Does anyone else think masturbation feels better than sex? The sensation is better when fapping and most of the time i just don’t want to have sex because it take more effort
Anyone else think it’s weird? Or maybe even a problem? Or is this normal?
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Perfectly normal chaver! Specially with all lubricants and stuff. The sensation can be better.
Having sex only is pleasant when you have a partner with whom you can share same chemistry, playfulness, and some kind of intimacy.
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I dont think there is something wrong per se, maybe some unbalance.
It happened to me in my last monogamous relationship. At the beginning sex was wild and amazing. We were having sex everywhere, in stairs on the floor, outside, etc. Then with time spent together, life, work, sex between both of us became boring. We still loved each other, both were willing to have sex, just it was boring and I went unto binging for porn while having low quality sex.
In comparison, while running KB1 ad Wanted Black, I had no interest in porn and masturbation, like zero craving. And I enjoyed the sex with my girls so much, the sex itself and everything around: the environment, the girl feminine energy, the whole experience.
TL;DR, Normal is a strong term so I cant judge, and I think it has more to do with your sex relationship with your girl. And yes it can be better. But because you are enjoying the porn, it is difficult for you to work it out. Until your girl complain.
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A lot of people will probably try and blame a porn addiction for this situation, and while it doesn’t help (and makes things worse over time) the actual root problem occurred before porn even entered the picture. Specifically, a lack of ability to enter fully enough into the communion that is having sex to feel the greater-than-purely-physical pleasure available through sex with another living being.
It’s really common and identifying, sitting with and healing whatever blockages are preventing you from enjoying sex any more than you enjoy a hand or toy is the key. Stopping porn can help reduce the amount of “noise” in your system.
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Depends. If ur using a fleshlight then maybe 
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She complains only when we don’t have sex, sometimes i feel like she wants it more than i do
Believe it or not, but I do not masturbate — only intercourse. Now, like every relationship, the lady and I have our issues but sexual chemistry is not one of them, even 7 years into it.
By withholding release until actual sex, I have found that the sensation itself is far more pleasurable than anything one can do alone.
Go do a few rounds of Primal Nights. That issue of sex feeling like a chore will vanish.
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I been using a fleshlight to practice edging and lasting longer and it feels amazing. This isn’t the first rodeo with fleshlights though lol. I’ll say this though one thing I love about keeping ur seed in is the sexual charge. I love the feeling when ur retaining and u have that sexual charge in you. When you see someone u find attractive and u feel that sexual charge in you come alive it’s also one of the best feelings ever. It’s like ur whole body comes alive and u can feel the sexual energy circulating. I often say to myself when I experience this I don’t wanna release this energy during sex or edging because after a few seconds my sexual charge is gone. I just love having that sexual charge in my body makes me feel alive. If u do watch porn like I did in the past it screwed my brain up so much I didn’t care to have sex or meet girls. If u do watch porn and fap go 90 days without and see and I would assume sex will outduel fapping
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I was thinking about adding PN to my stack but i already have 3 titles, im hoping The New Khan will be enough to help me with this issue
The weird thing is that i do think about having sex, but it always with other women and not my gf
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I don’t know 
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This.
Take 10 days or so without any sexual stimulation @RagnarLothbrok as a sort of reset, and see if sex with your gf doesn’t feel better than what you’re doing without her.
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I will
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spend some extended time on ST1 if this is the goal.
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It’s already working…
Dress up your gf as other women … RolePlay.
Boring sex is boring on Khan.
Higher Standards.
You’re welcome.
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@Psiklou so you went from boring monogamous sex life → harem using KB and WB? If I’m understanding correctly you made your real life a porn site 
Epic
Really curious about this. @RagnarLothbrok I think you can run PN as a “booster”, so sprinkle it in if you can? Hope you can solve your issues. This is a good problem to have, and hopefully it’s fun to resolve it! 
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It is just a tool to check if you had the stamina.
Diamond(ME) for both of you coupled with Love Bomb.
Relationship isn’t about all sex, it isn’t about the pops but everything in between that made up all the fun.
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This.
Yesterday I got a BJ from the wifey and holy lord was it amazing. KB helps a lot with issues so I could also easily last enough and truly immerse myself in the feeling of it and the enjoyment.
I was at a similar position in the past where I thought rubbing one out is just better. But it was all out of fear.
Because for sex you need to open up to the other person. Let yourself go. Overcome issues. Be dominant and tell her what you want, etc.
With rubbing one out, you sit down and nobody judges or watches.
But once you overcome these problems, real sex is a gazillion times better.
Not just for the mindset. Also the sensations.
Like, its not even a comparison for me.
I caught myself recently that after the shower I wanted to rub it, but I was bored. It didnt have the same sensation as if she does it.
If I hear her moan. See her body in ecstacy, or even see her naked and touch her body while she sucks it.
So, its not necessarily porn as @Psiklou said, but still a mindset issue you could overcome.
I keep saying: “There is an easy way, and a right way. Your choice.”
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Same here…
I find it challenging to compare the experiences of partnered sex and masturbation, as they seem fundamentally different to me. In my personal journey, the spectrum of possibilities in partnered sex has been vast, encompassing variations such as fast, slow, loving, primal, penetrative and not, more mental or physical, and… we are not even scarching the surface of the spiritual side of it.
On the other hand, masturbation, for me, often involved passively watching moving pixels on a screen, leading to an almost unconscious climax. Over time, I realized this habit was not only time-consuming (as I sought the perfect scene) but also left me feeling unsatisfied and somewhat empty. I came to the conclusion that fulfilling sex, especially when not solely focused on ejaculation, has a more enriching quality.
Reflecting on this, I believe one of the main reasons for unsatisfactory sexual experiences is that we learn the basics at a young age and often cease further exploration. Moreover, today’s society bombards us with a narrow and unrealistic portrayal of sex through high-speed pornography, where the context of the scenes may change but the way sex is done is always the damn same (fast, hard, no emotion whatsoever, etc…).
What remains? Friction till release lol
I advocate for viewing sex as a dynamic aspect of human expression that can continually evolve and grow, much like any other facet of our lives.
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that’s what I mean
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