Neither the legitimacy nor the validity of what Prome was asking was ever in question to me.
Long Ass Response from @Malkuth
His underlying concerns (which are ultimately about himself and his chances of success along his subliminal journey) are completely legitimate. I’m actually sympathetic to them. Feel them myself. This journey can be a very mysterious one. And we want to know that we have a decent chance of succeeding in it.
For me the issue is when he’s projecting those legitimate concerns onto the personal experiences and journey of someone else.
If I ask you to respond to my thought or my question, I am asking you for something. In essence, I’m asking you to do me a favor.
On top of that, if the thought or question for which I’m asking your response is about your personal life or private experiences, then the favor I’m asking of you is even bigger. Because that’s not anything you’re required to share. It’s yours.
I may have very legitimate or valid concerns that lead me to ask you for that response. That does not change the fact that I’m asking you for it.
In my mind and in my values, when one person asks a favor of another person, the person who is doing the asking should acknowledge that they’re asking, and should therefore proceed with respect for the other person.
Entitlement (and of course I mean ‘excessive or inappropriate entitlement’, not legitimate ownership), in my definition, is the result of combining two elements: 1) asking for something to which you have no right, and 2) lacking deference or respect in how you make the request.
I don’t like that. So I called it out.
But if either one of those two elements are changed, it’s no longer inappropriate entitlement.
If I borrowed something from you and then you demand that I return it to you. That is appropriate entitlement. The thing is, after all, yours. Now, would it be classy and considerate for you to be respectful in demanding it back? Sure. But if you’re not, well I’m still going to return it, because it’s yours.
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If you’re asking me for something that’s mine, and you’re 1) respectful in how you ask it and 2) willing to accept it if my answer is ‘no’, then that’s not inappropriately entitled either.
So, meh. That’s my definition.
Actually, Prome expressed that he’s willing to be told ‘no. get lost.’ I respect that from Prome.
and Jcast is a pretty easygoing guy who has seen a lot and who can handle a lot. I don’t know if he’ll be offended. The point is that I was offended. Not about the questions (which are asked here every day). About how they were communicated. With insufficiently expressed self-awareness and respect.
Let’s be real, those questions from Prome are not groundbreaking. They are the exact questions that are asked here on the forum in about 8 out of 10 posts. Either it’s “(huff huff pufff) when is the next new program coming out!!!” or " (huff huff puff puff) hey! does any of this stuff actually work!!!" hahaha. Sometimes both questions are in the exact same post.
Thank goodness, I’m exaggerating and those are not the only two kinds of posts on here. But those
concerns probably do find there way into more than half the posts (at least). Sometimes they’re my posts. Not that often, thank goodness.
And that’s okay.
But if you’re going to walk up to someone who you’ve never met on god’s green earth and say “Hey, I’m watching you! And I’m seriously skeptical about your life’s journey, the things you’re saying, and the decisions you’re making! To allay my own personal doubts, I want you to answer the following questions!..”
Well, why the heck does the other person have to reveal their life journey to you, just because you happen to have trouble managing whatever your own self-doubts might be? Doubts which, by the way, you haven’t even been open and vulnerable about acknowledging.
So, if you’re going to ask, at least have enough perspective to be respectful in asking.
Asking someone else to share about their journey, but not sharing any of your own? Doing so, in a disrespectful tone? That’s what hit me as excessively entitled. So, I reacted.
But those two men will figure out how they want to interact with each other.
Sheesh. That was long.
But I don’t think it was a waste of time. (Hopefully, I’m right about that). It obviously mattered to me, or I’d never have spoken up on that thread in the first place. So might as well spend a little time to hash it out.