I never get emotionally invested in mistakes.
When I make a mistake, I just look at it objectively and make note of it.
Making mistakes are important… if you did everything perfectly then you wouldn’t grow.
They’re facilitators of growth and learning.
Once you adopt this mindset internally, it projects outwards.
Now when you see other people make mistakes, it’s very easy to be patient and forgiving.
Why that is:
If we’re constantly pointing out the failures, weaknesses and mistakes of other people, it’s a sign that we’re wired to do the same for ourselves. We’re just projecting our own self-criticisms onto other people. It gets interesting when you realize… it’s not you attacking them; it’s actually you attacking you.
“I HATE x person, I will NEVER forgive them.”
That’s a projection of one’s own internal capacity to their self.
When you Grow and Expand that internal capacity, then one projects differently.
You project love, patience and forgiveness in a way that comes from a cosmically powerful place, more powerful than anything we can possibly imagine.
Not based on approval, not based on fear, but based on pure absolute POWER through expansion of the consciousness.
The true premise of infinite power is that of expansion and zero fear.
Anyways, lol. This is why one can learn a lot about themselves, just by looking at how they talk about other people.
Of course much of this doesn’t apply to you specifically but it should be clear by now, how I roll.
Why do people beat themselves up when they make a mistake?
The most important thing we need to understand is that… this behavior is LEARNED.
It’s society, movies, tv shows, parents and the education system that have trained people to believe that if you make a mistake, then you’re a stupid idiot. It’s taboo.
Your self-worth and ego are to take a hit and make you feel like shit. You are your mistakes.
Mistake = what is wrong with you? shame on you, you’re worthless and don’t deserve anything, other people are smarter than you and you’re inconceivably dumb and need to feel like shit immediately.
This programming/teaching takes on very subtle forms but also very direct.
Example:
Growing up, kids get yelled at for making mistakes. They’re made to feel guilty.
Later on in life, when they make a mistake it feels like they’ve committed a crime and need to be shamed. If there is no one there to shame them, then they shame themselves. They must express and perceive themselves in the way that they’ve been taught to, in response to a mistake.
The irony is that, this whole paradigm itself - is a mistake.
Something to learn from and grow out of.
“I made a mistake but I can’t forgive myself for it.”
The biggest mistake one can make, is not forgiving themselves for a mistake.
You see, if you make a mistake that you are unable to forgive, then you have created an energy of guilt, shame and resentment within your mind/self/body.
Forgiving yourself = letting go of that guilt, shame and resentment.
Without letting go of it, it will manifest itself as a block to your ultimate prosperous reality and well-being.
It’s probably a good idea to let go of that crap.
At the end of the day, we have free will and it’s our choice if we want to hold on to guilt, shame and resentment. I make it sound easy, but I acknowledge that it isn’t for those who are deep in the experience. Extract what you can.
