Cycle 1 - Day 8 - Rest - Wanted Black, The Golden Cloak, New Primal
Each man who desires to run PRIMAL, needs to ask themselves one crucial, quintessential question…
What is a truly primal man?
Is it the masculine, red-pill guy going around posturing, talking about his many women (who in reality don’t even have the “h” from high quality), trying to dominate everyone around him while destroying his relationships and yelling how ToUgH he is in a cracking voice?
Is it the highly intellectual guy who analyzes every little thing to the point of ridiculousness, where he cannot even allow himself to live for a moment?
Is it the emotionally wise guy who gets lost in the feelings of others and forgets who he is, lost in the whims and emotions of others?
Is it the one who is so incredibly stoic he never even talks to anyone, believing his stoicism will get him the admiration of others?
Is it the spiritual individual who is so lofty and advanced he doesn’t even see his own two feet and while walking down the street trips on nothing, believing his “believing it true” will get him all his desires?
Is it the one who chases money endlessly, a slave perhaps not to the endless hamster wheel of the daily grind, but to a prison of his own making?
Is it the one who lusts and desires to no end, chasing and never having his fill, more akin to a hungry animal than a human being?
What does being a truly primal man entail?
Is it the standards of society?
Is it the standards of nature?
Is It the standards of the spiritual reality?
Is it the standards of the material reality?
Is it the standards of the people on the Internet, the ones around you and those close to you?
Is it really the standards, expectations and rules others load on you and your identity?
Or perhaps…
Fuck all that.
Not anymore.
The Minset
I’ve quit smoking, quit porn, quit eating like shit, quit being lazy, quit being needy, quit being clingy, quit being self-concious, quit allowing others to influence my state, and it’s all happened in just 3 loops of Primal.
It happens this easily: I see something I want to change, and I decide to change it. It’s really that simple. I’m not thinking about it, I’m not contemplating, I’m not weighing pros and cons, I’m not analyzing, I want it to change, and it’s changed. It’s really that simple.
Quitting drinking was effortless and I’m happier and all my relationships are better for it.
Quitting smoking was effortless and I’m happier and all my relationships are better for it.
Quitting porn was effortless and I’m happier and all my relationships are better for it.
Quitting junk food was effortless and I’m happier and all my relationships are better for it.
I’m confident and self-assured.
I know what I want and I get it.
People love me.
It’s that simple.
There’s no need for mental gymnastics, to talk myself into something or talk myself out of something, the right choice is obvious, it’s the choice that makes me happy which makes others happy.
The Day
I got woken up today by some insanely loud banging and crashing in my apartment, not sure what it was, but I was a little annoyed because I didn’t get my beauty rest. I check my phone, and a friend that I was supposed to get coffee with got called into work, that’s a W for me, because TBH, I just needed more damn time today. What’s cool is that I didn’t react. I used to get so pissed when people would cancel or plans would change, but I just didn’t care because I could see that it’s really not a big deal.
Why should I get so hung up over one small event when life is a long adventure full of events and opportunities. No coffee today? Who cares, let’s go tomorrow, let’s go next week, let’s go next month. Who really cares?
If a situation is pressing, then it’s pressing, if it’s not pressing, then it’s not pressing. It’s really that easy.
I hopped in the shower and had a quick conversation with myself about the changes that I’d noticed already, and realized that I’d missed some things, which brought me over here to document them.
I used to get food after work, given where I live, that generally meant taco bell, as it’s the only thing open that late. Thought about it last night, had about 45 seconds of indecision about it, then decided against it because I knew a protein shake at home would make me feel better not just tonight, but tomorrow morning also. This is another example of the near instant behavioral adjustments.
It’s easy, change is easy. It’s actually instantaneous if you really think about it. Change in the person is always instant.
Now you may want to push back on that, you may say that… “But, it takes so long to change, event x, y, and z needs to happen first” etc. No, it only appears that way. Change only looks slow because you haven’t changed yet. All changes take place in an instant. It’s a moment of realization, discovering a truth about the self or uncovering a lie, and then the change has taken place in that moment.
When I look back on my life, I can see clearly that all changes have taken place this way, all real changes. People sit around in the decision-making phase for too long, they get paralyzed by it, but when the time is right, the change is the simple act of making a decision.
I was reflecting also on my experience with SB and I realized that despite all the pain, it was the best thing I ever did. I fully believe that Primal is so easy for me right now because of all the work I have already done. In a sense, I feel like I have earned this freedom, and it’s well deserved.
The insight of these early hours of the morning is learning and research. If I really learn before I do something. Learn, visualize, and do it in imagination land first, then I don’t really need to make mistakes anymore.
On that note, since starting Primal, I’ve found myself far more interested in behavioral analysis and psychology and I’m finding it rather easy to objectively look at traits and behaviors that I have and wish to do away with and those I wish to embrace, feels like a more objective stance on myself.
Better under stress and pressure, way, way better at conflict resolution and turning seemingly negative events into positive ones.
More swift lesson learning. Mistake = correction. Feels like a great feedback loop.
Who’s opinion really matters? Do I gain anything from listening to the opinions of others besides a perspective that I can’t see on my own? I think that’s really enough, isn’t it?
People generally being friendlier to me.
Getting a hair cut tomorrow. Decided I get a haircut every 4 weeks, keep it nice, keep it clean. It’s a small price to pay for confidence.
Diet is pretty effortless.
Watching a lot of videos on psychology.
Final note, I’m listening to people more.