What do you think about girl trips?

Questions and Comments
#143

I agree. Ragnar is in his young 20’s. This is the perfect time to build your body, wealth and date women casually to get experience on women’s nature.

Serious dating for men is best left to your 30’s. Even 35+. And then to date women in their 20’s (in case you want children) when you are more experienced with handling women.

But must admit we have to remember that we are using subliminals that could be used to bend reality a lot. As such, there is still space for Ragnar to get everything he wants without having to follow our advice.

It’s tough to know which way to go. But whatever we decide, take responsibility for our decisions, learn from our experiences and grow.

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#144

I think i want to break up with her, i dont think i am ready to handle this situation.

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#145

But after sex, not before, right?

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#146

Trust means giving up control to a certain degree.
Trust is the base of a good relationship because without trust one or both become overly controlling and therefore create a bad atmosphere.

Trusting also means have your own boundaries and values that you live that while you trust the other person you know there is a probability that your positive assumptions might be wrong and you have to adjust to a new reality.

It is stupid to go into a relationship and expecting it to last forever and live happily ever after. There will be issues coming up, the person might cheat on you, the person might just develop in a different direction, a lot can happen in a lifetime.

Btw that is also something that can happen, she is on that trip, makes experiences (not cheating!) and develops a different outlook upon life and that might bo longer fit together with your expectations.

Does that mean you should stop her from going? No. I would let her go on that trip but there might be a phase after that trip where you two have to get to know each other again, especially her since she probably went through different stuff. It is the same with doing a lot of personal development separate from your partner and come back and then decide on how to proceed with the new knowledge/experience.

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#147

When is she planning to go on the trip ?

#148

A lot of guys think like this though and when a breakup happens it destroys them sometimes kills them because they can’t handle it. I was one of them back in the days when I got into a relationship my goal was for it to last forever and she will be my one and only. You could only imagine when my first girl ever told me she doesn’t want me to be her only relationship how it shattered and broke me.

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#149

In a few months

#150

I also worry that if i break up with her I won’t find another woman

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#151

That’s a scarcity mindset sub club will have that fixed in no time :slightly_smiling_face:. I know it might not seem like it now but there’s lots of girls out there for you to enjoy. She’s not the only one. I know it’s something that’s difficult to hear but I could remember friends back in the days telling me something similar and I didn’t want to hear it. As time passed and especially now when I look back they were right. She wasn’t the only girl out there there’s tons out there.
One very hard pill to swallow is everything comes to an end jobs, friendships, relationships, etc life goes in cycles. Some last longer than others. Some shorter. Once you accept that everything falls into place. It took me until 27 to accept that reality

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#152

I understand it is difficult to do so when one is young and it is one of the first relationships you have. As such bonding hormones will play a large role for young men which will make them desire to keep the relationship even if the woman tests their boundaries.

But there is an advantage in being single now. You will have time to focus on yourself. Date casually since sex is important. But screen women well. You are the one who proposes marriage brother. You give the woman your last name. Never forget that. It is a power that men have.

As such one should be very discerning in who we as men give relationships to. We don’t want to be embarrassed in the future for what women do in their past.

To get this knowledge and wisdom, we need to date a bit. You start to see a pattern when you have dated several women clearly stating that you aren’t looking for anything long term. You can always change your mind later if you find a woman who meets your every requirement.

Most women will agree if you have good frame and if you be honest with them. And as you date them and learn them by observation, build that Viking Body that will make Odin proud and Thor envious.

Conquer businesses like your namesake.

Build a name for yourself that will make your family proud and women compete to get.

If you want to be worthy of Valhalla, order now…i mean, DO WHAT IS NEEDED!

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#153

You could also say „I stay together with her during that time, but I will use a lot of that time to become the man I want to be”.

Best case: she comes back, didn’t cheat, still loves you (maybe even more) and you used that time to improve.

Worst case: you two break up during or after that trip but you already focused upon building your own empire, make yourself better as a person and more valuable as a partner, so you go out of the scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset and you can then actively start dating.

If you break up now just to be the one to break up it is probably because of pride reasons which is because of fear to get hurt and fear is never the best position to make a decision.

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#154

Is there a new SC title out with reference to Vikings and Valhalla? :wink:

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#155

You’ll find another woman. You found her, and you’re 23 (you’re young). I know you’ve got a lot of emotions going on and going deep, but that’s all an illusion. Emotions like that make it difficult to see straight and conjure up a bunch of bullshit in your mind, but I can tell you, you can definitely get another girl and you have plenty of time to do so.

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#156

Haha I got excited and went along with the writing.

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#157

I understand your fear. It’s natural to worry about being alone. But your well-being is more important than the fear of the unknown. Remember, being true to yourself often leads to the best outcomes. These subs can make a major difference in your life, Its difficult now, but in a couple of months you will look back differently

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#158

I want to he honest, this is a very smart choice, but if i do choose to do so, it will be because it’s the easiest choice.

#159

I have a very very strong feeling if he breaks up when she comes back home she will reach out and want to be together like nothing happened. I actually think not taking her back when she comes back and Reaches out is going to be even harder then him breaking up with her now. If he does break up he needs to build himself up emotionally, mentally, spiritually etc for that time when she does come back and reaches out to get back together

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#160

Do you want to look back on your life and be proud to say “I took the easiest choices” or to say “I took the path that sometimes was difficult, that had obstacles to learn and grow which led to who I am today”

Also focusing on your own improvement takes the focus away from her, helps also if she comes back and says “I need time now” and you just say “ok, I am also pretty busy, if I don’t answer right away, don’t take it personally.” But give yourself a timeframe of for example 4 weeks after she comes back it is either on or off. But plan to be busy, live your live, do stuff you enjoy, be part of social life, clubs and groups, develop yourself, go for adventures. During the 3 months and after she comes back.

She should be “a nice addition to your life” instead of “being your life”.

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#161

I will use the time she is gone to focus more on myself, especially my muay thai development, which if im alone i can probably train like 2-3 hours a day.

Or maybe even focus more on business with the new upcoming wealth title.

Probably both.

When she comes back i might stay with her or i might break up with her.

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#162

I think this is the best solution that will also allow you to move forward in your life.

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