Advice needed here

The Emperor's Lounge
#61

Your speaking from ego man

Lol wear a platinum AP to a poor neighborhood and they’ll clown you for having a “metal” watch instead of a gold watch not knowing your wearing a 100K watch

Why are u looking for validation from ppl who cant see value? makes no sense

My friend and I have completely opposite tastes in girls,

The girls he likes I wont touch with a pole stick cause i find them too big

The girls I like he wont touch cause he finds them too skinny lol

None of us give a fuck. To each their own.

Beauty is what u think is attractive not what ppl think.

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#62

No, man. Don’t. For God’s sake don’t say that. Did she slip and fall on you? I doubt it. For your sake don’t say that to anyone. It’s worse for girls. You know, the whole virginity and bleeding rituals that girls go through. The whole pressure have having you bleed or you could bleed from your head?

Man up. You and your friends and lassmates. Switch to Ascension or some status title walk from there. If they’re not supporting you, they’re showing you who you are by your reactions. And it sounds like you’re living in what other peoples think.

Tell me, when it comes to orgasming, you didn’t mind her bod, did ya? Else you wouldn’t have gone through with it.

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#63

Too ashamed to hang out with her publicly but the shame vanishes when it’s time to beat the brakes off her in bed! Dudes are soooooo predictable! :joy:

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#64

I wouldn’t recommend a man being in a relationship until he is 35 or over that age. The reason being that you as a man need time to build wealth, status, maturity, dating skills, mindset, get over oneitis (being too focused on one girl), etc.

Of course there will be exceptions to this rule but that will be for exceptional men who have achieved a lot while they are still young or really sure about themselves.

The reason you are thinking too much about this is that you are still young and too invested in her.

Are you exclusive with her? If not, you need to tell her that you won’t be and you should start dating at least three girls (including her if she agrees).

Why do I recommend this? Because you as a man want sex but are only getting it from her. And for that reason you are hung up on her resulting in breaking up many times and getting back with her.

To gain a sense of abundance, you need to know that you can get your needs met anytime by multiple women you deem attractive. Else you will be too outcome dependent on this matter and keep asking a girl to change because you can’t get anyone else.

Now I know this won’t be easy to do since I know that in my youth it was difficult to not fall in love. The hormones are raging in you and you will just have to go through it to be more mature.

I do sympathize with your issue since in this day and age men are told to act like women and they become confused on what to do.

I would say to focus more on your outcome independence. Whether you choose Love Bomb for Humanity or Emperor, it doesn’t matter. But focus on your self-improvement in terms of body building, career, and having an abundance of options with women. You can start a relationship when you are happy with other areas of your life. And that is when you can think about having a family.

Right now date a couple of women so that you can learn how to handle them and be outcome independent of their reactions. You don’t need to change women. Choose the women you like and those who don’t want to be that way, let them go.

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#65

This is the best Advice. Thank you. I think am coming from a scarcity mindset.

#66

Just curious why don’t you just let her go ? What’s keeping you from moving on from her ? 24 is young

#67

This is true, because I can say I don’t really know what I want. I have dated 3 girls since entering the university but I can say this girl is the first girl I have courted.

#68

I have to let her go, I know it’s difficult to accept this but I have to. Am delaying because I don’t have much sexual options and girls on my plate.

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#69

Man up and do it.

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#70

You will be fine, brother. Think about what you want from life and go after it. When you are chasing excellence in your purpose, women will be secondary.

Let women be secondary. Focus on yourself.

All the best.

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#71

This is not the time to date exclusively. You dated them one after the other yes? You need to have access to multiple women at the same time. That will help your mindset to be abundant while you chase success.

#72

Also I forgot to mention this, when I was in the hostel when I stopped giving her attention, she courted on dude who got her pregnant which she aborted.
After having series of raw with her I was keen on her menstrual bleeding to start. She first lied to me she has seen it . One day when while we are sitting alone at home I asked her, till she started crying and told me she didn’t see her menses that she got pregnant for a guy which she aborted that day I was calling to know her status. I asked her when it happened she said it’s when I was in the hostel. I asked her how many times she had sex with him she said once with condoms.
After days I started calculating how can a girl get pregnant by one time sex, I confronted her again and asked her how many times she really had sex with him she said 3times .

I trusted her in the past but after this scenario I can’t be certain again.

#73

@Lion is this something you have experience with and can say from personal experience has made your life better? Have you dated multiple women simultaneously and gotten that abundance you’re referring to getting from doing so?

My only two issues with what you said are, one, that you need to date multiple women (external) to get a feeling of abundance (internal)

And two, you’re assuming that all men’s primary motive is sex. Yes it’s a primary motive, but is it always THE primary motive? Questionable.

This is spoken so strongly yet it’s the thing I disagree with most. I slept with sooooo many girls and NEVER got that sense of abundance, but it was when I was with one girl that i got the sense that I could be with any girl.

That’s why I’m asking if you’ve lived this or just read it… because it sounds like someone else’s words, someone trying to sell why the key to being happy in life is being a pick up artists, buying their book, watching their videos, taking their course, etc.

Seduction and dating skills are important but not the key to abundance. They’re not related AT ALL! Read The Game, about the greatest pick up artists in the world. They’re all miserable. I have mentors who were literally the top dating coaches in the world, one had the worlds largest seduction site, another mentor of mine is business partners with David d’Angelo, and I promise you, dating multiple women didn’t give any of them inner peace, abundance, or successful relationships. That’s all internal.

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#74

Facts

#75

Another fact.

#76

Nice little detail to mention :face_with_raised_eyebrow:

Just cut it off and stop mentally torturing yourself. It’s not going to work longterm. If this is still bothering you now, it’s going to hurt later. Cut the cord while you still can. Or play with it :upside_down_face:

#77

It’s fine. You can’t control what women do. You can only control what you do and what you accept.

If this is not your standard for her, you need to stop dating her. But if she is the only one you are dating, it will be difficult to let her go since you are not getting sex from anyone else.

Again, focus on yourself. Build yourself up.

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#78

Is it possible to break up with her in relationship and still have sex with her occasionally? :thinking:

#79

Do you watch porn by any chnace?

#80

In the past I do but I denounced porn longtime ago I barely but relapsed last 2wks.