May 1, 2022
Stage 1, Cycle 3
Oops. Belated washout needed
I thought my first day of this cycle was April 12, but no, it was the 7th. I did one extra listening 2 days ago and am starting my 3-day washout tomorrow. I couldn’t sleep and I knew I was going to share this tomorrow, but am making the most of this now.
I started this reply while out doing laundry today. I was reading the DR objectives, and damn, I’m seeing those changes. The biggest one has been showing up in my mind, and something bumped my thoughts, prompting me look this up in the objectives. I’m talking about letting go of other people’s limitations they’ve placed on you. Seriously, I’ve faced it while writing here, or even if I browse the forum. I’ll imagine someone discounting or looking down on something I’ve written, and the ensuing mask-wearing emerges. Even imagining this feels like old defeats I’ve endured. It’s why I’ve backed off of socializing much here since this has been my unhappy thinking.
But what bumped my thoughts was this “F*** NO!” that stirred my belly. It came like this:
My daughter graduates high school this month, and I’m already set to go up there for a week (out of state). However, the only thing that’s bothered me is that my old in-laws will be in the same house. I got pissed today since I’ve cowered to their obvious judgements time and time again. In essence, I put my worth in their hands, and they gave shit back. I’ve always felt alone when around them since their judgements said I wasn’t worth much. Feeling much younger and powerless then, I only accepted it, giving back passive insults somewhat consistently. I was afraid of the confrontation. And ugghhh, I was afraid of the emotional abandonment (and had already received that). --I was really afraid of my own memories of abandonment when around them since they mirrored how I grew up!
I’ve spent all my life avoiding people like this, and something is changing in me. I’m having trouble being articulate now since DR is still working on this old root.
And the second change I’m seeing a LOT lately is an intolerance to people trying to diss me at work. I’ve allowed it for years, and anger is growing in me. I’ve not been all reactive. Instead, I’ll feel the anger, but mindfully challenge the crap they’re spewing. As in, I’m gonna stare you down and question your bullshit, giving you a taste of my anger. I’ve definitely imagined ripping up a guy verbally, but there’s no gain in that really.
Edit: Going along with both of these changes is something new in my experience. I shared my support ticked above this post, how I was considering running Emperor today. While in bed tonight, I decided I was going to run Emperor with DR tomorrow (before realizing I needed to do a washout). The core issue in why I’ve not done this so far is I didn’t think I was worth this change. It linked with allowing people to determine my worth, and allowing their judgements to be mine.
Something in me is intolerant of this. I’m tired of believing the worst choices in life are the only ones I can take. I’m seeing that now in financial decisions too, which is a huge revelation. Man, DR is doing its work in spades .