some are, some aren’t, however, I hate terms like alpha, beta, etc. I find them all very silly and more of an ego stroke than anything else.
That being said, the fact that girls can tell doesn’t matter. I’m naturally dominant, had fights with every boss in every workplace until now, was the only kid to yell back at my dad etc.
Doesn’t take away from dominance having a bad name here, I know someone who ended himself over false allegations.
Dominance here needs to be nuanced, I’m a highly sarcastic and playful person and that usually helps tone down the dominance. Overly dominant men here only get two types of women, the ones that aren’t ready for relationships and only want something short term, and the “I can fix him” type.
Dominance here usually comes down to where you stand in the hierarchy (usually I take the leader role), coupled with how you react to others and knowing your worth (not paying any attention to insults, not falling for simple tests and gaslighting)
atleast in my case, usually I’m into broken girls, and those that have been hurt will not respond well to being grabbed, even when everything is played well, even if they get wet and freeze up, it’s something they may have issues with mentally accepting.
Broken girls played into submission will often think about it later on and may regret not having control over the situation one way or another and will blame themselves and hate their own bodies for responding well to submission.
However, a confident invitation to submit to a stronger, safe person that knows boundries, will reel them in.
Think “just because you submit to me doesn’t mean I own you”, it’s a very caring type of dominance, think of the “Wounded Healer” trope, I know my role, I know theirs, but in the end I’m not here to overstep boundries and hurt their fragile souls.
It’s usually the reason a lot of girls call me daddy haha