Last night my dad started yelling all passive aggressively. He was in the kitchen making dinner, then out of nowhere stared swearing and yelling.
āThatās okay just relax and Iāll make set the table for dinnerā followed by some other F bombs and complaining that I tuned out of ( ofc )
And for the first time, I got fed up. I was ready to say something. As we sit down to eat, he says āI donāt know whatās wrong with this family but no ones ever happy and Iām sick of itā. āIf you want to come to the dinner table all grumpy and mad at the world, donāt come at allā.
I say: āyou were literally yelling all passive aggressively like 2 mins ago, youāre the one whoās angryā.
āB-BUT no one ever does it. Itās always me, you never even offer? All you guys do is hide in your rooms and go on your phones. Itās embarrassing, we didnāt raise you like thatā.
Whatās funny is, yes you clearly did raise us like that. You never asked us to help set the table when we were growing up. You did raise us to be this wayā¦
āItās embarrassing, itās disgustingā.I understand his point and I kind of agree with him to a degree. But he always uses these disapproving kinds of words to describe our behaviours. But again, WHO RAISED US? WHO ALLOWED US TO DEVELOP THESE HABITS? Whoās just getting angry at us after raising your kids for 17-22 years.
Anyways, instead of getting angry and yelling back at him. I calmly said āYes, I understand. Can you please not yell. And at first he continued yelling and my sister started crying and ran to her room.
Itās so annoying because itās always the same thing with him. Heās all passive then out of nowhere freaks the fuck out, starts banging shit, swearing, gets all aggressive. Then he apologizes later and everyone just forgets about it until the next time.
This toxic cycle has been happening my whole life and Iām sick of it