Just to clarify, i will never tell her to not go, i will never take her freedom or try to control her.
But I don’t think i can stay with her if she does go.
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Yes, she already decided.
What I wanted to say is that it does not matter whether she should have asked him or not, his current reaction and lack of trust reveals topics he needs to work on within himself.
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But what if she does cheat? And doesn’t tell me? I will be with a woman who cheated on me? How can i know?
You will never know unless she tells you or you find out one day through a friend or see something on her phone etc.
Well not totally true if she uses that kiss of death line people mentioned “ I need space “ etc u know lol
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In this case it simply means you don’t trust her.
Which would be fine if she would show red flags of being a potential cheater.
BUT, since you mentioned that you wouldn’t trust ANY woman in the world with something like this, reveals that you have a general trust issue with women in general.
Which then means, that no woman will ever be good enough for you to trust her with basic things like traveling with her girlfriends.
Which means you make it impossible for yourself to ever have a relationship build on deep trust until you solve this issue/limiting belief within yourself.
It is not a coincidence when @Skadoosh tells everyone that LBFH is the most Alpha sub of them all.
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Let’s avoid making assumptions about RagnarLothbrok. He posed a specific question, and it appears that some members are veering off-topic by offering unsolicited advice like what subliminals he should be using . This thread has become quite chaotic 
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I won’t lie if my girl or wife etc said she’s going on a girls trip for 3 months to another country I would have a problem with it especially if she’s telling me not even asking me. That makes it worse. Even if she genuinely doesn’t wanna cheat her traveling and partying for 3 month with close friends is gonna leave her open to the possibility of doing so.
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ZP is “reality pushed through you”.
With the tools we have here at our hands we get to decide what reality we want to live in, what things can or cannot happen in this reality, how others treat us etc.
The man who loves himself and is the living embodiment of a WANTED KHAN (or a similar archetype) is unlikely to be ever cheated upon and therefore this man can relax and detach from trust issues. He will know which women are operating under which internal algorithm. There will be no FOMO and no resentment with regards to any of the women and their behaviors.
One important thing to remember is that everyone’s development while being on ZP is much much faster than that of most people who are not on ZP.
Which means that our perceptions, values, but most importantly, external manifestations (!) change over time and they do so at a much faster rate than they do for other people.
With ZP, we get to decide how our reality shall look like. And since other people have a free will, it is up to them whether they want and whether they can catch up with our constant fast pace of development and change of values and standards. As we grow through ZP, it is a natural consequence that we will encounter different types of people as we move on, again and again.
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You do bring up some points but to me that came way too agressive 
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Im using cfw for healing.
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I apologize if my tone was too aggressive.
I should not comment on stuff when I’m in recon…
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The fact is, such a trip is a life changing experience, and I doubt anyone could with confidence predict what changes anyone would or would not undergo during or after it! I’d move heaven and earth to join the trip. If not, it’s serious communication time and being open to ending things.
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What about taking a break during that time and revisiting the relationship when she returns?
If there’s no trust completely at the current time then I would be considering that too. Sit with that and get totally honest with yourself.
If she wants to go it’s her right and the opportunity of a lifetime. That’s exciting.
I wish I had travelled more prior to becoming a mom and career & now business driven woman.
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You either accept it or move the eff on. It’s their life and their choice how they live their life, especially if they aren’t married with kids.
No one controls your decisions but you!
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I think it’s on point & necessary. 
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How come? telling a guy who is in on a crossroad in his relationship that he has serious mental issues and calling him all sorts of useless attacks like needy/insecure etc is "on point "?
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Three girls travelling by themselves around South America :).
They are going to get hit on by hundreds of guys during their trip. I personally would not let my girlfriend do this if she wants to travel around south america she can do it with me. If she says no then i would say good luck and shes on her own.
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Totally agree with answer 
I would friend zone her asap and see what she does.
If she stays, keep her, if not let her go.
That’s what I would do in your situation.
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That’s not what I was referring to.
Why do you guys think most men have a problem with their girlfriends and wives traveling by themselves or with other girls? Why do even men who agree with their women wanting girl’s trips have an uncomfortable feeling about it and have to convince themselves that it is okay? Because it stems from a biological urge in men to ensure paternity of their children.
Let me explain. If a man sleeps with several women and they all give birth, we know who the father and mother of each child is. If a woman sleeps with several men and she gets pregnant, who is the father of the child? Without paternity tests, we don’t know who it is.
And because of lack of paternity tests in the past, Mother Nature has ingrained in men to be overprotective of their wives to ensure that the children their women bear are theirs. Nothing hits a man harder than realising years later that the children they are raising aren’t theirs.
Now you might think this isn’t 1950. It is 2023, Lion. Sure it is. But is our biology updated? We still have the same programming that cavemen have to know what their women are doing.
And women do too. In an age where there is more protection and provision for women by the state, women still want men who are muscular, stronger, taller, richer, more experienced than them etc. So do we shame women for their needs? Call them insecure for not wanting a shorter, poorer, weaker man? Sure she might have dated some but did she stay with him for the rest of their lives?
Nope. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with him or any other man having this requirement.
The very fact that she wants to go by herself and with other women is an indicator of disinterest with her man else she would have asked him to come along with her. It doesn’t matter if he is wrong for it is he who gives the relationship to his woman just as it is she who gives sex to the man. It is he who bends on one knee to ask her to marry him.
How many times have women rejected men for wearing the wrong clothes, not being confident enough or any other metric they can conjure up to disqualify men from entering them? And that is CORRECT! That is the way it should be.
In the same manner, it is the man who qualifies or disqualifies the women from the relationship cause she takes his last name. And a man has no need for women who will tarnish that name.
Once again, there is nothing needy, insecure, or any other shaming language used to make him think and bow to a woman’s way of thinking on this matter just because he is not a woman. There is no trauma or lack of self-esteem or having a wrong view of women.
There is more frame, confidence, non-neediness, self-esteem, courage in telling her exactly what type of women he likes. There is no need to change him if he is not that kind of guy.
Maybe she should listen to Heartsong or Love Bomb for Humanity for a change lol.
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This is an opinion based on a belief. If it were fact, it’d have the same meaning for all men. Which it doesn’t.
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