Yeah I know but he had goals and dreams and a vision
Thats sometimes all you need
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So yeah idk I noticed Id much rather have a girl whos average looks but supports me than a hot model who contributes nothing
I dont want a trophy wife, I want a girl to build with
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And there is so much support you could give as a woman that a man can benefit from
For the right man he will always be loyal to the girl who built it with him
But if the guy built it alone at the top I promise you he’s jaded af and won’t be able to tell a good woman cause he’s successful.
My nightmare tbh is achieving success single cause I will never be able to tell if my girl would be with me for me and not my external ego status
Oh it is… you just have to dig deep
But it all make sense in the end. And its fun to know aslong as you are ok with how the real world works and strive to improve
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If i were you i would look at the points in your last relationships that changed your perspective about him.
Its kind of necessary self reflection to understand the pivot points in the relationships
It helped me learn a ton 
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Well, one had anger that led to being physically and verbally abusive.
The other had avoidant attachment.
My recent partner of 15 months.
Yeah tbh the older and more successful he becomes the more jaded lol
Cause his whole self-esteem is probably nonexistent because he was taught that his value is tied to his success
And he cant shake the feeling that your with him cause of his success
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He was also a narcissist
We don’t need to get into that
But you’re right.
Again narcissist because he has super low self-esteem
Its the biggest indicator
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Narcissist is what a lot of modern women call a guy who won’t comply with their demands or a guy with standards. I’m not saying that it was your situation but it is one one the things we hear frequently.
The top three are “he is a narcissist”, “he was toxic” and “he was insecure”.
When we hear those, a lot of the time, we know that the woman was dealing with a guy with solid standards who wouldn’t let himself get run over emotionally.
Funny enough if you ask the woman if she did anything wrong you only get evasive answers. Modern relationships are funny.
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For many people, narcissism is a shortcut to having a solid frame and solid standards.
Try singing Mary Had A Little Lamb in a room by yourself.
It’s pretty easy.
Now try singing it in the middle of a crowded marketplace where there are people yelling, laughing, and singing about 20 other songs at the same time.
A lot harder.
If someone were to hand you a pair of noise canceling headphones in that situation, you’d find that it would become easier again.
Narcissism involves the unwillingness or the inability to engage the mental capacity known as ‘perspective-taking’; wherein we apply our intelligence and our imaginations to generate an approximate sense of how the world might look and feel to someone(s) else from their position(s).
It is neither easy nor is it simple common-sense. It requires work and talent just like any other mental capacity.
It also initially opens you up to many distractions and, in the short-term, tends to lead to a weaker and less stable frame. Just like going to the gym initially makes you weaker before you adapt and get stronger.
Women are narcissistic quite often as well. It just operates differently due to different socialization processes and different group expectations.
Like muscular weakness, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Just go to the gym.
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We don’t have this ability, only the mod team & Saint/Fire do.
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It is been said, you have to love a woman even if you cannot understand her and a woman needs to understand a man even if she doesn’t love him.
Attraction happens when you have something in common, love takes the opposite.
There is an aura that makes people become attractive and not exactly something they have to show to the world.
I have seen this with my grandpa with just a blink of an eye, he can lure good women instantly. I seen not-looking-good people with beautiful women into their arms.
In getting with women it isn’t important to know what she wants but rather to try to connect with her even it meant rejection.
We have seen couples fighting with each other, then when they tried to talk about it, it only hardened their bond, this is what love is all about-it erase faults with each other.
For single people rejection is not the end of the story, it just you didn’t make the decision to cross the river yet, so even if you don’t know what that woman wants, she doesn’t have a choice but to have you. This comes when you finally made it at the crossing, that aura radiates to the point when you start to notice people and you as the center of attraction.
It can happen with LBFH or Love Bomb, when we start to appreciate and love ourselves, the soonest then immediately we will notice a lot of things will attract into our life.
The catalyst is within, the subs will amplify the good things further.
Having a bad attitude cannot make good things happen.
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I can admit any of my wrongdoings from that relationship and I have journaled openly about it on here. He was in fact a narcissist though. I don’t go throwing that term around lightly. I have a psych background. I reached out to his sister who is a medical doctor and she was able to share a lot with me about his history. I also reached out to his ex wife and ex gfs.
I experienced love bombing in cycles, gaslighting, lies, theft, and before I went no contact he started a smear campaign saying I was harming my mind with subliminals and started going around to various people I know sending very lengthy illogical messages. He said I was exposing my youngest to subs, which I wasn’t. He was also using drugs behind my back and talking to other women.
It feels good to be free.
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Excellent points here.
