Have you ever listened to Heartsong or another title and wondered why it causes such intense Recon?
If is really supposed to improve your relationship with your current partner, then, why does it cause so many fights at times? Sometimes running heartsong can actually feel like it’s making your relationship worse!?
But, as I’m going to explain, fighting while on heartsong is the ULTIMATE sign that Heartsong is WORKING for you.
I’ve thought about it al ot and have come up with a pretty sound explanation.
This’ll apply to Heartsong. It applies to my custom which includes the “Soul Connection” module. It might even apply to anyone that generally speaking is trying to manifest a better relationship and getting “fast results” aka immediate recon.
With subliminals, we can most powerfully change our inner landscape.
So, the first step to manifesting your dream relationship is to START ACTING IN A WAY THAT ONLY THE PERSON OF YOUR DREAMS WOULD RESPOND POSITIVELY TO.
No more walking on egg shells. No more throwing yourself on the sword for your partner.
Pure. Authentic. Expression. Of what you really want, who you really are, and how you genuinely want to interact.
If you’re looking to MANIFEST a relationship, well, this is a simple formula to success.
Step 1: Act in a way that your dream partner will respond positively to. This way of being and acting is in line with your truest self, and it’s the way that if you were able to always act this way in a relationship, you would always be happy.
Step 2: Keep on acting that way until you find someone that responds positively to it.
Step 3: You’ve found your dream partner.
However if you’re looking to IMPROVE an existing relationship… this is good… but things are about to get tricky. Here’s what that looks like.
Step 1: Act in a way that your dream partner will respond positively to. This way of being and acting is in line with your truest self, and it’s the way that if you were able to always act this way in a relationship, you would always be happy.
Step 2: Expect this… Your partner will freak out. You’ve changed. You just did something you’ve never done before, and it WASN’T complimenting them in a unique way, was it… it was challenging them to do more to make YOU happy and do less selfish behavior that makes the relationship easier for themselves instead of you. (Her thoughts: You’re not the same anymore. You used to never say anything when she didn’t do the dishes with you after dinner, but now all of a sudden you’re making it clear that you expect her to equally participate? WHAT THE FUDGE!!!)
Step 3: Your partner will fight with you, essentially punishing you for your new behavior because it challenges the norm and comfort of the relationship. They LIKE the relationship the way it is. They get to be more powerful. They get to be the boss. They get to control you to ensure you don’t challenge them. This is the basis of “walking on eggshells.” It means that if you say something they don’t like, they will react negatively, programming you to NOT act that way next time.
Step 4: You have a choice. You can either keep on acting the way that you’re acting. OR. You can go back to your old ways, stay safe, don’t act in a way that your dream partner would respond positively to, and then hope that by magic the subliminal will make your partner change and all of a sudden start prioritizing you even without you needing to speak up for yourself or ask her to.
Step 5: If you go back to your old ways, you will experience INSANE LEVELS OF RECON. Your brain will desire more than anything else to act in that way that will manifest your dream relationship, but, your conscious mind will block out that possibility, because it doesn’t want to have the uncomfortable conversations.
Step 6: If you DON’T go back to your old ways and you continue to act in a way that you would act is if your partner was your DREAM partner, one of two things will happen. You’ll either BREAK UP… or you’ll GET STRONGER.
Step 7: IF YOU BREAK UP, THIS IS THE BEST THING POSSIBLE, SO LONG AS YOUR PARTNER WAS GENUINELY NOT ALLOWING YOU TO ACT IN THE WAY YOU REALLY WANTED TO ACT. You are paving the way. you’ve just opened up pathways of manifestation by allowing yourself to throw yourself back into an infinite sea of possibilities. Now, right from the get-go, you can introduce yourself in such a way that only your dream partner would positively respond to. She will, from the very first impression, see you for who you truly are.
Note: How can you ever manifest your dream partner if you are in a relationship already, one which is not serving you? Sometimes, manifesting your dream partner means starting out with an act of faith. I genuinely believe that heartsong is much better at helping you find the perfect relationship, rather than helping you improve the existing relationship (if it is not your ideal partner). If the existing relationship is not serving you, Heartsong will guide you to act in your best interests and act as authentic to your experience as humanly possible, causing fights and recon until the relationship either adapts itself and becomes your ideal relationship, or ends. Fearing the fighting is just a way of not growing. Fight, if you must. It’s okay to ask for what you want and believe you deserve it even if you’re not getting it.
Step 8: If you do NOT break up, well… now all of a sudden, you’ve created a new dynamic in your relationship. While it might’ve been hard for your partner at first to start acting more like your dream partner, they’re actually doing it. You guys are working on how to make the relationship even better for each other… challenges and all! Congrats!
So, stick with the fights. They’re not recon. They’re RAPID GROWTH.
The real recon from Heartsong comes from wanting to act in a certain way and then suppressing it.
PS: This is happening to me and my girlfriend in real time. We are fighting, growing, learning from those fights, and being better for it at the end of each day. Our conversations now are conversations about how we can be authentic, set boundaries with each other, support each other, and how we personally want to be supported. It’s hard to tell your partner the way you want them to do more for the relationship. Starting a conversation off with “here’s what I don’t like about our relationship” is a QUICK way to start a fight… no matter HOW gently you put it… but, at the same time, that’s what makes our relationship grow; hearing the feedback and applying it.