I need more exposure towards “not engaging in unimportant arguments”.
So far, I have done that pretty well.
I often choose to let it hang or let myself “lose”.
It is a losing game. I lose precious time & effort whether I win or lose.
More importantly, I risk losing the opportunity to get a deeper insight into why someone holds their belief if I only pay attention to proving myself.
But, I need more exposure to train myself to spot the impulses that start the argument to begin with.
The impulse to “correct” someone, to prove myself, to be on top.
There are times & places where these are great to use, but blindly following them is stupid.
That’s why I need to be more aware & familiar with them.
I have a higher purpose to achieve.
My focus is my work, it is often more beneficial to lose an unimportant argument than to win one.
It saves time, effort, resources etc. It also comes with a plethora of benefits for insight, creativity, practical applications, and more.
All for the price of “losing”.
This is not a perfect approach either.
Back then, I used to overshoot this “better to lose” mentality and let myself get trampled on important matters. Experimentation & finding the balance is essential.
What it is, is the best approach for my growth & my goals.
Being open minded is a painful process.
You have to constantly get over your own ego to truly understand others.
The goal is personal growth, and growth is not always comfortable.
This is why I’m considering E:WTP.
Spotting manipulation, understanding the nature of power etc.
All of these are important to spot which argument should I approach, what should I win/lose, and how to do it best. Losing without actually losing what’s important, Winning without losing what’s important.
Limitless, RM:UA, NR, E:WTP. the list of subs that I want to use grows.
I wish there’s a sub that’s solely for open mindedness. It requires analytical skills, creativity, understandings about many things, and the willingness to go into the trenches to get your own hands dirty. You can only gain so much by just theorizing anyway.
I bet such a sub would be a recon nightmare though. It has to be at least a multistager sub, the user has to be eased into the mindset. with many warnings about how you need to have a great foundation before taking on this turbulent journey.
I doubt they would ever make one, rofl.