Like when women post thirst pics on instagram just to get attention, knowing full well that they would never go for those guys who are in their comments calling them beautiful etc. For my case its giving them attention that they didn’t earn
You can see this is a normal flirting, do not think too much about what you can get. Simply flirt with her and enjoy.
I have been flirting here and there with girls I meet in gym or outside, I think of this as practice flirting and getting used to it with girls. What suprises me is that many girls like it, many of them smiles and lift up when seeing and talking to me.
I enjoy it now lol.
This isn’t a financial traction. If you don’t feel you’re getting anything (even enjoying hr company) then stop.
That’s the ting, is he actually flirting? What exactly is giving her free attention
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Well the thing is in the past she has said that we were just friends, this was during WB. She said that we were friends and started treating me like a younger brother. She liked me at some point but I don’t know what happened.
So when I flirt now with her it’s like mehhh, thats cute, but when is so and so gonna flirt with me vibe. At least thats how it comes of when I talk with her but it could just be my insecurities reflected on her idk
I did stop for awhile and when I would stop, she would reengage communication with me. Its like when I show attraction she’s repelled, when I don’t she starts to come back and flirts back In her way…touching me, holding strong eye contact etc
I would flirt a little with her but didn’t go overboard. Still I could tell the way she reacted with me vs a guy she was actually attracted to was night and day. She would flirt with me but it was like she’s flirting with to get my attention after I haven’t spoke with her for awhile
I’m curious, when someone says they’ve used a sub for 3 months, are they counting only the processing days, processing days + rest days in between, and does this apply too when running microloops
I’ve always been confused once I switched over to microloops, when I used to do full 15 mins, I could feel the sub lasted for days on end but microloops, I’m not sure
Don’t overthink it. They’re likely talking about calendar months; those are universal and much easier to grasp than cycles. When I say I’ve been playing Dream Boy for 8 months, I’m saying it’s been in my stack for 8 months. Anything process vs rest days or microloops is a completely different conversation.
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Good to know because I’ve had one of my QTKS in my stack since may 22nd but haven’t reached 30 processing days yet. I’ve had to take mini breaks in between(3-5 days off) with my micro loops schedule so just wanted to make sure I was on the right track, because sometimes I feel like I’m not using the sub nearly as much as I should in terms of processing days
Again, don’t overthink this. It’s perfectly find and even advised to take frequent breaks (e.g., more rest days). I do a MWF listening schedule (over 10 weeks), so my weeks have 4 built in rest days. Some folks have seen results listening to subs once a week.
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Recon has been bad and has made me not want to journal
just a few things
- I remember last night laying in my bed, thinking, what am I doing with my life, where am I going
- Replaying past mistakes and just feeling less then
- insecurities popping up like, a few weeks ago we had this one guy start working with us in my job and all of a sudden I start feeling jealous like what if the woman I like likes him more etc
- Feelings of low self worth, like I’m below everyone
- Feeling like I’ll be start this way forever and that I’ve reached my plateau and can’t go any further in terms of growth
Trying to explain this(me feeling like crap, doubting myself, nervous) to people when they see you and you don’t know how to tell them that this is just temporary, you don’t have to worry about me, and that this state I’m in will pass and that its just my subconscious bringing everything that needs to be addressed so I can elevate to where I need to be…is like explaining quantum physics to a 6 year old
The one word that I’ve come to hate is “everything good?”
I know people mean well when they ask it but it makes me feel like I’m coming off as like a nervous emotional wreck or something and then I have to remind myself, I’m just in the healing process, so everything is muddied through those lens
Why the condensation? You’ve literally just explained what you’re feeling. Most folks could grasp what you’re talking about
And how are you addrdssing them exactly? It feels like you’ve been here before. These are deep rooted foundational issues. They weren’t temporary
For one, journaling. I also do this course that was created by Jordan Peterson on addressing past issues. The rest of the issues coming up, I’m trying to figure out how to resolve them. Whether through therapy or other means
Its not that most people don’t grasp what I’m talking about, they do, its when I try to explain to them(at least the people in my circle) that I’m using a sub that is causing this…I usually say I’m doing some self reflection through a program that brings up a lot of stuff…because if I mention subs they look at me like I have three heads or whatever…then proceed to tell me why I’m just harming myself putting myself through the pain of addressing my past, trauma, insecurities etc
They are of the mindset that subliminals are only used by certain secret societies to control people…I know I probably need to change my circle
That’s honestly the best answer you can give.
