. Also note, I started running weekly loops of UpX. (That doesn’t mean much, because that means I’ve run it twice total)

I can clearly feel that there’s stress related to my upcoming plans.

#16

Thanks to @unusualfellow for helping me find this quote:

I’m now thinking SSX + PS as a temporary combo would be great to unblock me when I start off in the area I’m moving to. I’ll be getting some good coaching in my early days there to really get acquainted on the skills, and during the time of that coaching (few months) I’d have this stack. Then I would drop SSX at the end of said coaching. It’s pretty obvious to me that this is a big part of my life I need to put focus and attention on.

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#17

Good to know it’s not on the difficulty level of Dragon Reborn. That was an eight-month adventure that I had to solo for most parts due to the sheer intensity of it. Anyways, I’ve become more intrigued with KB lately because of the benefits I’ve received from it in the relatively short amount of time I’ve run it. I’ve started to wonder, should I run through the entire gamut to resolve all sexual limitations?

This is a year where my stack is decidedly very heavily focused on sexual and romantic goals, because that’s the part of my life I want to focus on. SSX and PS will be a significant part of my stack in the near future, with SSX then dropped for other supporting titles after I’ve gotten situated in my new environment.

I clearly see that my sexual desires have changed since starting KB ST1 on Mar 16. I don’t desire much to look at P at all. In fact, I came back from a trip recently and out of curiosity I decided to look at it to see what would happen since it had been some time (meanwhile I’d been running KB ST1). Guess what, the desire was very little. Not only that, I started to have all sorts of interesting thoughts about the content. “What is this nonsense?” and “this really isn’t that interesting.” It was surprising to me how easy it is to exit out of it all. And again out of curiosity I released but guess what? I don’t feel much of an energy drain. I also didn’t feel much pleasure either. So what exactly do I get out of this old practice?

Nothing. That’s right. Just an avenue of wasting time. And if I wanted to waste time while enjoying myself, there’s all sorts of other things I can do that are low effort and actually enjoyable. This just isn’t it.

KB ST1 has made something click in me to realize on an instinctual level that I should conserve my sexual energies for my goals, for the real deal. That’s something that I’ve logically knowing for a while (and so I’ve been making progress towards making it habitually known), but KB ST1 has really pushed me into making that knowledge something I truly understand and as part of my living. I must say it’s impressive that this subliminal got to me in a way many other subs (inc. various healing subs) just couldn’t. It’s truly targeted towards my sexual energy and sexuality.

It’s for this reason that I decided to take a look at what the copy has to say about ST2 and onwards. I like what I’ve read and think KB can play a part in my journey, even though I’m not looking at KB from a spiritual lens; I got into KB ST1 as a way to make my romance goals happen faster. I think ST2 and ST3 will also help out with these too as the copy specifically brings up how the titles combine well with titles like Libertine!

#18

I woke up today feeling a sense of melancholy about my move. Be it my family, friends and the various new faces, many have unexpectedly shown up in full force to try and spend time with me in these final weeks before I go. I can’t help but appreciate their efforts. Yet at the same time, I feel a little sad because I’m letting go of all these connections. Sure, when I choose to visit the area in the future (which I know I’ll do a few times since parents live here) I can meet up with some of them again. But there’s no guarantee our schedules will line up in those times, and their relevance to my everyday life will have diminished by then.

I decided to do some searches about this feeling and “Relocation depression” came up on Google. I didn’t know this had a term! I found that someone online had a similar experience and their thoughts reminded me of a few things.

It’s not a complete goodbye to the region; I’ll be visiting, and I’ll always have a safety net in my area since my parents are here. More importantly, I think back to why I’m moving out in the first place—for much better opportunities with regards to my specific goals. While so many have turned up to support me as I make my way out, if I choose to stay things will go back to being the same. And what is my future here? I know what it is, and it’s not fun to think about. Sure my career is going well and in many other ways, I’ve made good strides. But some things just won’t budge while I’m here. Relationships is a big one.

