My advice is don’t be afraid of negative self talk.
When you have negative self talk, it’s a lie.
You know that, I know that, the world knows that.
Everybody knows that it’s a lie.
Anchoring yourself to that understanding is the first step, but it’s not enough.
You see, the thing about lies… is that the only way they lose their power, is by being overshadowed by truth.
If I believe that the sky is purple (lie), then the only way I’ll stop believing it is if I start believing that the sky is blue (truth). See, you have to believe in something about the sky, otherwise there would be no sky.
This is the thing about negative self-talk.
Very often, you will see people have negative thoughts and then try to defeat it or overwrite it.
“That’s not true”.
“This is just a lie”.
/distract
/ignore
/laugh at it
/overwrite (affirmations)
Voices in head: You are trash.
Person: I am worthy and deserving.
Overwriting is the right direction, but you need to go further. Deeper.
“I am worthy and deserving” is indeed the truth, but to make that truth more powerful… it must be explored. It must be expanded. It must be given deeper contexts, that vibrate and shift. Things that are tangible to your psyche. Things that cannot be refuted no matter how much effort is given in doing so.
Think in the realm of philosophizing. Deep-thinking. Exploration of world, nature and fundamentals. That which is around you and always has been.
Bring it back a bit. Bring it back from this artificial shit hole we call modern day society. Where everything is comparison, inadequacy and narcissism.
One thing that helps me is being in nature. When you tune into nature, you detach from the narrow artificial world and automatically start expanding in perception. It becomes easier to see truth.
Truth is in nature, it’s in art, it’s in creativity, it’s in individuality. Get to the roots of what it means to be human. Think beyond the scope of the first 20 or so years of your life where you are pretty much indoctrinated into a system and taught by everyone to hate yourself.
Generational trauma + sent straight into the education system.
Nature this, nature that. Is it not human nature to be narcissistic and compare yourself to others? To perhaps in that process feel inadequate or less than?
Of course it is. But you want to know what’s also human nature?
The capacity to Grow. Evolve. Transcend. Create.
The power to bend reality like a fucking ruler.
Oh, I’ll indulge you in “human nature.”
We are wolves in sheeps clothing. Human nature is the sheep’s clothing and the instinctive urge to see beyond it in the mirror. The wolf is you. The creator of your reality.
That is what we are.
There are stages, there are levels. This is a video game.
Level 1 might be self-hatred or worthlessness.
Level 2 might be self-love and self-worth.
Growth.
Level 1 is not human nature and neither is level 2.
Human nature is the moving from level 1 to level 2.
Easier said than done. Life is like a video game, but not without its challenge.
Dark Souls doesn’t have shit on this.
When I play a video game like WoW and meet a horde of enemies or a raid a boss… I don’t get emotionally invested in why I’m struggling. I understand the game through patience, reassess my strategies and see what I can learn to grow better.
The practice I would recommend, is self-exploration. Without judgement. Then exploration of truth.
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Where do these thoughts come from? Where does this negative self talk come from?
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“Okay, cool I understand.” Compassion to yourself and those involved in playing a part in creating it (very important because you don’t want to hold onto things. Move forward into your ideal reality because when you’re in heaven, you won’t care about the past anyways).
Yes, we grow up with all sorts of traumas. I grew up in a low income household living off of canned soup, where I was constantly criticized and told I was “useless”. I was berated for not meeting high expectations like getting straight A’s on my report card. I was constantly compared to other more successful kids and had it ingrained in my mind that I was not good enough. I was constantly put under pressure to look a certain way and the lack of self-care and self-esteem created a self-fulfilling loop to where I didn’t eat properly and people would then comment on my weight making me even more insecure. This spiraled over time cultivating a weak and inadequate sense of self into my teenage years and I ended up hating myself. I spent a good 2 years working on nothing but self-love… much of that being me scrambling in the dark trying to identify the core issue within myself.
This is why when I see people downplay fundamental things to mental well-being such as your self-worth or self-love as being “hippy” or whatever the fuck… you can imagine how pissed off I get.
These people quite frankly haven’t developed, or they’ve never had it rough. I’m one of those rare cases that as been on all sides of the coin, and that’s where I gain a lot of my confidence from. I am the definition of growth. In all areas of life, I’ve been at the “lowest” end. I’ve had life threatening health issues, zero success with women while being the pinnacle beta male, super nice guy with no boundaries, treated like a door matt shit rag for other people to take advantage of, completely out of shape, no job and financially dependent, etc.
The list goes on. I’m not resentful, angry or regretful about my past, the hands I was dealt, the people who treated me poorly, or the “unfairness” of life. They’re all growth stimulators telling me what I need to change in my perception to have a better experience.
Without those kind of struggles, I would have never found subliminals and learned how to actualize my power.
Now I’m kicking ass in all areas of life, in a way that is sometimes surreal. When you’re in that heaven on earth state of mind, it’s really just joy, gratitude and happiness. You look at the past and it’s just love for everything.
- Exploration of truth.
Society teaches us to either sedate or escape from these negative thoughts. People don’t often like to be alone because the demons come knocking on the door.
When in fact they are not demons… they are a growth mechanism.
You’re supposed to open the door, have a chat over tea, and whip out the shotgun full of 12 gauge truth shells.
The more you explore the Truth, is when the Lie loses its power.
Truth is like the 11/10 smoking hot beautiful goddess (or god), and the Lie is the nasty old resentful witch. The witch gets her attention and power through distraction. Through deception.
When Truth is in the room, the witch becomes invisible. Her existence becomes nothing.
“Poor witch”, you would think. But no.
She’s important too, because without her you don’t go through the growth necessary to embrace Truth.
And for that, the witch is also appreciated. Also loved, and accepted for the important role that she played.
Cheers lol. Keep kicking ass.
