tbh I think I’ll add wanted black to my stack, only for the social aspect of it. I feel like if I’m attractive enough and value myself, I won’t have to settle for women who already have a lot of baggage in their life. I’ve been settling for women like that because those are the ones that make themselves more available to me overtly.
Are you looking for trouble ?
I mean, seriously, you say your boss is too flirt already, endangering you, and you plan to add one of the ultimate seduction subs available?
That’s like telling her subconsciously to take you to the toilet and you take you raw.
If you want to add anything romantic, I’d rather go for something like Heartsong or maybe Emperor with its strong boundaries.
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You can get to this stage without necessarily using attraction subs. Just be a healed up, integrated bloke who needs nothing from anyone and you’ll have your female boss, your female coworkers and anyone female starved of masculine presence treating you like a lost gazelle in the Serengeti.
Your task here is to control yourself emotionally as a man, because you’ve short-circuited her nervous system with your existence. Balance attraction with self confidence and self mastery and you should be fine. What she does as an unprofessional is on her, but don’t fuel her fire.
This thread is like a meme now. God bless subclub forum
/ explodes
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You really going all out to get that female bosses sexual validation, huh?
Complete guess, but your early development trauma is causing you to seek out unavailable women for child style “love”, without the adult like consequences. Clean up all that trauma and start affirming your own self esteem first before lusting over women that can’t give you what you really need.
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Guys love being harassed if the girl if hot enough, sadly.
Point and case.
@Azriel is right that you should stop running PS and you’re not emotionally mature enough to handle it and it’ll degrade your work life. Run TWTP or AOW (i’d vote TWTP but it doesn’t matter that much, whatever resonates with you more is the one you should run)
Definitely not mature enough if your solution is getting even more women to like you so that you feel “able” to reject one woman so long as and only if it’s because you’re on a constant dopamine high of other women’s attention. You’re gonna blow your life up dude. Run TWTP.
You might also be in serious recon hell from DR:LD
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There’s plenty of room over in DRR discussion.
Also gonna leave this here, everytime you talk about your boss it always reminds of me this movie
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Fuck, that’s a good point 
You shouldn’t put your dick in a crazy, but maybe it’s worth considering after all
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As you reflect on all this, you’ll quickly begin to realise what’s best for your future, my friend.
As @Spartan already wrote, this sounds like sexual harassment. Even if it seems like men somehow enjoy it as long as the woman is hot, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t stir something in the subconscious.
I also think she is very manipulative. I mean, if you block her advances, she turns cold and distant. Classic push/pull method. That does something to a person. Even if you don’t see or feel it yet, in the long run it can cause enormous damage.
Just because your boss has a hot butt doesn’t mean you should consider starting anything with her. Instead, start setting boundaries and begin to recognize that you are someone who deserves to be respected and appreciated.
I don’t see that your boss respects and appreciates you — rather, she manipulates you massively. If you don’t jump when she wants you to, she becomes unpleasant toward you.
A lot of people are like that. Due to old patterns, wounds, etc., they seek validation, support, love, etc., this way because they learned they are worth nothing, or not worthy of being loved if they are authentic and sincere. So they look for ways to get what they want.
It’s hard to get out of that — both as a victim and as a perpetrator. But the fact is, interpersonal dynamics suffer immensely because of it.
Ask yourself whether you really want to “connect” with someone who might energetically drain you like a vampire who, out of sheer bloodlust, can’t stop sucking the life out of you.
That may be true. But that’s probably only the case because men don’t dare to stand up against it. It’s always said — or at least very often:
“I wouldn’t mind being harassed by her!”
“Be glad!”
“She could touch me anywhere!”
As a man, you’re simply not taken seriously. That’s why so many stay silent, and that’s why so many women get away with it.
The number of men who are sexually harassed seems shockingly high. Just because a woman is good-looking doesn’t give her the damn right to touch you without consent, make sexually uncomfortable remarks, or do even worse things to you.
I truly wish for you from the bottom of my heart that you find a way to put a stop to all of this — without any negative consequences for you. Because damn it, you are absolutely worth being treated well.
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This looks like the case
She’s abusing her power and harassing you.
And you are half ass loving it because you’re horny and desperate but also want something healthier in life.
I think Khan black would be much more suitable for you than wanted black. Wanted black is a bad idea because it will most likely make her behavior even more extreme. And also… you need to learn to control your sexual urges. Khan black would do that for you.
If you want to run khan black and wanted black, get out of that job first. This issue isn’t going to fade away especially not if you’re on wanted black.
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100% behind @CurlyGirl’s comments.
@themadsexyscientist you’ve heard it from men. You’ve heard it from women.
Act accordingly. Plenty of advice already given to choose from.
@CurlyGirl – dunno how you got so wise, but I am really digging the way you wrote that. Kudos.