I feel that I’m likely in my final window of opportunity to be able to make the specific type of move I’m making. Even one more year might be too late. Everything has lined up so well for this—including the fact that my job will let me relocate, and the same for my friends who’ll move with me. How many people get to have an opportunity like that? Additionally, I don’t want to live my life wondering what I missed out on by moving out. There’s the chance for so much growth in the new environment, alongside being able to work towards my current goals much more easily. I have a lot lined up for me there. Some friends in the new area who’s excited for my move, too.

I know why I’m moving and it’s not something my friends and family here can reasonably help with. If I didn’t move, things would go back to the way they were. I’ve got to make the jump. And I want to commit to the idea that I won’t waste my time in the new area, to go for what I want and leave that area satisfied that I got all I was looking for. I’m not looking to settle down there—my most recent trip reminded me of that fact. I ultimately have a calling to be elsewhere in the long term.

The recent series of hangouts contrasted with my experience in the new area (when I was recently looking for a place there) and reminded me of why I liked the current area so much growing up. All those positives are still valid. It’s just that they aren’t so appreciable to me right now as I seek to have a different experience.

I’ve got to push forward.

#19

Listening to Khan Black ST1 solo has been fun. I really don’t see any reason or drive to do pmo anymore besides it being a nonsense habit. It doesn’t do anything for me anymore. I can drop it easily.

#20

Crazy to think it’s only been about a week since I started Daredevil, yet I feel like it is an integral part of my stack. It just goes to show how much I feel Daredevil has to offer me.

Unleash your inner adventurer and master storyteller with Daredevil. Daredevil empowers you to seek safe, but exciting adventures and discover the extraordinary in every day, turning life’s moments into captivating stories to inspire and captivate audiences. Elevate your presence, connect deeply through narratives, and become the essence of excitement. Enter any social circle, become the center of attention. Dare to be unforgettable with Daredevil – where every story is an adventure.

Daredevil isn’t gonna be just a social booster. It’s going to have me find adventure in the every day experience. Maybe that’s why this past week has felt so long (though truth be told that feeling of time being slow has been the case for months now). I saw results from it on the very first day, the day it was done as an experimental run and also a day that featured a lot of visits to family and friends. I talked with a girl I had a crush on (for a while in the past) and it wasn’t anything special. In fact, I walked away thinking “Wow, that was it?” and I lost interest :joy:. I’ve also had SO much social energy, it’s crazy. Even as I’ve gotten back to work I notice that people pay attention to what I have to say much more than before.

I notice that people have commented much about this:

This scripting is designed to guide you in mastering how to project your voice with undeniable boldness, commanding authority, and a captivating theatricality. It can help you hone a voice that’s authentically yours, yet carries the power to inspire and captivate any audience.

Despite that, I can’t say I’ve been paying attention to it very much. I do have a feeling that my speech has changed, though. I get the sense that I’ve been more eloquent, a verbal virtuoso. This is going to help me big time.

But you know what’s crazy? The way Daredevil is integrating feels very natural. I come back from a social day (e.g. one earlier this week where I hung out with friends and family for ~11 hours) and only when I’m in bed do I realize “Oh wow, Daredevil was doing its thing!”

And to think, I’m not even in the phase yet where I’m trying to meet new friends. I haven’t seen what the Inner Circle part of DD can do yet. But remember guys—shortly, I’m moving to a completely new city. And I’ll be refocusing my life around dating and finding the right person for me. Not only that, I’ll be making many friends around the way. I can’t wait to see what Daredevil does for me and how it’ll synergize with romantic subliminals.

Also, another thing guys: pmo died. I don’t think about it. Whenever it comes up as a suggestion, it gets easily shot down as a nonsense activity (which is what it is). It feels so irrelevant that this might be the first time I’m thinking about it in a while.

#21

Listened:

  • UpX (15 min)
  • Khan Black ST1 (7 min)
  • Daredevil (6 min)

Yes three subs today, but UpX is my first listen in two weeks. Did it so I can focus more on work. The other two are part of the usual run. Khan Black ST2 is expected to start in May.

I must say, I continue to enjoy my runs of Daredevil. There’s clearly a difference in my socialization before and after I run it, even on a given day.

#22

New Stack!

  • Khan Black ST2 (15 min)
  • Daredevil (7:30)
#23

Time for another candid post.

