May 28, 2022
Stage 1, Cycle 4
Last day of washout
I had a beautiful experience last night. I am becoming “the baby whisperer”. This post might be a novel.
My daughter’s young aunt has been here all this week, and she has 2 boys, one 3 years old, and the other 11 months. The aunt’s youngest is constantly hanging on her almost full-time since she’s a stay-at-home mom.
Well, my ex took her sister out for a girl’s night (only a few hours), and the kids were being cared for by the grandparents, both in their 60’s. I was downstairs minding my own, on my laptop. However, the baby did not stop crying once his mom left. Not once. I heard the grandma trying this, then trying that, all unsuccessfully. She even sought out my daughter who had 2 friends over. She tried, but to no avail. He still wailed loudly.
After maybe 45 minutes, I thought I’d at least make myself available to give them all some rest. I went up, grandma handed him to me, he settled for only seconds, then he resumed wailing and grandma took him back. After standing there with them about 20 minutes, I picked him back up. I had a plan.
He kept pointing out the door, then downstairs, and I obliged him. I knew what he sought, so I followed his pointing. He’d find out mom wasn’t there, and resume crying. I held him firmly, so he couldn’t keep wiggling away. I’d done this roughly 16 years back with my own daughter. I’d read an article sharing how this one nation had the most emotionally secure children, and the reason was they bind their children up and strap them to the mom’s body, likely so she can gather food throughout the day. Researchers had taken this info to see what happened to the kids that made them so secure. It evolved that holding a young child firmly while they cry and thrash sets off some mental and chemical reaction in them. A baby will finally surrender and relax in the arms of his carrier. He knows he’s ok. I still remember my daughter finally giving in and sleeping. She would sleep on my shoulder in the middle of a middle school basketball game after that, no joke.
And he cried and squirmed, wailed and wiggled, and sleep began coming closer to reality. I held him at least 30 minutes, and his breathing finally changed. Cries were only 3-5 seconds apart. I knew I’d succeeded when he finally let his head drop on my shoulder. Within 5 minutes, his breathing became very staggered, showing his exhaustion. He was falling asleep. And seconds later, his mom walked in the door. I whispered to her “perfect timing!”
I felt so proud of myself.