Not sure if this is a PCC “manifestation” but I’ve come across an article that teaches others to be an ethical A**hole. This basically diagnosis the society-wide issue we have with making decisions based off of how we personally feel, or how we think others would react once we say or do something. It’s how ppl screw themselves over. I’m paraphrasing but it encourages speaking one’s truth at the cost of both one’s own feelings and the person or group that a point needs to be made to.
Sometimes we don’t say something not because we fear how the other person would feel, but we actually fear feeling bad, for making someone else feel bad. So this article recommends “getting good at feeling bad” in order to say what needs to be said, for the sake of the greater good.
I’ll admit that I’ve been fusing this principle with the ownership mentality for the past couple hours and I’m EVEN LESS bothered by any negative thoughts that have been arising, which aren’t many. Basically, I don’t care about even my own emotions, at least not enough to let them knock me off center. Yes I’ve been acknowledging they exist and processing and channeling them, but not getting attached to them.
*Quick note: My ex bitched at me again yesterday, didn’t mention it because any drama she throws at me has literally become laughable to me. I mention it now because this morning, she can see that after I said what I said, and told her to have a great day, I didn’t respond to anything she text me afterwards. She’s now communicating with me in a respectful manner. I was tempted to state logical facts with her, but she always looks for things to pick apart, so I simply said f**k it and enjoyed the rest of my day yesterday. Apparently it was the most effective move to make. Her reaction from yesterday and today has simply revealed to me that since I care less about the outcome of our interactions, and even the welfare of our relationship as human beings, I hold the power between the two of us.