Just now, I felt this: I honestly miss my hometown. And It’s only been a few days since I’ve arrived here. I didn’t want to think or feel this, but in those final days back there I was feeling it, too. Especially as I was doing my final hangouts.

There’s this one friend who it was especially frustrating with, because I had met them just last year. It was only after I revealed to them back in December that I’m leaving the area that we made plans to hang out much more. Of course, this year has had so many disruptions that the majority of our hangouts happened in the last few months! I wondered why it has to be like that. It does not help that as I came to know them better I learned we have a lot of things in common. I got the sense that they were like an older sibling, something I’ve rarely thought of anyone. Not only that, it felt like I was supposed to meet them a few years ago. Perhaps that would’ve been the case were the pandemic not to have gotten in the way. The way the friendship developed, a lot of hangouts had occurred between March and April. It was on the uptrend phase, the period that in my other friendships (whose development patterns I have noticed) I would consider to be the phase of rapid development. The problem here is that it was in that phase, and then it had to suddenly get cut off because of my move. They were also gone during my phase of “final hangouts” since they went off on a trip of their own (back since).

To me, what I got was a preview of a much larger friendship that I don’t know will ever happen. While I do not intend to stay in this new place I’ve moved to for life—I’m just here because it fits the current phase and goals I have—I also don’t intend to move back to the old region, simply because that’s not what will push me forward the right way in life. I’ll be going back to visit my parents from time to time and in fact, I’m doing that in a week. It’s quite a bit sooner than I had planned, but a wedding is bringing me back to the area. I first wished to stay only though that wedding weekend , but should I now stay longer, through the week?! My work would allow it since it has an office there, so that’s not the issue. But to enjoy that weekend, spend mother’s day with family and potentially meet up with the aforementioned friend as well as a few others?

I can’t believe I’m thinking like this. I’m looking to get acquainted in the new place and all this point I was in great consternation at the fact that the wedding was going to make me come back to the Bay so soon after moving. Though I’ve already resigned myself to the notion that this is going to be a very work-focused one, not one for much fun. There’s just too much going on there that I’ve been dealing with (albeit a bit slowly at times) while with all these big changes in my life. Adventuring, meeting new friends and dating—the big things that motivated me to move out—is simply going to have to wait until June.

The funny thing about my current circumstance is that I’m here at my new place by myself not because I chose to work from home or because I’d be bored outside with no friends to hang out with, it’s because I’m sick.

I wonder if some of these thoughts are from running Daredevil on a day when I’m staying all day at home.

#24

Etheric cord cutting. While I’ve known of the concept for many years, I have not tried to use it for anything. It is most curious that that is the case, given all the thoughts I’ve had about the community back where I’m from and my desire to get away from them.

The concept came up during my recent visit back to that region. It was a sooner-than-ideal return but turned out to be an essential visit. I got to touch base with many people (some who did not know about my move) and see where they were in life. Many are making big changes, too—one plans to move away from there, a few are also considering moving out, too! One of my good friends who is into esoteric topics (hard to come by!) got it when I told them about these reconnects and how I felt that I was coming to peace about my decision to move. I had this idea in mind about “closing the connections,” but they suggested doing a practice to cut etheric cords. I thought that that was perfect.

Upon looking up what are the conditions to be ready to cut cords, I saw what was the key thing: to be at peace with that person/thing. Now it makes sense why it had not been brought to me earlier (and why it may not have worked earlier).

I write this all to say that I feel I’ve come to peace about my time there. When I first flew out I had a sense of “I need to get the heck out of here! I don’t want to see or hear from them again.” Leaving from this return visit, I thought “I’m at peace with the time I had here. It’s time to move on to the next chapter, and I wish all these people from my childhood and the community the best. I’ll live my life on my own terms as will they. Until next time.”

So I set my intention to release those connections. No longer shall I hold onto those energetic cords. I’m clearing them out so that I can have room for the new connections I’m making over here. I need not be disturbed by those people from back in the day, nor need I be the one to disturb them from afar. I now set my sights upon the people of my new area. Clean, new connections. While I could cross paths with the old ones in the future (e.g. they move to my new city and we click really well there), it’s not something I’m waiting out on. I’ve just assumed that they’re not part of the story moving forward.

