Thank you for explaining what you meant by polarizing.
I would encourage you change some of you assumptions. This quote above implies you’re doing something wrong. Although it might be bold to touch a woman’s hair you just met, if a woman really likes you, she might be open to this.
I think when I am speaking in a low voice, this seems to be sexual for many women.
Also asking them questions about things they might think to themselves but rarely talk about such as:
When you have free time all for yourself, what is your favorite thing to do? (She’ll probably talk about a hobby she procrastinates that she really loves.)
When you have a day off and wake up, what is it that you look forward to doing when you have nothing that you need to do?
What do you love the most about your life?
PCC? Yes.