Again I quietly point out:
Human history goes back much further than our grandparents.
It is not simply whatever we wish it to be.
It’s internally rich and diverse. And has gone through countless changes. Things (including gender roles and relations and sexual politics) did not simply start changing just before the time that you happened to be born.
Remember, we’re talking about an estimated 108 billion human beings who have lived around the entire planet over an estimated 7500 generations (give or take 2000 or so). It’s basically impossible to essentialize any given lifestyle choice as ‘natural’ and ‘normal’ for ‘the ancestors’.
Please don’t misunderstand. I believe that you represent a valid position, stance, and territory for making sense of roles and for expressing your chosen lifestyle.
Some of the rhetorical strategies and moves that you’re employing to stake out that territory, however, are, in my judgment, uneven. That’s no crime obviously. But I’m still pointing it out.
It’s okay for you to choose what you choose simply because it’s your preference. That’s already sufficient. But our attempts to say that our preferred way is the only correct way because of ‘the ancestors’, or ‘history’, or ‘genetics’, or ‘The Great Mount Sumeru’ are always, in the end, going to look dubious to anyone who actually goes to carefully check out claims.
We’re literally made of will, choice, symbol, and animal impulse.
But I’ve no doubt that what you’ve come to is a workable position. If you’re human, it’s probably also imperfect.
And that’s okay.