one of the things that I’ve always struggled since I was young is approaching women I was attracted to and found attractive. I would overthink everything and ruin the interaction but recently I realized something profound…
I’ve always been afraid to approach women to ask them out or whatever, or simply talk to them, unless I didn’t focus on approaching them to get an outcome that would lead to a date or whatever.
For example, I once went to a new city for a new job and was lost. I didn’t know where to go, so I saw a local(assuming since she was walking a dog), an attractive woman, who I asked for directions and she was happy to help me. She even wished me good luck on the job. I was dressed pretty professional too. There was no hesitation in approach because I was more focused on getting to the job on time than the woman. I had more to lose if I didn’t approach the woman to ask for directions, since she was the only one around and I would be late to my interview.
So now, if I can approach tons of women, asking for directions, and look genuinely lost, I think I can trick my brain to approach tons of women without hesitation…if I’m in a new city, or not at work lol
I also realized that if I spend the whole day talking to someone, whether a man or woman, approaching women becomes so easy. The only issue is that only happens when I’m training someone for work when I have to be with them for 8 hours, but afterwards, I feel confident enough to approach anybody…if I’m with that person.
