New to Subclub and need help

Introductions
#1

Hey everyone, my name is Gabby and I am newer to subs and completely new to Sub Club. I am going thru significant challenges and a lot of painful things in my life. I have been looking at ways to un F*** my life, grow as a person and to not feel so stuck.

I just started about a week or so ago( maybe week and a half) with one of the free titles, Genesis: The Art of Happiness and Joy. It looked pretty “mild” and I have seen it promoted as "beginner friendly.

I also downloaded Love Bomb for Humanity but haven’t started that one yet.

I will be completely honest with you guys that I am a little discouraged right now. I don’t want to quit something too soon that could be life changing but I also don’t want to push myself into something that is not for me and that could make my mental health even worse than what it is. So basically, right now, I am trying to decide what I should do. If you have any thoughts, ideas or feedback for me that would be great.

I started out with my current title last week at a mere 15 seconds of listening time. Those 15 seconds felt really good so the next day after my rest day I increased it following the instructions listed. I am now at 3 minutes. I didn’t feel much of a difference at first but now I feel really crappy. I have been exhausted these past few days, have alot of head pressure and am struggling with alot of anxiety- more than usual. I have been dealing with alot of very stressful situations lately and I am not a stranger to fatigue or headaches so I wasn’t really sure if it was part of recon. How do you guys tell? Since I wasn’t sure, I went up to 1 minute and then 3 minutes(about 3 minutes, 30 ish seconds by accident) and now I feel totally crappy. Extreme fatigue, brain fog and anxiety. I am feeling extra flaky and forgetting things too. I have also been having really vivid dreams, not bad but just strange. I am wondering if maybe I am so tired because I am not having a restful sleep because of all these wacky dreams. I took an extra rest day before listening again and went back down to 2.5 minutes and it did not help. If this is recon how long does it usually last? Should I switch to A Love Bomb for Humanity? Or is this happening because I am too messed up for subs and need to wait to try again when I am in a better spot in life? I just was looking for ways to help improve my life and now I feel like I made it worse.

On another note- one thing I have noticed is that I have been asking myself a lot of questions lately. I am typically a very introspective person but I feel like I am much more so than usual. I don’t know if that is the result of the subs or a product of my imagination and OCD. The frustrating thing is that I don’t know the answers to the questions I am asking myself so I just end up going in circles with myself

Thanks for reading!

By the way, if this should go into another category, mods please feel free to move it. I put it in introductions but it could probably also go in a different area as well

#2

This is typical reconciliation.

It’s good you are reducing your play time along with taking breaks, so you are doing it right. The extra introspection is you trying to bridge the suggestions with your current reality.

If it helps, try the new LBFH for 1m and see how you respond to that title, if not, take breaks and journal (privately or on this forum).

#3

Drinking a lot of water under one hour helps reduce these unpleasant things for me.

#4

LBFH got an update just a few days ago, be sure to grab that version.

That sounds like recon.

Recon doesn’t have to be dependent from your current problem, it can coexist and amplify each other.

When in doubt, lower it down.
The reward of going up quickly doesn’t justify the risk, especially with your current mental condition.

Take it slow.
Even us long time users here are not shy to take it really slow when needed.

Textbook recon right there.

If it has gone to that degree, then what you need now is an early washout.
Take that 5+ days of rest that should have been at the end of the cycle now.
Reset and come back the next cycle after you’re properly refreshed.

Then start with shorter playtime again.

Take it slow.
Make very sure you get no recon, and then move up.
Don’t rush it.

Stimulate, not annihilate.
There’s nothing as being too slow with increasing the exposure.
Finding the sweet spot is the most important thing. Even if it’s only 10 seconds, so be it.

Edit:
The dreams are normal, it’s just your mind processing things from the sub.

If it gets too distracting, lower the exposure.

Goodluck.

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#5

It really seems like a recon for me.

To proceed recon faster make sure you sleep enough (8 hours), stay hydrated, eat enough proteins (at least 1g per 1 kg of your weight, ideally — 1.5 or even more if you do sports) and enough physical activity during day.

I recommend you to increment 10 seconds per listening session. A drastic jump from 15 secs up to 3 min could be sudden for your brain.