Guys love being harassed if the girl if hot enough, sadly.
Point and case.
@Azriel is right that you should stop running PS and you’re not emotionally mature enough to handle it and it’ll degrade your work life. Run TWTP or AOW (i’d vote TWTP but it doesn’t matter that much, whatever resonates with you more is the one you should run)
Definitely not mature enough if your solution is getting even more women to like you so that you feel “able” to reject one woman so long as and only if it’s because you’re on a constant dopamine high of other women’s attention. You’re gonna blow your life up dude. Run TWTP.
You might also be in serious recon hell from DR:LD
As @Spartan already wrote, this sounds like sexual harassment. Even if it seems like men somehow enjoy it as long as the woman is hot, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t stir something in the subconscious.
I also think she is very manipulative. I mean, if you block her advances, she turns cold and distant. Classic push/pull method. That does something to a person. Even if you don’t see or feel it yet, in the long run it can cause enormous damage.
Just because your boss has a hot butt doesn’t mean you should consider starting anything with her. Instead, start setting boundaries and begin to recognize that you are someone who deserves to be respected and appreciated.
I don’t see that your boss respects and appreciates you — rather, she manipulates you massively. If you don’t jump when she wants you to, she becomes unpleasant toward you.
A lot of people are like that. Due to old patterns, wounds, etc., they seek validation, support, love, etc., this way because they learned they are worth nothing, or not worthy of being loved if they are authentic and sincere. So they look for ways to get what they want.
It’s hard to get out of that — both as a victim and as a perpetrator. But the fact is, interpersonal dynamics suffer immensely because of it.
Ask yourself whether you really want to “connect” with someone who might energetically drain you like a vampire who, out of sheer bloodlust, can’t stop sucking the life out of you.
That may be true. But that’s probably only the case because men don’t dare to stand up against it. It’s always said — or at least very often:
“I wouldn’t mind being harassed by her!”
“Be glad!”
“She could touch me anywhere!”
As a man, you’re simply not taken seriously. That’s why so many stay silent, and that’s why so many women get away with it.
The number of men who are sexually harassed seems shockingly high. Just because a woman is good-looking doesn’t give her the damn right to touch you without consent, make sexually uncomfortable remarks, or do even worse things to you.
I truly wish for you from the bottom of my heart that you find a way to put a stop to all of this — without any negative consequences for you. Because damn it, you are absolutely worth being treated well.
And you are half ass loving it because you’re horny and desperate but also want something healthier in life.
I think Khan black would be much more suitable for you than wanted black. Wanted black is a bad idea because it will most likely make her behavior even more extreme. And also… you need to learn to control your sexual urges. Khan black would do that for you.
If you want to run khan black and wanted black, get out of that job first. This issue isn’t going to fade away especially not if you’re on wanted black.
As long as you can hold your own frame of self-worth, I think running something like WB could actually sort the boss right out of the experiences you’re having.
WB has the free will scripting, which is both their free will AND yours.
I’d personally go with Primal or Godlike Masculinity to help with the aforementioned frame.
Before you run ANYTHING else, though, get as clear as mutherfuckin rain on what your goals and desires are as a man. Everything else (in this situation at least) are secondary to that.
This is the key element in this dynamic between yourself and your client boss:
She doesn’t respect you, because
You do not like yourself, because
You’re carrying childhood trauma, and
She knows this and
She knows she can get away with sexually manipulating you and you won’t resist (because that childhood deficit makes you crave her “love”)
You’re a bleeding young sealion pup leaking trauma all over the place, she’s a shark who sniffed you out a long time ago as someone who won’t put up resistance, even worse, she playing the very handsy coquette and your response is add Wanted Black.
She’s not evil, but she got the “go ahead” to play games because you and her match energetically.
The best thing for everyone concerned is for you to pull those childhood hooks back in, start cultivating and holding in your own masculine energy, instead of continuing to spill it open for the chance of it coming back as “love” or whatever.
We’re not ganging up on you. We’re trying to steer you away from a mine field.
To be blunt: I’m worried that if you pursue something sexual with that boss, I’m concerned you’ll get fucked, but you won’t get fucked in the way you might want to get fucked.
I really strongly disagree with the idea that this is sexual-harassment… Why is a woman being interested in a man sexual-harassment?
Is a man being interested in a woman also sexual-harassment?
Maybe if Your boss doesn’t want you to make those advances, and they’re doing it. Anyways it would be sexual harassment, but in this case, @themadsexyscientist is obviously flirting and enjoying the attention, and Not giving any indication that he wants her to stop, so it’s obviously not sexual harassment
I understand that to someone on the outside, this might look like harmless flirting or mutual interest – especially if the person experiencing it doesn’t immediately label it as inappropriate. But that’s exactly why it’s important to take a closer, more nuanced look at what’s actually happening.
Touching someone on the back of the neck isn’t just casual contact – it’s a very intimate gesture. A lot of people find being touched there extremely uncomfortable, especially when it comes from someone in a position of power. If that kind of physical contact happens without consent, it’s already crossing a personal boundary.
