I’m getting a lot of internal resistance writing this. I’m just gonna.
@RVconsultant , I saw this mid-day, and it’s been on my mind all day. And more specifically, I’ve been thinking over this all weekend. DR has been at work.
When I first saw your reply, I was defensive. I blamed you for upsetting my normal stride, what I normally do to stay in my bubble. On and off throughout the day, I was looking for some way to communicate my mix of irrational, fearful thoughts–and simultaneously hide this from myself. (Yeah, I do that)
I wonder “what IS my prize??” Over the weekend, when RM came out, I got a glimpse of what I’ve been doing here. I’ve been hiding myself here, fearfully following any person’s workable plan. It’s what I’ve always done, on autopilot. If I didn’t make waves, make noise, or piss anybody off…well, that’s been my major aim in life. Stay low, hide in some part of life where praise is received–and thus not face the danger of being rejected, or worse, abandoned. I did it in 12 step rooms for decades. I spent 10 years in college–to receive a 4 year degree. Again, my whole life aim is to live so…ahem…people will like me. Furthermore, why would I change my life if people liked me where I’m at now? (I’m doing this same thing at work too)
This last weekend, I began questioning what I actually wanted, using the subliminals. I’m assuming RM will allow my creativity to blossom. In contrast, … I’ve been running 1-2 loops of Emperor 4 daily since I got my custom St1. I began it as an experiment and pushed myself to stay on it. This last weekend, I realized that using Emperor is an exact clone of my pattern to fit in and be liked.
I decided today to stop running Emperor with DR. I came for a change, and Emperor was holding it back. Emperor also steeled my emotions up a little, so I wasn’t crying so frequently (more than once a day).
Honestly, I don’t have a (likeable) prize I can identify at this moment. My whole life I’ve either hid or mirrored everyone else. I’ve been around recovery rooms and have used subliminals to hide myself from…being abandoned. What I’m seeing is that I regularly abandon myself so I’ll “fit in”.
I’ve been doing too much, so it’s back to just DR and ultimas.
… something I realized before ever writing this post is–I’m angry. Not at myself. I’m angry I’m hiding from life year after year–hoping noone notices me. This pisses me off deeply, and it’s heartfelt. I really feel it.
Edit: change has never been my life’s goal. This is what is making me so uncomfortable and angry. I have been successful doing that. UUUGGGHHH!