In your case, it sounds like you’re overdoing it. If it was anger or depression, you would have to ask yourself what is causing it. You can treat it once you know what is causing those feelings. If was victim mentality, you might need to run an alpha or a healing title.
The last time Alphamale started a thread called “Taking action on recon”, he mentioned kicking someone in the face and “starting a facebook controversy”. That thread was unlisted shortly afterwards.
That is all.
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victim mentality is when you feel very passive and non-assertive? when someone can tell and slap you but you wouldn’t do to him anything because of your mental breakdown (recon)?
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No
Thinking about yourself as a victim of your parents’ behavior when you were a child
Meaning: not necessary to talk about that anymore
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I don’t believe in recon anymore and I call it “regression/aggression” (depending on its form). Here’s how I dealt with it today:
Well I did this, as you can see in my other thread
But by action I mean doing sth regarding sub purpose
By changing it’s name u wanna state that it’s much more intense?
No, it’s more about describing two different forms of so-called “recon” (regression/aggression) and the fact that it’s just a part of your growth - switching between your old and new “self” (a part of your transgression).
Regression is about contracting within your old “self” and it’s like trying to defend it (getting vulnerable, restless, and “locked inside yourself”) whilst aggression is about getting angry and out of control “attacking” your new “self” (and your “environment”) in order to protect your old “self”. Those are signs that your transgression has got pretty intense and you may expect a major shift as the result.
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Please stop making comments that could be sarcastic or taunting or condescending.
This is a warning.
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Thank you
@RVconsultant
I think adding the “not acting like forum moderator and just flagging the post” law should be added to campfire policy
I post sth and people come and start a protest
Maybe I subconsciously did it for courting attention
But there is not unjust topic in these and people should not come and say limit yourself to this amount of posts per-day
Even if they don’t flag you will see it cuz you are an active one
If you see the conflicts start from where they start to patronize
When someone comes and compares him/herself to me which is a foolish thing to do, shouldn’t I say “blah blah blah”? I really mean that this comparing idea is foolish
I will come there
The reason most of us don’t flag your threads is that we like you and don’t want you to get in trouble. We know that you’re going through a lot of recon, so we try to stay patient and talk you down. That being said you keep ignoring our attempts to help you and every day you keep going further and further. Take a break from the subs for a bit and talk with everyone on the forums until the recon fades, even if that takes a few weeks, it’s much better for you than to be feeling overloaded.
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Thanks for telling me You like
But I think its very hard to fix someone who has recon
I think you should give it time
I am in recon! For real
But as you have seen I am much more controlled than few monthsago
So that is a progress
Believe me I have headache now
It’s the end of my 2nd rest day
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Where is this friggin’ campfire everybody’s talking aboot, eh? I feel like I wasn’t invited to a party.
Saint, RVC and myself tend to retreat inwards during recon (from what I’ve noticed), becoming mostly non-communicative. Very difficult to take action at the time. You’re dealing with something and until everything’s right with your world again it may be better to keep distractions to a minimum. But everybody’s different. Some people may need to go to a party and let it all go for a bit.
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So I am guessing saint is in recon now since he is quite for a few days now.
I wonder what sub he is listening to. 
Thank you
You can close this thread if you don’t feel any need to it