So here I am now, with those energetic connections now removed. I’ve a lot coming up that I’ll be focusing on. New adventures, new friends, new relationships.

Here we go.

#25

The new city’s been pretty good for me when it comes to meeting people and dating. There’s so many more opportunities here. What have I done?

  • Approached a fair amount of people. I’m doing a coaching program to go along with that, and that has made me move in a much better direction.
  • Gone to a singles event recently, and that was pretty good—got contacts and people I followed up with this weekend.

The subliminals have assisted this well. I’ve been running the following stack:

  • Khan Black ST2 (last few weeks have been ST1 for another round of buildup for NoFap)
  • Daredevil (good for social energy, skills and meeting people)
  • SSX

Now what I plan to do starting tomorrow—the second half of the year—is to upgrade this stack to be more intense.

  • Khan Black ST3: Yes, the title that’s going to cultivate a lot of sexual energy within me! I want and need that (but I have to be careful in how I output it)!
  • Primal Seduction: You can see how I’m pushing above SSX with this. Also, I’m doing this because it’ll synergize amazingly with Khan Black. I’m going full-on with development of daygame, approaching people and going out of my way to meet new people so this title will be perfect. Additionally, I know one of my weak points right now is giving off a friendly vibe so this will help fix that.
  • Daredevil: Honestly, this is a GREAT social subliminal after the 2024 update. Perfect for this new city and the adventure mindset I’ve been cultivating. I also believe this is upgrading my social energy to match what I want to do.
#26

Would you look at that. I’ve been journaling elsewhere in light of a coaching program I’m currently undergoing to sharpen my skills in approaching women, which is why I haven’t updated this journal so much since 6 days ago (I started the program in June). I must say, that coaching along with this new environment has been changing me quickly. However, I’ve taken this weekend to slow down and rest up more.

You can imagine that it’s perfect to be running my current stack in light of that coaching:

  • Khan Black ST3
  • Primal Seduction
  • Daredevil

The main things I have come up against in the last week really concern the following:

  • How may I open myself up in a way to build a romantic connection quickly (not just a friendly one)? I can have nice conversations, but I need to turn up the heat. Be it through teasing or a nice playful energy.
  • I must give myself permission to speak from a place of passion, in such a way that I project that energy of passion outwards so that the women feel that in the duration of the approach.
  • I need to get bolder, take more risks in building that connection with women.
  • I must permit myself to show myself in ways that reveal the interesting person I am (of course, without revealing everything right away)!
    • There are a few interests of mine that can be used as conversational points in meeting someone. However, I’ve historically tended to focus on the direct accomplishments (I participated in this, I won this, I have this much of this) from such interests, rather than the backstory and the energy that comes with the interest and what drove those accomplishments. Sharing and emphasizing those things are really what would distinguish me and also give me a chance to project my energy attractively.

A lot of these things can be reworded and rephrased to apply to making new friends, too—particularly developing new close friendships. I’ve met a lot of new people in my time here, but how will I get close to them? There needs to be a developmental phase or key conversations that allow those friendships to be built quickly.

  • Common activities/interests that keep us meeting again.
    • Sports, trying out restaurants, exploring/adventure/travel
  • If there’s a broader community related to some aspect of our identity, utilize that.
    • Culture, religion, and ethnic groups come to mind here.
  • Contact consistently above all else. The above usually takes care of that.
    • Messaging, recurring calls, social media (active presence => they see stories, but this is not that effective when someone isn’t a social media user or is following so many people).

I ask that Primal Seduction and Daredevil assist me with these things and reveal the answers.

#27

Well…this happened.

Essentially, I realized that I went sub-hopping. July timeframe:

  • July 1: KB ST2 => ST3 (progression), SSX => PS (Idea that PS would help me address some feedback I got from coaching)
  • In the middle: I start to see a slight slowdown in motivation (and results?)
  • July 9: PS => Primal (influenced by some discussion on the linked thread; that’s on me).

