I’m going to just chime in here with a few thoughts and one disclaimer. Mainly because I have found this thread fascinating and even more so with the recent update.
I have not personally ran Wanted Black yet, I do own the sub, picked it up when it first came out and slotted it as something to be run sometime next year.
The reason why I chimed in is primarily because of what @unusualfellow just said in his last post about being congruent, which I think perfectly sums everything anyone could want into one word. Congruence.
Wanted Black, and by it’s extension John Wingless, reminds me of a friend of mine. He embodies the Wanted Black Archetype perfectly - slightly mysterious, charming, a hint of danger. Women literally throw themselves at him in a way that blows my mind, and I’ve seen it happen to him so often it’s comical.
I asked him about it once a while back, as I was coming out of my divorce and dealing with the idea of going “out there” again into the dating pool, feeling the way a lot of guys do, like the odds are stacked heavily against me.
He told me something I have taken to heart completely. He said that he feels like women respond to him the way they do is because he is just a conduit for a woman to express her own desires. He’s the outlet, not necessarily the target itself. What he likes to call right place, right time.
I mention him because his history was interesting; he was anything but a ladies man when he was younger. He had his heart broken more than once and he was a doormat for one particular woman that he was in love with for years. I saw him at his worst through that period of time and it often broke my heart watching him suffer the way he did. Not that I was doing that much better, hence my own divorce, but, it was rougher for him because it was unreciprocated love. He said his shift came to him when he first learned to love himself, then to love women for what they were, not what he wanted them to be. He still aggressively pursued women as the initiatior, before having enough of those experiences being positive ones where he landed the girls more frequently, to the point where he slowly allowed himself to grow into a position where he became the pursued.
I guess the point of this is that there was an evolution he went through himself. It started with him though, learning to love himself first.
So if I were to sum up his own growth utilizing Sub Club titles, his trajectory would be Love Bomb or LBFH, Khan/Emperor, and then finally Wanted Black.
Now, that being said, I think anyone who runs Wanted Black for a long enough period of time will get there, possibly with a lot of recon thrown into the mix as the person goes through the stages. But, one very huge factor of his own success he always credits is that he learned to love himself, flaws and scars, and that allowed him to appreciate the woman with all of her flaws and scars as well.
I believe that it’s difficult for most women to allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to throw themselves at a man as most of the time they are generally on a defensive. Let alone allowing themselves to experience their desires so openly.
I suppose that’s my long roundabout way of saying that congruence comes through lived experiences, so no matter where you’re starting from, as @Fire and @SaintSovereign always say, take action. I think that’s the point, the more action you take, even if you’re the one chasing while running Wanted Black, that constant feedback mechanism is what will eventually allow you to fulfill the entirety of the subs goals. And with the New Romance Experience, Experience being the keyword in that sentence, it effectively takes you through the stages that my friend went through to become who he has. I should also state that not only did he become successful with women, but just super successful in general. His entire life turned around. I love talking about him because I’ve known the guy almost 26 years and I’m so proud of who he’s become. He’s part of who I looked at in my own immediate circle and thought, yeah, I can grow as well and be my best version.
Again, I haven’t run Wanted Black yet myself, however I intend to in the very near future as part of an ongoing stack or in a custom once the rest of the titles I want have been fully updated. So take what I wrote not specifically about that sub, but more of a generalization from my own witnessed experiences. I hope some of this helps a few of you stay the course, especially @WinglissStark. It’s only going to get better for you my man, the longer you stay your path.
