Great book! The audio version is very good too.
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Heck yes. I’ve listened to it like 30 times at least. That’s also another technique, making a statement instead of asking a question. It can draw out more info from a person. Sometimes it might be more effective if the statement is inaccurate, because humans tend to find it irresistible to correct another person. Which can lead to them revealing more than they intended.
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Yeah. Labeling. That’s what I did 
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I’ve been heavily processing a lot since beginning this stack.
Working through a lot of past hurts and traumas in sleep world. 
Noticing protector parts more clearly. It’s almost a bit freakish how conscious I am now of my parts. They aren’t blending in as much with my true Self. I am separating myself from the parts more easily when in conflict having triggering moments.
I am having more confidence with leading from Self.
I noticed a part that enjoys being upset and getting treated badly. I noticed a part that enjoys when others are upset and suffering.
The thing is that they aren’t blended or burdened anymore.
I understand that they aren’t bad, they were just given not so great roles to keep my exiled parts safe.
I feel very blessed and grateful for all the discoveries I have made since finding Sub club and this community.
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You’re the only other person I know on this forum that does IFS so I wanted to ask you. Do you ever feel like you get long term blending at times when running these subs? I’ve noticed for the past week I was heavily blended and didn’t realize it until I had a breakdown and that child part was heard. Self energy is still quite a mysterious concept for me, I feel like I ping pong a lot between parts more often than not.
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I feel like I am far less blended. Probably helps that I Do trauma informed practices as well.
I also work with a really good IFS therapist.
What have you been doing to connect more to your Self energy?
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I’ve mostly been working on letting parts have their say and express themselves without having an agenda. That alone has been pretty difficult. There’s always a protector that sort of wants to steer the interaction like there can be a right or wrong outcome.
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Do you have an imaginary meeting room for all parts to be present? Sometimes a part needs privacy and the others can go in the waiting area until it feels safe to talk amongst the rest.
No parts are wrong.
You want to depolarize with the Self leading the process.
Edit: you can also schedule parts meetings and follow through if you’re not able to do it in that triggering moment.
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Hmmmm I do have an open forum, but I haven’t considered a private room.
These are all really good ideas I’ll have to incorporate.
I used to have a therapist that did IFS but I lost her after my insurance changed. So it’s been a little more difficult to get things structured.
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Manager’s Meeting! 
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Just purchased perfume for the first time in over a decade!
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Looking forward to beginning wash out in a couple days! This has been a difficult yet rewarding stack.
I’ve had some of the most vivid and intense processing dreams. I’m not getting stuck in deep recon though.
I am doing much better at making sure I prioritize my own needs ahead of others.
My partner was going into protector parts territory yesterday. I told him I was going on airplane mode to read and then sleep. I slept 7 hours straight in peace. 
I am not taking things so personally anymore.
I am becoming much more mindful of how I respond to conflict.
Thinking lots about what I want to execute in my business. I want to monetize on my creativity in different ways.
I still need to make a book cover for my erotic romance novel I finished earlier this year. 
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Back from washing out for 4 days with the same stack…. AoW, ASBR and Seductress.
I am gonna listen to AoW solo and alternate listening days with the other 2.
Day 1 ~ full loop of AoW
Had a reiki client session right after finishing listening and it went really well.
I’ve been getting much better at being less reactive with my words during conflicts. I’m enjoying the results from this title!
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I had a lot of anger come up before bed last night. I allowed myself to sit with whatever was present without reaching for something to soothe the discomfort. I had all sorts of protector parts present within me saying a lot of unkind things. They were in conflict and disagreement.
I found myself resolving while asleep.
AoW is something else… I don’t have the right words just yet to explain the intensity of what this title is doing for me… for the better!
It’s wild how I’ll have this thought to say something pretty aggressive and I am able to let it go and say something kinder.
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Day 3 ~ Seductress 10mins & SB full loop
My dreams have been so vivid and full of a variety of themes.
It seems like I am processing a lot while asleep.
I had a bit of an anger outburst with my partner yesterday. I recognized that it was a firefighter part stepping in due to my whole system feeling threatened by the things that were happening.
I noticed thoughts of wanting to physically fight my partner. I am glad I didn’t resort to that behaviour. In my past I have resorted to violence from a reactive state when feeling threatened by the person I was dating.
I am speaking for my protector parts and not from them. It’s important to separate and unblend from those protectors and do the healing work. I am no longer identifying as my parts.
I am grateful for this stack and the layers I am working through with it.
It’s definitely a bit more challenging. I see the benefits though.
😮💨
Day 4 ~ rest
Feeling much better today. 
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This stack is pretty challenging for me 
Riding the wave though…
Going deeper into myself… discovering all sorts of things to reintegrate back into wholeness…
I’ve had so much anger and sadness come up and out… feeling combative and defensive at times… these triggers are important messengers and are offering feedback into the deeper spaces of my Mind and Body…
It’s better out than in! Working on channeling that energy into productivity rather than distractions!
Going to way more yoga classes lately at a couple different studios outside of my regular gym classes. That sense of community and like hearted connection is quite nurturing for my soul.
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