I feel like the following is pretty universal for both men and women in both straight and gay relationships. Of course, it is more skewed toward straight men.
Good looks, no skill
If your good looking, it’s a hook. People will notice you and notice that you’re good-looking, but it’s only a hook that will start the initial attraction. The hook alone is simply not enough when the second you open your mouth, you start word vomiting and unintentionally acting like a…idk, a weirdo.
Worse still, if you are good-looking but have no personality, social skills, back-bone, confidence, etc, it makes you a potential target for predatory partners that smell your weakness and will swoop in and wreck your life. All the while, you’re too naive and pretty to realize that you’re being mercilessly manipulated by someone far more cunning than yourself.
So being good-looking will get you attention, sure, but if you don’t have a good personality, social skills, and other internal qualities (or external qualities like money that make people overlook your glaring flaws), the best you are likely to get is preyed upon. You’re very unlikely to get who you actually want when you want them.
Even if you have other external qualities like money, good luck being happy in the long run. Relationships of any kind require social and emotional skills. Good-looking, rich, and lacking in social skills is a recipe for being manipulated by everybody you meet.
If you don’t believe me, spend some time researching the lives of fashion models–male and female. Many of them are physically beautiful but completely socially deficient, they are often physically, financially, and emotionally taken advantage of, and many of them fall into deep, deep suffering because of their lack of internal skills. Many become addicted to drugs. Many are abused. Many are actually poor because they don’t/didn’t know how to assert themselves and get the money they deserved.
No Looks, amazing skill
You’re set. Sure, you might not be able to attract the most beautiful people in the world, but you’ll never suffer in love or friendships. You’ll be alright.
No looks, no skill
Not going to end well for you. If you’re physically and emotionally unattractive, there…Well, what good could possibly come of this combination? The good news is, you can always become a more emotionally and physically attractive person, always.
Looks and Skill
Be prepared to be the bane of every other man or woman’s existence. If you’re physically and emotionally beautiful, the games are over, you’ve won. Go home, you’re making the rest of us look bad.
Good looks are a visual hook, nothing more. This is not to say that good looks aren’t extraordinarily powerful, they are, but they will not and cannot solve every problem.