Reflections
Alright, I’ve got some time to reflect now. Phoenix got me to think and feel very critically. That’s how I knew the sub was doing its job because I was feeling some strong emotions that I hadn’t felt in quite some time. During this age of prosperity, it was certainly unusual to feel these feelings. Today, I’m going to structure this journal based on what my plans are for the future (including subliminal runs) and the thoughts surrounding said plans.
Let’s start with the big change: I’ve decided that I’m going to move out of my area. I intend to move far away, practically to the other side of the country in fact. I’ve only told my close friends, not my family yet. They’ll know soon enough, as I intend to dedicate a significant portion of time with them after they know about this. One key trip I did earlier this year helped me decide this, but the notion of moving out of my area has been in my mind for more than a year (in fact, one can find my SC journal entries from '22 which discuss this idea).
There are a lot of events that are going to occur before that move next year, but when they are done, this desire will compel me to take massive action to leave this area. I’m leaving as soon as I can. To summarize why, I’ll say that I’ve gotten everything I’ve wanted to out of staying in this area, and what I want next is much better served by moving to the destination. That place has a much better city life and is far superior for social and—you guessed it—dating life. Get ready for me to explain (and perhaps rant) a bit.
I’ve tried my hand at dating here and unfortunately, it’s disappointing. Without getting into too many details I’ll mention that the notoriety of this region being bad for dating and social life has made itself evident in my experience. My friends who also live in the area can only (unfortunately) agree with me on this point, especially those friends who have traveled extensively and/or lived elsewhere. I did know about the region’s reputation for being a bad area for dating when I first moved out of my parents’ place but still wanted to give living here for a bit a shot (not to mention, I wasn’t quite ready for moving so far back then). Everyone I know who found relationships after college while living in this area has done so through systems (e.g. long-distance or arranged marriage) which I will never buy into. I know that I want to have a long-term in-person relationship with all of the awesomeness (and yes, complexity) that comes with it.
Social stuff has been pretty bad, too due to the boring suburban environment that doesn’t offer many things to do in the towns. It’s reflected in the people, too. Lots of cliques. So many homebodies who I would not have been able to meet were it not through other friends. I’m glad a lot of friends from college stayed in the area, since that’s how I had met them. I thought about how these people had met and what they usually do and realized that no matter how outgoing I could become in the area, I would’ve never met them! This is a huge problem given the nature of my entire subliminal stack—for me to progress in results with WB and SSX I should going out often and putting myself in situations to meet women, for example. But the girls* I met through my guy friends rarely went out to events or anything like that. They had met through the apps (and just so you know, these people have broken up since).
So due to the above I also hold the position that I’m in the wrong environment for the subs to work at their best. Now, I will concede that part of the issue does lie within me. It’s not like I have amazing game or have gotten all I can out of the seduction titles here. Those skills need to improve. However, it’s hard to do that in the current region with it not being conducive to the in-person interactions I’d need to practice. Still, I was thinking about the importance of the skills for my journey. Several weeks back I was visiting relatives in the country my family is originally from. It’s a more conservative one, so things like arranged marriage are still relatively common there. In some discussions where this method was brought up (as well as similar ones where guys from say, the U.S. go find someone in the Philippines to marry and bring back) I pondered on the merits of such methods. While I once thought such methods weird, I found myself agreeing and even saying that I support those who’d go do such things. It’s like they’re sticking it to Western culture and how screwed up it’s become when it comes to dating and finding good stable relationships. However, just don’t suggest it to me—I’m not for it. I also realized that such methods work only when the people involved are strictly looking for certain criteria (most of which can be considered as that which makes a relationship sufficiently “traditional”). I know that the relationship I seek is uniquely going to come from one who is a product of Western culture, so the overseas marriage method cannot work for me.
Simply put, I’m just gonna have to get good. But that’s why I’ve been at SubliminalClub trying to find the best romance stack for a long time. I know I can get good results using the tech, I’ve read so many people’s entries about their amazing results using the various romance subliminals. It’s not like I can’t get good results with subs—there are a lot of runs that I’m happy with (looking at RICH, DR, Mind’s Eye, CHOSEN, UpX). Funnily enough, none of them are romance subs so far. And now, I’ve decided that alongside the sub run, I’m going to have to make a hard change by shifting my entire environment. That hard environmental trigger to move to a much more conducive environment (some might say it’s among the best in the country) for dating should make a monumental difference in my romantic development.
I know I’ve been a bit angrier about this since the middle of yesterday. Not a coincidence that I ran PHOENIX shortly before that time. It was especially triggered by a conversation with a good friend I had that evening at a party, when I also learned they’re moving out of the area. And they’re just like me—a native who’s grown up in the region and hitherto never left, working in the same industry. We shared notes (though not on dating, still including social stuff though) and found ourselves agreeing on nearly every single point. They’re making an even bigger jump by moving out of the entire country which I highly respect. Reflecting on that I realize right now that I feel upset not only because of the shortcomings of this area but also because I had duped myself into believing it was all perfect. (I should cut myself some slack, though, as I’ve always lived here and simply was resistant to this kind of change for a while.)
The important thing, now, though, is that I know what I need to do for the near future. The current plan for next year goes through the first half and is focused on getting myself to change massively. It’s why I already ran PHOENIX in preparation.
- January: Run Phoenix solo.
- After: Phoenix + WB + SSX. (I need the hard skills of SSX).
- +3 months: Re-evaluate the use of Phoenix, and keep WB and SSX.
- WB and SSX to be kept in my stack until key goals are accomplished (big one: the stable LTR) in the city I’m going to move to.
- I must be diligent on a romance stack in the way I was diligent on the Chosen-based stack until I got my key promotion.
Even once I’m done staying in the city (as I consider the move a temporary one), I don’t think I’ll move back to my hometown. I’ll be elsewhere to settle down. Where yet, I’m not sure yet, but it needs to be good for my life overall. It’s a place I’d want to buy a house, yet it can’t be so financially burdensome as to prevent me from traveling the whole world.
In a call earlier today, a good friend of mine suggested that buying a house isn’t a good idea for me since I want to travel the world. I thought about this and while the idea sounds appealing due to saving money, I realize that it’s not good to hold off on buying for life. A house can be useful, even as a home base. Real estate prices in all my desired areas just keep going up (as is the case in the lot of the developed world…), so I wouldn’t want to keep waiting until I suddenly can’t afford anything. I can also make it work financially by renting it out. However, I do want to meet another high-income earner (who also wants to travel the world with me) to make it easier.
This is all to say—I can’t wait to move out and start a new life, as well as let all the subs take me in a new direction!
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