October 24, 2022
1st rest day
I woke up with a clear feeling and remembrance of why I started doing subliminals back in 2016. I had been in 12-step meetings multiple days per week, and I was in and out of either counseling or therapy offices, depending on my income (or rather, my belief that I could handle the old pain rising in a healing environment). I had been doing this over a decade already.
My “why?”: I’ve always believed it was my fault. All of it. For everything I did and didn’t receive growing up. And also as an adult. It was breeding ground for a victim mentality.
I’ve only used 2 subliminals which actually touched that guilt directly, and SC didn’t make them. I still own both. I think I’ve passively avoided them since … damn… guilt has been my very foundation for why (and how) I exist. DR didn’t hit it directly. Regeneration walked in a few times, but tried yanking that foundation out of my hands. Serious recon, so I pulled off Regen.
I’ve not thought of this since I last used one of the 2 non-SC subs. It’s a feeling that seriously derails me, that belief that I’m bad and the pain is my fault. That rising belief is why I’ve sub-jumped too. I’d do anything to not feel responsible for all the bad feelings I lived in.
I’ve sub-jumped to experience some feeling of relief vs. the constant reminder that I failed. It reminds me of elementary school times, sitting here now.
It even scares the fuck out of me when I begin searching for solutions like therapy and the like. Which is why I’ve not looked for a counselor or therapist since I began subliminals. I guess I was always afraid of discovering “it was my fault”. So imagining feeling my pain full-strength plus feeling responsible for it was too much. Hell no.
I’m wondering why this came up. Was it LBFH Ex? Sanguine? Elixir? Or pieces of EOG St.1?
I’m thinking LBFH Ex is brushing off real reasons I’ve avoided success in life, dug up by EOG. Since this never came up before on EOG. But that very guilt is why I’ve shooed away success. Because I’ve always believed it was my Achilles heel, the big thing I was afraid people would discover and blame me for. It’s pushed success (in nearly ANYTHING) far away, many times.
Old childhood beliefs have run me for decades. I’m wondering “can love heal this?”
And also, what do I have to do?
In 2017 I was using another vendor’s sub and had started another 4th step (the cleanout time in 12 step rooms), and I was working near my old childhood neighborhood. I remember leaving my car in the parking lot after work and walking my old route to school, a good mile each way. I had a notepad and jotted down names of anybody I knew or remembered while growing up. I remember shedding some tears while walking, for I was an adult now, still hounded by childhood beliefs. And this was my reason I was in 12 step rooms: I still was living by those beliefs.
That walk was a good act of faith, for I wasn’t sure anything would change. Small things did change, even the belief that “I couldn’t do anything about it”. I live and work a town away now. But I have Thursday and Friday off for vacation days this week. Should I/shouldn’t I do another walk? It might help. I have a lot of old memories in those places.
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