Hey there beautiful peeps.
Hope everyone is well and kicking ass lol.
I had some interesting shower thoughts today and felt like it would be helpful and worth sharing on here.
I believe that Nonchalance is a superpower and is extremely high ROI in nature.
The picture for the Total Nonchalance module in the Q Store, is pretty spot on for the nonchalant vibe.
Let’s take a look at the description:
Easily develop a smooth, nonchalant vibe around you. Profound levels of calmness and ability to go with the flow. A natural cool factor. If you ever had trouble staying cool when under pressure, or when joking around, or even not knowing how to answer to someone else’s quips, this is what you need. Wit comes naturally with such nonchalance.
Nonchalance is almost like a behavioral expression of elegance… there’s something graceful and beautiful about it.
It automatically makes you cool and laidback like a badass. We all know those types of characters whether it’s from movies or television shows.
Nonchalance automatically manifests as not being worried. This can affect your mood, thoughts (no overthinking), flow, smoothness, charisma, magnetism, openness, speech, etc.
Nonchalance automatically manifests as composure and casualness. This can not only make you come across as confident and secure… but it can absolutely skyrocket your sociability.
One of the biggest things that screw us up socially, is being awkward.
Definition of Awkward: lacking ease or grace (as of movement or expression); clumsiness; situation or expression that is difficult and not relaxed.
and… what is Nonchalance?
Exactly lol.
I believe that nonchalance is the antidote to awkwardness.
Ease, effortlessness, gracefulness, smoothness and relaxation = Nonchalance
and therein lies the attractiveness increasing aspect of nonchalance… because being awkward is unnattractive.
We’ve all seen those ultra smooth as butter and unphased type of men. It’s bad-ass lets be real here. That ability to be so smooth, casual and relaxed is insanely attractive and automatically gives you a halo effect.
A halo effect where people subconsciously are thinking “how is he so effortless?”. Effortlessness is… impressive. Nonchalance brings effortlessness to badassery.
It also gives you a sense of unpredictable allure when you aren’t typical in how people perceive you to be based on their own projections.
Example: A situation where people expect you to lose your cool because they definitely would if they were in your situation… yet you remain completely cool. This disagreement between how you are and people’s projection of how you should be… can give you an interesting edge. It increases your “interesting” factor. This applies to not just obvious situations in life but can be present in miniscule interactions such as a casual conversation. Nonchalance can also even create an aura or presence that attracts attention.
I suspect that wittiness can come from being nonchalant. In my experience, I notice that the nonchalance decreases pressure in a way that allows me to tap into spontaneous creativity. The relaxed casualness also encourages me to perceive from a frame of laid-back amusement which manifests creatively in my conveyance of thoughts, language and ideas, when speaking or interacting with others in real life.
One thing I want to touch on is Nonchalance vs Carelessness/Laziness because I sometimes see it conflated when they’re not truly the same thing. Nonchalance doesn’t mean being careless/lazy, nor does it mean suppressing how you truly feel (wearing a mask).
Nonchalance is more so a flow state, where you are going with the flow of reality while trusting it. It means letting go of the conscious need to control everything while also understanding that you can’t consciously control everything. It’s a form of being at peace within yourself.
It’s interesting how this detached element of nonchalance happens to apparently (based off the mainstream stance of manifestation and its relation to inner states) be conducive to manifestation.
For those who like their direct intensity and feel like nonchalance is not their “style”… I thought this at first as well but I find that the casualness of nonchalance won’t truly offset blatant intensity, but make it more finetuned. Developing it can advance your character and make you multi-dynamic in a way that is far superior to merely inclining towards the embodiment of 1 distinct style over the other. Someone can be perfectly smooth and nonchalant while simultaneously pulsing deeply layered twinges of addictive intensity. It’s basically charisma in a bottle… it’s extremely deadly lol.
If anyone remembers my PCC + Khan breakdown with the iron glove… it’s kind of like that (just search it in the PCC thread if you didn’t).
I’m not even mentioning the ability to dial yourself within that range in a way that is most optimal depending on what situation you are in - but that’s just the benefit of being multifaceted and layered in general.
Nonchalance is typically seen as a passive trait. It’s common for people to get the impression of it as being extremely easy going, avoiding of confrontation etc. That passivity can turn people off from the idea of nonchalance since it can most certainly give a beta-maley impression - which isn’t very ideal.
This is where the concept of nonchalance, in my opinion… branches off into 2 types of nonchalance. This is very similar to the 2 types of coquetry I discovered on WANTED (congruent vs incongruent coquetry).
Basically, the thing to consider is if your passivity comes from a place of power or a place of fear. This little switching up the mechanism, makes all of the difference in the world.
Nobody here has to really worry about beta nonchalance because the nonchalance in Subliminal Club’s products/modules comes from a place of power.
This means the contextual expression of nonchalance doesn’t manifest in a beta male way where you come across a beta male… but it always manifests in an alpha way.
Of course most of this post is from personal experience, this isn’t just speculation. It’s actually my personal experience that drives most of this thought because I found that when I stacked Khan + WANTED with WANTED having a lot of nonchalance in it… I was seemingly socially dominating with my nonchalance in the workplace, amongst friends, with family and even in public places (conversationally in general). Of course social domination sounds like an edgy term these days, but those familiar with Khan or know their stuff in general… know that social domination is nothing more than having high status, high sociability, high attractiveness and etc - it just means being a typical badass type of person or someone that people gravitate towards, want to listen to, value, like to be around, and want to subconsciously be like and have lead them (kind of like a role model). Words like “social dominance” and “dominance” are very grounded and logical terms but have been butchered by weird, traumatized, edgy and intellectually incapable males who model reality after fiction. It’s extremely cookie cutter these days for the male demographic within the 15-25 age range, with the main driving force of those mental masturbations being nothing more than a lack of psychological maturity - but I digress.
Anyways, let’s talk about Alpha.
If you’re in a situation and you have 2 people:
Person A = looks visibily worried, anxious, uneasy and distressed
Person B = looks unbothered, calm, composed and relaxed
Who is more attractive in this situation? Who would you gravitate towards? Furthermore, who would you choose to lead you? Would you choose the person who is panicking and losing their mind, or the person who is relaxed and calm as a feather. Who looks more confident?
The answer to all of this is obviously Person B. There are more examples but I’m just pointing out the ROI of nonchalance. It can set you apart from everybody else.
Also, this is rhetorical but ask yourself a couple of these questions:
Are nonchalant people emotionally reactive?
Do nonchalant people easily lose their composure?
Do nonchalant people easily get anxious?
Is it easy to get into a nonchalant person’s head?
By now, you can probably see what I’m getting at when I say it’s high ROI.
Feel free to share your thoughts, as any type of discussion is useful. There are a lot more thoughts I have about nonchalance, but for the sake of time… I’ve touched on a couple main points which should be enough to get one thinking.
Agree? Disagree? Something I missed? Am I onto something here? Counter-argument?
What do the great minds of Subliminal Club think?
I think you can develop nonchalance with WANTED and/or the previously mentioned Total Nonchalance module in the Q store.
Also be sure to check out the Lion IV module in the Q store:
Description:
Calm, nonchalant, focused, dedicated. The Lion module is about creating a sense of relaxed mastery in you. You will notice yourself becoming so relaxed, but at the same time an unshakable sense of power will be coursing through you. You will also massively develop your social abilities, your wit, your composure, your body language, and you will see your status steadily rising as you become more and more in tune with the Lion.
Cheers