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As long as you can hold your own frame of self-worth, I think running something like WB could actually sort the boss right out of the experiences you’re having.
WB has the free will scripting, which is both their free will AND yours.
I’d personally go with Primal or Godlike Masculinity to help with the aforementioned frame.
Before you run ANYTHING else, though, get as clear as mutherfuckin rain on what your goals and desires are as a man. Everything else (in this situation at least) are secondary to that.
This is the key element in this dynamic between yourself and your client boss:
- She doesn’t respect you, because
- You do not like yourself, because
- You’re carrying childhood trauma, and
- She knows this and
- She knows she can get away with sexually manipulating you and you won’t resist (because that childhood deficit makes you crave her “love”)
You’re a bleeding young sealion pup leaking trauma all over the place, she’s a shark who sniffed you out a long time ago as someone who won’t put up resistance, even worse, she playing the very handsy coquette and your response is add Wanted Black.
She’s not evil, but she got the “go ahead” to play games because you and her match energetically.
The best thing for everyone concerned is for you to pull those childhood hooks back in, start cultivating and holding in your own masculine energy, instead of continuing to spill it open for the chance of it coming back as “love” or whatever.
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As tempting as it might be, it’s NOT worth it!
I think @Michel has an important point of insight that I would strongly encourage you to think about. Please re-read his post.
@Michel if I could give that post 10 likes I would. Unfortunately even as a moderator, I can only give you one.
Please also re-read @Jouissance post above:
And please re-read this:
And this:
And this:
Okay, I’ll stop here.
We’re not ganging up on you. We’re trying to steer you away from a mine field.
To be blunt: I’m worried that if you pursue something sexual with that boss, I’m concerned you’ll get fucked, but you won’t get fucked in the way you might want to get fucked.
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I really strongly disagree with the idea that this is sexual-harassment… Why is a woman being interested in a man sexual-harassment?
Is a man being interested in a woman also sexual-harassment?
Maybe if Your boss doesn’t want you to make those advances, and they’re doing it. Anyways it would be sexual harassment, but in this case, @themadsexyscientist is obviously flirting and enjoying the attention, and Not giving any indication that he wants her to stop, so it’s obviously not sexual harassment
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He has one foot on the break and one foot on the gas. It’s indecisiveness and he hopes we can make the decision for him.
Listen dude, it’s your life. Go for it. If it’s a mistake it will be a good lesson. Lol
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Fuck her and then quit your job, move to another country.
10/10 best option
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I understand that to someone on the outside, this might look like harmless flirting or mutual interest – especially if the person experiencing it doesn’t immediately label it as inappropriate. But that’s exactly why it’s important to take a closer, more nuanced look at what’s actually happening.
Touching someone on the back of the neck isn’t just casual contact – it’s a very intimate gesture. A lot of people find being touched there extremely uncomfortable, especially when it comes from someone in a position of power. If that kind of physical contact happens without consent, it’s already crossing a personal boundary.
On top of that, bringing up sexual topics out of the blue during a normal conversation – especially when it has nothing to do with the context – isn’t just ‘open-minded’ or playful. When there’s no mutual understanding or agreement, and especially when it happens in a professional setting between a boss and an employee, it creates an unsafe and confusing environment.
The fact that she turns cold or distant when he doesn’t respond to her advances adds another layer of pressure. That’s not harmless. It’s a subtle form of manipulation – creating emotional tension and potential fear of consequences.
And this is exactly where sexual harassment begins: not only with physical assault or explicit acts, but also in those moments where power, intimacy, and sexuality become blurred – and where the person on the receiving end may not feel free to say no without risking something.
We don’t need to assume malicious intent, but we also shouldn’t ignore situations where personal and professional boundaries are quietly crossed. Just because something isn’t ‘that bad’ at first glance doesn’t mean it’s not serious – or that it can’t have a deep impact on the person involved.
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I think the difference between two people at work being sexual together and sexual harassment is the lack of consent. Doesn’t matter that he liked it half the time. If there is any moment where he doesn’t consent and actually would prefer to be left alone, and he is getting this treatment from anyone and that anyone is aware of this and they ignore it, it is sexual harassment. Because consent is ignored. This counts for any environment and any duo of people no matter the gender or power position.
This is obviously going off of preassumption that he had shown her that he is not consenting at times and her either pushing through or punishing him for it.
actually, now that I re-read it, he might be also at fault of this situation here. If he is “ignoring” it only, he might not be direct and clear enough… because absence of answer is not disagreement. Assuming he did not make it clear to her.
Sexual harassment or not, they both are doing things that are clearly feeding into this - not very ideal - situation.
@themadsexyscientist why not just come to her and be clear? Tell her that you don’t want this to continue and stop any non-work related contact with her? If you have not done so yet, this might be all that you need to do to solve this issue.
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