Wait what do you mean exactly, you were in a relationship and passed on so many hot chicks?
I mean I fell in love with a woman and so I only had eyes for her. I made the silly decision that that’s the one. And so even when hot chicks wanted me and actually propositioned me, it happened multiple times, I wouldn’t go for it. Even when I knew they liked me but didn’t proposition me, I didn’t shoot my shot.
So what I was saying is that if I got to go back and do it again. I’m shooting all my shots. For a long time I said I wouldn’t change a thing. But after the floor fell out with the one I was after, then my perception changed. I guess I was seeking happiness in another person. I would have saved all my money, worked on myself and slept with all the women. That’s what I would have done. lol. But you still gotta do what’s right for you, either way you’re gonna learn something and be a better person for it.
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I’ve already made peace with the fact that I may end up with nothing to show for my sacrifice, but within my control is how much I learn, take action, grow. So all I’m doing is increasing my odds of success, and i may fail but at least I know and die trying. I die giving it my all I’ll die content and peaceful. I don’t want the regret in the back of my mind that I didn’t give it my all heart and soul.
It will, I visualize it everyday to motivate me, to push through when I dont feel like it. . Idk for me success is a drug, I’ve tasted it and I’m addicted to it. It’s all I think about. And when i did achieve success I was magnetic to women, opportunity, adventure, it was amazing.
For me success is a life of freedom, love, adventure, creativity, fun, experiences and connections with people. Money just helps me achieve freedom so I can live a life of adventure that is true to me.
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I guess its choosing your regrets your comfortable with, and I’m okay with regretting not sleeping around or being a ladies man in my 20s.
Yea, if you don’t have one you’ve fallen in love with then you’re gonna be fine. My new model is I love women, I just don’t fall in love with them. It saves a lot of the hassle and yet I can still live life without regrets. I learned from it for sure. I did everything wrong with the one I wanted, and didn’t know I was doing everything right with all the rest.
It’s all about following your inner guidance. For me it’s not really a regret either. I’ve done so much of that inner work and still doing it. It’s just feelings, I guess I don’t call it regret, but maybe that’s what they call regret, lol. I’ve accepted it if anything. It is what it is.
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We all have a girl that we wished woulda played out differently, you love and you learn.
Sounds like an addict chasing a high. The high never lasts. The chasing always does though.
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Paradox of life.
Your current life situation was chosen and determined by someone who was too young to imagine what you’d want at this time.
You’re still dealing with the consequences of choices that you made at 3 years old.
But we make it work.
If you create a life plan at 25 years old, and you stick to it for the rest of your life, then that means your 60-year-old life is being managed by a 25 year old. Is he even qualified?
Your 40 year old self will be living (hopefully) in a world that does not yet exist.
Your planning can only go so far.
But at least you can develop strong habits and do some good things for yourself. So that general part I agree with.
Moderation seems important.
Sometimes people try to make 5 year plans here at Subliminal Club. It’s a good exercise, but it’s constrained by the fact that in the next 5 years there will be so much innovation that is not specifically included in your current plan.
As the guy said, " “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,/Than are dreamt of in your philosophy”
Anyway.
Try your best. In moderation. Some good will likely come of it.
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You wanna get on a celibacy period for 10 years… and then start dating at the age of 40?
My man, this is a terrible path.
You’ll be a 25 years old mature boy in a 40 years old body. Women expect much more from a 40yo than from a 25yo.
You’ll be profoundly disappointed.
From your post I’d say you need therapy instead of celibacy.
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In some pugilistic and martial arts, fighters are taught to aim and punch for a space behind the target. This level of complete commitment leads to a full-force punch.
The fist does not in reality reach that space.
Maybe that’s similar to the intention being expressed by @Dantes?
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I’m addicted to the chase and the results that’s just who I am and I love it
EXACTLY. I’m trying here to give it so much commitment that it becomes unreasonable and unrealistic for me to not reach my goals.
Fighters don’t have sex before fights sometimes for an entire year and they say it made them feel incredible. I’m on my 8 months rn and I feel incredible in every way. Yeah when I see women I feel a surge of desire but I redirect that energy to my work.
So yeah giving up sex for a decade may seem like a prison sentence but for me it set me free from the weight of my lust and allowed me to finally focus on building and creating which is an activity I love
Just, sooner or later, play Dragon Reborn.
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I feel that. That’s why I’m sacrificing everything so I wake up to a legendary 40s and 50s and 60s and the rest of my life really.
I’ll never be that cool rich kid in Ibiza that’s just not me, I’m not a young athlete, actor, musician. Some of the guys that get all the women. I’m average. So I’m not losing much by sacrificing it lol
I need action and results, that’s my form of therapy and healing.
I’m just thinking spending a decade on these subs while working on whatever… there shouldn’t really be much if any competition left.
As if you would stop listening to subs after the decade or stop doing stuff in life. Not sure what you meant by that but if youre refferring to this late mentality trend on subclub of “sacrificing my 20s / 30s so I can live better at my 40s” that frame and way of thinking sounds dumb to me. But you do whatever you want.
also what? What does that even mean? People die out? Population reaches level of ultimate lazy? What? You might be underestimating a whole lot of people. There are a lot and always will be a lot of people out there who will try hard.
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Not what I was referring to.
I recommend Dragon Reborn to you because of its excellence in supporting shadow work and shadow integration.
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I’m referring to the “suckers”.
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someone make these into a subclub meme
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