Iām paring it with WBC (St2 now), so Iām not sure what the WB part is, but I am much calmer and at peace with myself and take more care of myself. I do more sports, eat healthier, etc., but I am more motivated by doing it for me than by external validation.
Strangely, I get a bit of Chosen vibes. It is very calm. It is great for my social skills, but Iām neither as self-conscious as Iām under TS, nor am I as hyped as under DD. I get great results while caring less about them.
I noticed that too. Iāve been riding since I was seventeen, but hadnāt for four years or so. I noticed that my confidence with it really started coming back when I started WB.
My honest take:
This book can help people who tend to talk about themselves too much. But for people who already have good listening skills, itās sort of a hit or miss. I found when applying this practically, the conversations become a bit one-sided where I donāt have a chance to talk about my side of things and feels ingenuine.
The best relationships are a balance of both being able to genuinely express yourself and active listening. No need to force an outcome. Quality over quantity
Good theories though, and definitely some perspective you can take out of it. Mainly being considerate of the other person.
I agree To a certain extent, but at some point, you have to bring actual value to the table.
If you are a boring person and just use listening to manipulate an outcome, it doesnāt really work. What the book fails to mention is that there is way more than just listening skills to make a significant influence.
Ultimately our biggest focus should always be elevating our own frame, and our own value, and build actual things of interest that bring value to others. Basically what a lot of the SC subs help us do.
Thereās really no gimmick that will influence friends and win people lol.
But it does hold some things we can take away, mainly perspective.