Unfortunately, this wrecked me yesterday. Primal gave me serious recon. I became very inwardly drawn. My motivation to go out there and approach women dropped a lot. I stayed inside and watched a movie. And unfortunately…I did PMO as well. This is despite me going quite a while without it. Not good.

To counter this downslide, I am taking a break from subs for a bit. I want to do a 5-day washout at the least. And then, I will revert back to the stack I should have been with since the beginning of this month:

  • Khan Black ST3
  • SSX
  • DD

I have to thank @Sub.Zero, @Fire, and everyone else in that thread for commenting on my concerns. It seems that I went on a wild goose chase only to get back to the lesson to stick to my stack and not chase the next sub as answers to immediate problems. The whole thing started in response to some feedback I had gotten on the coaching program, but that feedback is addressable using my stack of SSX and DD. (Not much to say on KB ST3 => again, a natural progression from ST2).

I also want to make a bit more public my commitment to avoiding PMO. That stuff is just a waste of time and ultimately a destructive habit. What’s especially clear to me now is, it has no good place in the current story. Let’s talk about it in the context of what I want to do.

  • This city is just too fast-paced for me to have this destructive habit in the mix because it takes energy and I don’t feel as resistant to having less sleep (this is a benefit I’ve noticed while abstaining). I want to use that energy to explore and go on adventures in the city. Not to mention, I also have to be on top of things at work. So in a general sense I benefit energetically from avoiding this behavior.
  • Now let’s take a look at approaching, the newest domain in which I have seen the benefit of abstaining. It DOES help. Undoubtedly so. For me to do PMO it’s kind of like I’m throwing in the towel and saying “This isn’t worth it, this isn’t a skill I want to develop and become good at—let’s just do PMO instead.” BS => I truly do want to get good at approaching women, developing that romantic connection in person and all of that. Being able to do all that relies on building on top of the legitimate romantic interest I would have at those moments, and PMO can sap that interest so that’s no good.
  • Even if I went out and successfully approached women and got numbers (or more), why would I PMO even then? It would reduce my energy and motivation for the date and everything else after that. Not to mention, I’m trying to build a lifestyle whereby I approach women I find that I want to talk to.

So I now commit to abstaining from all forms of porn (and definitely abstain from masturbating to porn). For masturbating, I want to continue upon NoFap as a lifestyle, circulating the sexual energy to the extent necessary to continue upon my development implicated by the stack and my goals.

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#28

I’ve been enjoying my stack post-washout:

  • DR ST3
  • SSX
  • DD

This has been fairly smooth, save for the times when my sex drive goes up and I feel like unnecessarily wasting the energy. I avoid that on weekdays by going to the office. Today, I tried out a 10s microloop of SSX for the first time and I noticed it did help me out in some daygame-related practices today. Of course, I’ve quite a ways to go before I get good at this stuff. This is why I intend to stick with this stack all through summer, through the end of my coaching program.

I wish major name embeds were already here—they would most likely help me with SSX the most, given that’s the program I’m on with the biggest room for growth. I want to daygame effortlessly and get numbers from women who are genuinely into me, and go on dates with them. I want to be able to meet people organically.

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#29

Stack so far has been the same. Here’s what I’ve been doing as of late:
Main stack:

  • DR ST3
  • SSX
  • DD

Weekday bonus:

  • UpX (30s microloop run at beginning of workday)

Weekly addon:

  • AsCh (full loop, have done this twice so far; 2nd time today)

I found that AsCh still works, based off of the way I got so horny earlier today. Unfortunately it wasn’t timed right, I should have run the sexual part of my stack later in the day. I’ll keep that in mind for next time.

I’m still running through that coaching program.

Random thought: I don’t want to get another QTKS sub until ZPU exists. Haha

#30

This summer has been very eventful, and I haven’t journaled enough about it. I can’t believe that it’s August 11th already. I would not say that the summer “flew just by,” because so much happened each week. I scroll back to my previous entries and I see that between each entry is a a significant chunk of time. That’s unfortunate. I should be journaling more consistently, especially given the current program I’m going through.

