damn three posts deleted in a row is crazy hahaha
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Appreciate you bro
Respect the Body
as a worthy opponent, an excellent friend, and a harsh enemy.
Many people do not understand this, to our detriment.
Bonding with a Life and Sexual Partner
Now that I’m older (40 and up), I would be looking for a relaxed, friendly, respectful vibe. The ability to mesh well, cooperate, and complement each other on various projects, including the biggest project, ‘Building a Life Together’.
When I was younger, fiery attraction and sexual excitement played a larger role.
It still plays a role. And I think that’s good. And beautiful.
But this beauty (of attraction, of sexual intrigue and excitement) has a tendency to eclipse other important kinds of beauty. Things that we also care about, but that we may, in the heat of the moment, forget.
And that’s a choice being made by the intelligence of our bodies.
But since we don’t even recognize and respect the intelligence of the body in the first place, how will we even know what’s going on?
So we end up saying idiotic things like, ‘It just happened!’
That is arrogance. Nothing ‘just happens’.
But there are many things that I do not see or understand. My blindness to them does not mean that they ‘just happened’.
That is a pit we fall into when we lack humility.
So, respect the intelligence of the body, and then at least you will be able to dialogue and converse with that intelligence. Don’t exile it and relegate it to inane ‘sinfulness’.
The body has its reasons for what it does, and for the agendas that it pushes.
Learn to ask it and Ask it, to learn.
Be humble. And you might learn more than anyone else.
After 40? I can still make all of the dumb mistakes that I made before. I could make them today.
Sexual attraction and women are so compelling.
Power is power. Even after you understand it a little.
But yeah, I think I have a clearer appreciation for the incredible beauty of respectful, compatible connection. And an appreciation for discovering and confirming that connection through actions not just through my personality-fueled internal fantasies.
You’ve got to talk to people.
Got to maybe argue a bit.
Say your crazy wrong ideas.
Listen to theirs.
Let yourself be embarrassed at times.
Because this allows you to find out what your relationship really is to another.
Instead of trying to argue Reality into submission, and instead of putting your hands over your ears and just repeating what you want to be Real, allow reality to come in and influence you. Work with it like a dance partner or like how a sculptor works with clay.
Mutuality.
Uncomfortable, wonderful mutuality.
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Wow. I needed to hear that and I’m going to take a few days to fully integrate that. Thank you bro.
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Thank you too.
Sometimes you will just be glad that you are still alive and kicking when you are at age 40.
Nicelly said
I just saw this.