I can chime in on what I think. This is my opinion after having gone through lots and lots of anger on my journey.
Anger and having strong boundaries is IMO not neccesary linked in any way. Anger to me is destructive energy in the end. Control of anger I would never exercise, because that would be controlling something that cannot be controlled. Instead I would ask myself, why am I angry? Why am I looking outside to solve something thatâs clearly on the inside?
But yes anger can be used to fuel you, but for how long? It comes up for a reason to be looked at, accepted and let go of(healed). Tranmutation into higher emotions like courage, acceptance or love is far more advantageous. A higher vibration always kills a lower one.
That is why if someone whoâs angry close to me canât stand being in my presence. And if I get triggered by it I am part of the problem. That leaves you with no control over what you actually can control if you dare look inside. It can be scary, but it has absolutely no power over you if you look at it directly.
And would you rather feel the emotions of acceptance or love over being angry all the time? Maybe if your angry as you get this question you would answer angry because of sheer stubborness. But seriously ask yourself this question as soon as you wake up.

This chart is useful for understanding of what I talk about. Everything under 200 on this chart is self-destructive. But take love, not the clingy one you hear Justin Bieber sing about. But unconditional love, it only extends into more love. Love attracts love and anger attracts more anger. This chart is called The Human Scale of Consciousness.
I was completely stunned the first couple of times I found myself temporarily high up on this scale. It made such an impact and raised my baseline that I couldât go back. I had tears of joy, I saw the beauty in everything, even the most dirty things. Separation between things seem so absurd in these moments.
And how did I reach these states? Definately not through my constant holding on to anger and grudges that I was a certified expert at growing up. And letâs not forget about feeling sorry for myself. But hey it only took 35 years of life on earth to stop that habitâŚ
Iâve been to over 50 countries including some of the most poor countries in the world. And what I noticed is that everyone is just looking to live a decent life, have fun with their friends, eat some good food and burp afterwards.
Learn how to develop your compassion, learn how to serve other people(still working on that one).
Intended this to be short, but that rarely happens as I begin to type. Maybe thatâs why I refrain myself from doing it more often. But we have so much to offer to others and ultimately to ourselves. Why would you hold on to that gift. Everyone on this forum is brave as fvck for taking on the level of growth subliminals posesses. I salute them all 
Anyways,
To me pure masculine power comes from being non-reactive, and not because you keep denying or throwing your anger at others. Not many good decisions are made in rage⌠and afterwards you see that person feeling guilty and sad for what they did or said. You could say that anger is pent up sadness, or anger is sadness up side down.
So you need to wake up, grow up, and clean up. Itâs your house, not someone elses.
Iâve recently through Dragon Reborn had painful tears for the way I treated my mom growing up and not seeing the obvious truth that I was too stubborn and proud to admit. I was secretly blaiming her for things that was clearly my own doing. It is time for me to grow up finally.
The funny thing when you do emotional healing is when you realize you are reacting to situations and events in the present time that were from some childhood trauma. Here is me at the age of 37 acting the same way as when I was 8. It never ends until you let go of it. And if you donât you suppress it and it gets projected out into your aura. So kind of a catch 22 until you see it for what it is. Keep reacting and throw anger around you will never evolve past that.
So when you attract anger it is because it comes up for you to let go of. If you become reactive you are missing the point.
Nothing is better than the other, it just is. When I see angry people I feel compassion(trying at least) instead of pity.
So again, maculine strength comes IMO from having grown up past all the traumas, and not going around blaming and hating others for your hurt that we all in some form experienced in growing up. Itâs easy for me to see that now, thatâs why I donât meet anger to anger.
Sure some girls like bad boys, but thatâs because they have the same issues. I still respect that but not the type of girls that I would wibe with.
I mentioned it before that a practice called Strong Determination Sitting is by far the most powerful tool(except maybe subliminals and shadow work together with relaxation exercises) to develop that calm grounded masculine presence, the observer, the one that gives attention, but need nothing in return(end of neediness).
Learn how to actively scan your body for tension, learn how to become relaxed in your lower chakras and nothing will face you. If you can do that in any situations you become magnetic.
Think about it⌠relaxation is everything. Look at all the men around you and you see even the coolest guys having nervous ticks, and other nervous behaviors. And then you have the rarities, the few men that seems so relaxed and at ease that a hurricane wouldât move them. You canât figure them out, how can they be so relaxed?
Girls notice this because it is so rare. Shit tests and all that jadi jadi is not a thing for them. They donât act in any way or form, they are not ashamed or hiding anything. And most of all they are completely relaxed and at ease.
A good start is taking a vow that you from hereon take 100% responsibility for absolutely everything that happens to you, without blaming, without complaining. Because that is what 99% of all men do anyway. Just think about how attractive a man like that is to a girl!
We are not so different after all⌠be flexible not rigid.