I’ve actually had a fair bit of experience with this, although I’ll admit not post-Emperor. My TLDR advice would be that you’re more likely to meet someone interest and of relationship quality through other online channels that are not aimed at dating.
Now I’ll be honest here, I have/had undiagnosed Aspergers since an early age as well as social anxiety disorder, arising from my early environment and upbringing (also prior to Emperor at least a “nice guy”) and so the idea of walking up to a woman in a bar who I don’t know and just starting a conversation or dealing with the social intricacies of bars and clubs fills me with not just the freeze response, but almost disgust (a reaction Emperor is only beginning to touch on now and break down to a level where I could take action if I was looking to meet someone), and its also been my experience both online and off that you will meet more genuine people in situations which are not specifically geared to lonely singles lookin’ for love.
I met my first long term eight year relationship through my first online hook-up as a mutual friend on a journalling website. Before meeting her, I met plenty of potentials I could have hooked up with who I had a great time flirting with in online messages on Tribe, back when that was a fairly new start-up. That eight year relationship? We corresponded on Yahoo Messenger at the time for a full 5 months before she finally flew out to see me, although it escalated to camming fairly early on. They lived in another country, and after meeting up we were virtually joined at the hip from the moment of meeting her at the airport. But I didn’t meet her from swiping left or right on a stupid app - OkCupid was in existence at that time (2006) and I had used it, but correctly intuited at the time that it was “like a fortune cookie, hollow, full of lies, and leaves a bad taste in the mouth”.
You don’t create trust by using a dating app, and if you use those you’ll have to do a lot of extra legwork to meet anyone who is not emotionally damaged. When you use common interests, such as IRC channels in the day, journaling websites (not trite social media sites like FaceBook or Instagram), forums even (Tribe was one big set of forums/discussions), you build a common connection from the very beginning and people are not meeting you in a dating mindset because hooking up is not the primary goal, having scintillating conversations is, and often deep conversations that can touch them on a soul level.
If we’re honest with ourselves, online dating websites are like the meat markets or bar and club scene of the online world, and people come to these sites with all sorts of preconceptions and judgements or agendas that prevent genuine human interaction from occurring. You want to look for the options where people are more likely to drop their masks, this would be the equivalent in the real world of art galleries, museums, sports clubs or common interest groups (writers group for example), that way flirting and conversation can happen in a more natural manner without either party thinking the other is trying to pick them up.
The few positive experiences I had on a dating site were not any of the above websites, it was another common interest topic (SpiritualSingles), and there was plenty of chemistry and escalation to camming, then she introduced me to a friend of hers (she was poly) who I ended up getting sans clothes online before the same happened with her. But, both of these women were emotionally damaged and would have required a lot of work to become empowered, relationship material. One was living in a homeless shelter at the time, the other was living with her parents. That should have raised red flags from the start, but at the time it didn’t. One of the two of them ended up in a mental institution twice during the time I knew her, and even threatened to send somebody to kill me during a period of mental instability.
My advice: if you’re going to meet someone online, pick a non obvious channel not geared towards desperate people and get to know people slowly while participating in a hobby. All four of the women I ended up meeting and hooking up with from online I was not originally trying to form a sexual connection with, it just occurred due to natural chemistry in the course of ordinary interactions, and thats something people lose sight of in this world of pick up artists and swipe right throwaway culture: come from a place of genuineness and if you are going to use one of those sites, make sure you have a sub like PCC so you can spot the B.S. a mile away.