No they don’t.
She just projects her pain on you, being your wife you’re likely the closest she has so she unconsciously sees you as a safe place to unload her garbage, which to some extent can be acceptable depending entirely upon your relationship and how much you are willing to give your energy to her (take her shit, in a compassionate, tolerant understanding way).
But this is entirely up to you to express how much garbage you are willing to take, and the fact she does this means you have already accepted it in the past and shown your boundaries in this way.
My advice would be if that bothers you too much, it’s time to listen to yourself, your love for yourself (which is the same as your love for others as well), it’s time to reset these boundaries with her and let her know when she has crossed your line.
This is the beauty of life, we get to recreate ourselves at every moment, and freely choose how we want to feel, and share with others that gift, be it showing kindness or showing where the line is.
I’m lucky I live with a close friend that is very aware and is working on herself just like me so whenever some disagreement or projection of our pain on the other happens we quickly are aware of it and apologize and have only good feelings toward each other because we understand.
This is why long term relationship usually break up if one in the couple outgrows the other, you being very pissed is a great sign you love yourself and you know you deserve to be treated with respect.
I hope what I wrote helps somehow, I feel like captain obvious writing this shit.
