Which sub(s) work on the “Nice Guy” syndrome?
I watched a podcast from thefearlessman.com last night since the email subject pointed right at me: “Are you afraid of women?” Its focus was on “nice guys” in relationships.
Yes. I’ve initiated 1 date my entire life. I’m on Emp 4 now, and I’ve been wondering why I’m afraid of women. The speaker in the podcast pointed out we may have bad examples (I did) and likely generalize such experiences onto all women. Check. That’s me.
What this speaker focused on was many nice guys believe that if they’re honest about even small things, the girl will be upset and likely leave. A fear of abandonment locks them up. So we (I) am rarely honest with beautiful women. And women despise a man with no backbone around them. It forces them to lead. This killed my relationship with my now ex-wife.
What sticks with me is women feel more secure around an honest man, even if he’s an asshole. They know what to expect. But being a nice guy, I lie all the time.
I imagined this afternoon getting a custom sub for such issues. Specifically, it would:
- encourage my honesty with myself and others
- help rewrite old misunderstandings of myself such as things I am not responsible for
- help me face and heal old abandonment issues in me
- (add all the other stuff cited on Primal’s objectives)
But before going that route, how much does Primal focus on such stuff?
Here’s that podcast. I’m not sure how long it’ll show since they have a timer on the page.