In this summer I’ve been getting into the new big city life that I’ve been wanting for sometime. There’s so many events here and new experiences that I just wasn’t having back where I’m from. I just look at what happened over the past week and it’s astonishing—I did not do most of that stuff elsewhere. I’m so grateful to be able to live here. However, lately it’s become a bit much. Yesterday I got burnt out from socializing and being out and about, because I had been outside (after work, for fun, for experiences etc.) from Monday through Saturday. Now that is a lot. I decided I need time to rest, to recover my social energy for the next big thing. This coming Thursday, I will be attending a singles mixer event (read: not speed-dating). I haven’t been to this kind of event since late June and so I want to be sure I show up as my best self.

That event is related to this next point: One of the biggest skills I’ve been picking up this summer has to do with dating—game. You see, I’ve been undergoing a coaching program related to that skill, and my subliminal stack has been designed to go with it.

  • DR ST3
  • SSX
  • DD
  • UpX (Weekdays, 30s microloop — make sure I keep doing well in my career.)
  • AsCh (Weekly, recent addition—I’ve shown to myself this works, but I have to time the run of it properly).

I’ve gone through a majority of the program and I must say that it has been very helpful! Prior to this summer, I had never approached anyone. And now I can do it quite a bit! It really helps that I’m in a city (as opposed to a suburban area) that is conducive to this type of stuff. I’ve had a really good mentor, too. But I still have some challenges.

  • Though I was able to do several approaches last week, all of the approaches were towards people who had boyfriends. They did not reveal that fact until later in the conversation. It seems to be the luck of the draw, perhaps I was meant to just practice my approach skills.
  • I need to figure out the best way to establish a man-to-woman frame, so that women really feel my attraction and know that this is more than just a friendly connection, that it’s meant to be romantic. From my coaching feedback I understand it that while there are specific things I can say during the convo, there’s something that must come from within (inner game) that enables this to actually work. Now how do I get to that?..

I feel like overcoming the latter marks the fundamental shift I need for my dating life. Can this be changed? I think so and I must find the way.

As I continue to go through this program and find my way in this new city, I intend to do the following:

  • Journal more. I need to give my mind more room to process all that’s happened. It’s fun to go out and do all this stuff, but I feel there’s growth that happens in rest and reflection (akin to how the real growth from fitness occurs during rest after lifting).
  • Just take more breaks from events in general. This is a novel challenge given that historically it’s been a challenge to find lots of things to do in the area in a short period, now it’s nearly the opposite (making sure I have time for myself). I need this for my rest and because I just have things I need to do that don’t have to do with socialization.
  • Continue to develop closer connections in addition to making new friends. I have to ensure to loop in newer people into later events so that we start developing a collection of shared experiences! In this city, I have found it’s easy to meet a lot of new people in a short period, but making them closer friends is a separate challenge of its own. (A similar idea applies to dating)
  • Continue to keep a good head on my shoulders when it comes to the dating skills I’m developing. Yeah, it’s a high investment right now because I’m just getting started. I haven’t even been on the apps in this city (though I know it’ll be much better than in the last place) because I’ve wanted to push myself to go out and become good at daygame. Having that artificial constraint has been important; I would not have wanted to half-ass the development of the skill. I think the two methods for meeting women will both work together in the future (alongside other ones like night game and social circle), but I wanted to focus on the establishment of the day game process first since I know initially there’s a lot to take in there. Not to mention, summertime is the best time for this specific process to be established.
  • Continue to value the time to myself. It’s helpful to stay at the apartment sometimes. I need to do moreso this week. The reason is that I need to now plan for a trip out for my friend’s wedding (another opportunity to game…) which has become a part of a longer trip I’ll do with my friend who’s flying from another part of the country. This trip is coming up at the end of the month, so this time staying indoors away from the events will be needed for a bit.
  • Stay in touch with family a little more. They are far, after all!

The social burnout that occurred yesterday really threw me off, because I just decided to call it quits and lost the motivation to socialize, to do anything outside. In fact, unlike last week I intend not to go to any events until Thursday. Additionally, due to the mental burnout, I’m taking a break from the subs until Thursday, which is when the event is. I will then get myself powered up quickly by running DR ST3, SSX, and AsCh all in one go an hour before the event (and after the workday)!