I love the photo 
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I don’t see any tension from my end, but you have gradually become more and more radiant and comfortable in your own skin, even trying on sexy.
Bear in mind it’s a brave thing to even show ourselves to the public online, so you’re to be congratulated on that. 
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Don’t be bummed. There’s a calm quiet confidence in your recent photo. I think it looks great! It looks like the seductress goals are manifesting outwardly more for sure.
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Thank you 
I agree 
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You look so peaceful 
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New stack:
Emperor: The Art of War (AoW)
A Stark Black Reality (SB)
Seductress
I think I’ll pair AoW & SB together and alternate listening days with Seductress.
I purchased this book today on Amazon:
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You purchased this book today?
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Yep
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Yep?
lol. I was trying the mirroring technique from the book. It’s pulling the last few words from a person’s sentence, and repeating them back as a question, and then they’ll usually provide further information.
One of my fav books. I wish it had an audio summary like How To Win Friends and Influence People. I found a good summary of that it’s like an hour long and I listen daily.
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My initial reaction was to give more information. That’s funny!
A summary would be great.
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Another simple one is when somebody makes a request of you you say, How am I supposed to do that? It sort of gets them to pull back their demands in a negotiation. Like when someone makes their demands.
“How am I supposed to do that?” is a powerful negotiation tactic, particularly when dealing with aggressive demands or difficult situations. It’s a “calibrated question”, designed to shift the focus from confrontation to collaboration and problem-solving. Essentially, it prompts the other party to consider the practical implications of their request and work with you to find a solution.
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Sounds like you’re fond of the book
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Great book! The audio version is very good too.
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Heck yes. I’ve listened to it like 30 times at least. That’s also another technique, making a statement instead of asking a question. It can draw out more info from a person. Sometimes it might be more effective if the statement is inaccurate, because humans tend to find it irresistible to correct another person. Which can lead to them revealing more than they intended.
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Yeah. Labeling. That’s what I did 
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I’ve been heavily processing a lot since beginning this stack.
Working through a lot of past hurts and traumas in sleep world. 
Noticing protector parts more clearly. It’s almost a bit freakish how conscious I am now of my parts. They aren’t blending in as much with my true Self. I am separating myself from the parts more easily when in conflict having triggering moments.
I am having more confidence with leading from Self.
I noticed a part that enjoys being upset and getting treated badly. I noticed a part that enjoys when others are upset and suffering.
The thing is that they aren’t blended or burdened anymore.
I understand that they aren’t bad, they were just given not so great roles to keep my exiled parts safe.
I feel very blessed and grateful for all the discoveries I have made since finding Sub club and this community.
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You’re the only other person I know on this forum that does IFS so I wanted to ask you. Do you ever feel like you get long term blending at times when running these subs? I’ve noticed for the past week I was heavily blended and didn’t realize it until I had a breakdown and that child part was heard. Self energy is still quite a mysterious concept for me, I feel like I ping pong a lot between parts more often than not.
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I feel like I am far less blended. Probably helps that I Do trauma informed practices as well.
I also work with a really good IFS therapist.
What have you been doing to connect more to your Self energy?
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