On top of that, bringing up sexual topics out of the blue during a normal conversation – especially when it has nothing to do with the context – isn’t just ‘open-minded’ or playful. When there’s no mutual understanding or agreement, and especially when it happens in a professional setting between a boss and an employee, it creates an unsafe and confusing environment.
The fact that she turns cold or distant when he doesn’t respond to her advances adds another layer of pressure. That’s not harmless. It’s a subtle form of manipulation – creating emotional tension and potential fear of consequences.
And this is exactly where sexual harassment begins: not only with physical assault or explicit acts, but also in those moments where power, intimacy, and sexuality become blurred – and where the person on the receiving end may not feel free to say no without risking something.
We don’t need to assume malicious intent, but we also shouldn’t ignore situations where personal and professional boundaries are quietly crossed. Just because something isn’t ‘that bad’ at first glance doesn’t mean it’s not serious – or that it can’t have a deep impact on the person involved.
I think the difference between two people at work being sexual together and sexual harassment is the lack of consent. Doesn’t matter that he liked it half the time. If there is any moment where he doesn’t consent and actually would prefer to be left alone, and he is getting this treatment from anyone and that anyone is aware of this and they ignore it, it is sexual harassment. Because consent is ignored. This counts for any environment and any duo of people no matter the gender or power position.
This is obviously going off of preassumption that he had shown her that he is not consenting at times and her either pushing through or punishing him for it.
actually, now that I re-read it, he might be also at fault of this situation here. If he is “ignoring” it only, he might not be direct and clear enough… because absence of answer is not disagreement. Assuming he did not make it clear to her.
Sexual harassment or not, they both are doing things that are clearly feeding into this - not very ideal - situation.
@themadsexyscientist why not just come to her and be clear? Tell her that you don’t want this to continue and stop any non-work related contact with her? If you have not done so yet, this might be all that you need to do to solve this issue.
What has happened in modern society is this: through constant reinforcement and reward of bad behaviors, weak men are created. This is by design, not by accident, because weak men (and weak women) are easy to control in their thought and action. They are predictable.
Weak behaviors include not being able to control your own sexual impulses or emotions, having poor self esteem or a lack of boundaries, or not being able to be assertive about your own needs and boundaries.
If you take a look at some of the historical records of courtships, especially amongst royalty, such as the letters of Elizabeth I, you’ll see these courtships could go on for months, even years, and both parties needed to be satisfied before a marriage would occur. In Elizabeth’s case, she rejected several suitors because their religion or their politics could potentially cause problems for the kingdom. The amount of discipline and self control it takes to do this is in itself its own form of status.
By creating a system where hitting on someone boldly is not condemned but celebrated, by creating a dating scene where the goal is to get as much experience as possible, and where the idea that “men want sex” and “women want [insert status symbol here]”, and all sorts of expectations, the likelihood of a successful outcome is reduced because most people are not being selective enough with their choices of who they allow into their space, because of the illusion of scarcity, or because “this is the way the game works”.
When I ran Emperor, the reason the short term relationship I was in then ended was it helped me in solidifying an appropriate frame, and even a month or more before it ended the lady in question commented to me they didn’t think I would want to be with them if I kept running these subliminals (because they could sense that frame).
With Emperor, or any other alpha sub, to get a feeling for what it is teaching you, imagine what would happen if your boss tried to do this to a member of the royal family, or some dignitary or rock star. How fast would they be shut down?
People of high status are very careful with who they allow into their inner circle like that, often because it is acknowledged that many ordinary folk do not have the self control or discipline required to be truly legendary. If you want to lead a legendary life, you don’t want to be getting into someone’s pants just because they have a nice butt. Psychopaths and axe murderers can have a cute butt too
Being assertive doesn’t need to mean being forceful, but when you put something out there it needs to be congruent, which means you need to be sure within yourself of what you want, and then make it clear without drama.
If you adopt this attitude that you are the prize and they need to demonstrate with their behavior that they are the right person to give that prize to, this will weed out all of these people who consciously or unconsciously attempt to manipulate. It may create some uncomfortable situations, but it’s better than the alternative. Strong men are selective and realize what their own value proposition is.
Not necessarily, but I do like the attention she gives and how the other women respond
You hit the nail on the head and you are right about the trauma part. My stepmom(never knew my biological mom) was always emotionally unavailable and seems like I was always chasing her approval when I couldn’t get it, I would look elsewhere, women who were emotionally unavailable and toxic.
I’m working on healing my inner child, thats why I’ve ran LD and LBFH. I still got long ways to go.
It’s a lot more complicated than that. For one, I don’t see her a lot during the week and are reduced to just texting. We don’t work in the same department and she’s usually very busy. She does sometimes call and what not, and text too. She might pop her head here and there just to say hi and all. She’s a horrible texter though, when I text her about work stuff. She reads quick but doesn’t respond if it’s something boring or not of interesting.
it was a playful light slap, more or less on the neck but you are right. Now that you mention it, she has tried to use her position as a form of control.
I shouldn’t have let it go as far as it did without saying anything especially at work. I’m glad I never engaged with it in anyway and I’m usually careful with these things. I don’t want any problems.
Honestly I need therapy to address my trauma and the toxicity I grew up with in my family even now, that is affecting my relationships with women and people in general.
