It’s a great thing you’re wiling to change yourself to improve your relationship, but as @Parsifal mentioned, I also think your wife could help take a part in it, it would make everything so much easier and better, have you ever talked to her about the subs and do you think she’d be willing to listen to it as well?
No, I haven’t. I could not do it because of the so many “sexual subs” on Subclub. She is VERY jealous and alone titles like " Emperor: Subliminal Audio for Wealth, Empire Building and Increased Sex" would have made her very mad. To give an example of her jealousness: I can not talk at home about female co-workers or mention any of them. Everytime I did it, it was hell unleashed. So the only solution is, that I don’t mention them, etc. 
well you can use it to improve sex life with one partner. Unless she wants to have bad sex life with you, I don’t see the reason for jealousy lol
Also, you could both run heartsong. That would cure jealousy, I think
I introduced my girlfriend to subliminals. We went through some arguments after we both started it (recon lol) but it has improved the relationships overall, though the arguments were unpleasant.
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It’s sad to hear how insecure she is, she could really use Seductress for higher self esteem so she wouldn’t be so jealous, it must be so painful for her to live with this sort of emotional weight, no wonder she gives you a hard time, you are brave to stay with her and take this on yourself. If I had to suffer from a relationship this way I would like to get paid for it, only as a therapist I would take this kind of shit from others honestly, I mean unless I know the person is actively working on themselves to improve, then I can be tolerant and understanding and patient.
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Thank you for your supporting words. It’s really complicated.
Thank you @TheEmpress for this wonderfull text. It describe a lot that is going on in me actually. I repost it here for my own reference.
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This poem of Dr Seuss reappeared today in my life:
You have brains in your head
and feet in your shoes,
you can steer yourself in any
direction you choose!
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You can also try Elixir it’s calming
If she’s hot and you love her
And she’s faithful
Don’t divorce
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09.10.24: 15 min Khan Black Stage 3 (morning)
Khan Black (Stage 3) is crazy. Despite the very heavy decision I have to make, I have energy like never before and feel really energized and lively.
09.10.24: 15 min Emperor (late afternoon)
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Today a coworker noticed my high-energy level and asked what happened. I should have said “Khan Black Stage 3 happened” 
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11.10.24: 15 min Khan Black Stage 3 (early morning)
11.10.24: 15 min Emperor (early morning)
That quote above is a very good summary of the two titles, adapted to my situation. But here the trouble starts. Of course I want to remove all troubles from my relationship and don’t want that my wife get’s angry. But given the framework I’m beliving in, that everything that happens to me is my responsibility or at least I play a role in the behavior of my wife, Sanguine seems to be a good choice, too.
Yesterday I started listening to Boundaries in Marriage and it revealed a lot of things I could have done different or better in the past, that facilitated the current situation. My current situation is, not to release my wife of any responsibility of her behaviour, also an outcome of my own behavior and lack of setting boundaries, etc. And here, I think Sanguine can be of great help.
During this week I discovered, that my wife really loves me, but that she has a hard time not falling in behavior that does not facilitate love but the opposite (childhood trauma thing).
My concern with Heartsong is the follwing: as I run Phoenix and Love Bomb For Humanity earlier this year I grew more empathetic and loving. But that had a backslash to it. Because I understand her better and could feel her pain more, etc. I weakened boundaries more, because I thought it would help her, overcome things. So I had accomplished the opposite effect of what I wanted. For Heartsong I have the concern that I also will lean more into her wantings instead of my own well-beeing.
I’d advice you to do some proper research on HS.
Read the copy a few times, read the thread, some journals, some posts (Especially of Iron).
It’s not like they advertise HS as a miracle cure for damaged relationships. HS often leads to difficult and unangenehme conversations.
But in the end the relationship gets better.
It helps you heal all your wounds concerning relationships. So I firmly believe, that you will not just make you weaken your boundaries.
Rather the opposite. You’ll be able to communicate your boundaries in a loving way so she can accept them easier.
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Thank you!
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Washout from Friday until Thursday.
That’s so true. Friday I felt big on energy, Khan Black Stage 3 full on, that led to a big confrontation in my relationship where a lot came out on the table. It made it clear that my wife is BIG into me and loves me deeply, but has some troubles with insecurities and difficult behavior. We made big steps towards a better relationship and I could establish some boundaries and nonnegotiables. The inner frame Emperor and Khan Black are building inside me, is astonishing. It helped to lead the conversations the right way and I could make clear where some boundaries lie that are not to be crossed.
I will follow @Parsifal advice and will add Heartsong as my third title, as soon as the next cycle is over (next cycle is Emperor and Khan Black Stage 4).
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Perhaps throw in a full loop of HS before washout. That’s how I often introduce new subs 
Nice idea
I’m in washout since Friday, but yesterday I had a BIG low and I decided to run a loop of LBFH. The result was quick. I felt released, the rest of the day was very productive and easy going.
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Clicked through and read until the end here.
With Khan Black already in your stack…I would offer for your consideration the stack of
Primal Romance
Emperor Daddy
Khan Black
EmpD and PRom have been instantly noticeable in improving my marital life.
Just my 2 slices!
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Thank you @PizzaShaman for your two very insightful posts. I already considered replacing Emperor with Emperor Daddy, so that will happen soon
Also, your insights on Primal Romance are appealing to me. I don’t know why, but I have some reservations about Heartsong, not so about Primal Romance (the description appeals more to me, than the Heartsong one).
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Then just go for PR.
Saint even confirmed that it replaced HS for healing relationships. So go for it.
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