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I keep forgetting that I have like a major healing title and iam atman synergy…so I’ve been on a 3 day washout.
The few things I’ve noticed
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There must be something deep being healed because every time I’ve been doing some heavy healing, I’ve always relapsed on porn or masturbation as a coping mechanism…its not healthy but its a barometer that lets me know that my world is collapsing and a new world is emerging
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There was a strong urge to add another sub again. Instead of dropping the sub, its like my brain wants to add more load so the progress is slower
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I feel like I got run over by a truck
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I do seem to get some interesting reactions from women. The other day I said hi to one woman at work and she said hi but it was like a hi handsome type of tone.
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I’ve been kind of on a don’t give a fuck attitude. Less needy, huge success online but not translating into real dates
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I’ve made peace with some of my past, things that would usually bring up emotional pain don’t anymore. I still have. long ways to go though because I have more healing
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I’ve had random people at work offer me food, people I know buy me stuff , lots of free stuff etc
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I’ve also had this weird observation thing, where it’s like I’m observing my thoughts from a glass mirror. Like when I get needy and I find myself getting needy, I start to like ask myself “what are you doing, why are you being needy to her, its going to turn her off quick” or something along the lines. I’ve become more cognizant of things like that. When I start doing a behavior counterintuitive to the script, my inner voice inside me starts to question me like “what are you doing”
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I’ve been finding it way easier though to befriend guys. These past couple of weeks have been a cake walk. I have guys befriending me left and right, asking for my number, going out of their way to help me etc.
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Guys seem to be more buddy buddy with me, women on the other end, not so much. I do get stares and looks from women but it’s short lived.
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These past couple of days have been interesting
- I was being social with everyone
- People randomly saying hi at work, people I didn’t know
- one lady at work, I feel, wants me to fuck her but I’m not sure. The last time we communicated, she used a very sexually suggestive word to describe something I was asking about, related to work. I’m not sure if she uses if she talks that way with friends, I don’t know.
- I took a 5 day washout after doing 15 mins…it was a bad idea because my head still throbs with headaches and I sleep long, long hours, like 10 hours.
- Porn and masturbation urges are pretty much gone for now
- For whatever reason, talking to guys has become super easy while using inner circle. I just talk and boom, they are engaged. But it depends also on how I’m feeling. I have been feeling a little anxious and on edge
- For the first time in my life, I feel like, even with all the hurdles I’ve been going through, I feel like I can overcome them
- I’m planning on taking a two week washout, we’ll see how long that goal lasts
That is quite the leap. Wfen if she was being flirty that doesnt necessarily mean she wants sex. Some folks just like flirting and crossing boundaries.
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Probably, from that context alone. But from prior behavior she has shown a high indication of sexual interest. Like initiating touch, initiating conversation. One time she told me about her sex life, but that was a long time ago though. Small things like that.
But I get what you mean though, she could just be flirty or trying to cross boundaries…or be a little edgy
I’ve had several women wanting to hookup, one thats attractive. All from online dating, but recon…no my old beliefs… has been making me feel like not doing anything. I want to do something, I go through with the action, only to cancel at the last minute out of habit, or fear or something else entirely. It’s like having the will to do something but not the power to follow it through. I take action, only to sabotage the progress I’ve made and I keep asking myself like wtf. It’s like I take action, then do something that reverses that action and I’m back to square one.
Honestly, right now, if I didn’t sabotage my success, I would be sleeping with three women on a consistent basis
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