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[Pyro]

@AlexanderGraves

Interesting revelation though:
Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

This is basically what came out after those 4 days, when she said she feels like she is never asked about anything in the marriage. What I do with the house, bills, etc.

My wife and I are very transparent with each other. We are a team that doesn’t really have defined roles.

We have joint checking and saving accounts and our own checking. Both of our paychecks go into joint checking then the automation takes over, we each have our personal paid biweekly as an allowance and then automatically money is dispersed to savings, investments etc.

Both of us know exactly what is paid out of our joint accounts. No need on personal ones. She also likes working around the house with Power tools and is good at it.

If you combine your talents and assets together, you have a lot of leverage to use in life compared to most people. We are working towards the same goals. Also we do monthly couples counciling as a check in to make sure we are attacking the problems that need to be solved.

[Alphamale]

@AlexanderGraves

While that happened my heart was pumping.

It’s the new habits and behaviors getting rewritten by your subconscious. There also that globus sensation sometimes.
When ypu were running CFW for example you would have reacted with a different faciap expression, more caring maybe? Now that ypu are doing this non-reaction thing, there is friction in the subconscious mind. That is why you experience it. After doing it a few times, it’ll vanish. It’s definitely not for anxiety or stress. It’s just the friction of change, which can also be stress but not in the sense of anxiety.

[AlexanderGraves]

@SaintSovereign

Then once I make that purchase, she gets all dolled and sexied up and says, “since we’re spending money, can I have [x]???”

She usually gets it.

Well, more money definitely would make that easier for me.
No need to discuss that kinda stuff when money is not a problem.

Then again, what you described is exactly the kinda femininity I’m looking for.

[mountainguy]

@bombayduck

I feel like my go-to sub when on recon is Heartsong (which I’ve never ran before), I’m wondering if I should just drop WB for HS. Or maybe I should just tough it out and see how things go, I don’t know.

I know everyone is in love with WB, but HS really seems like it will deliver what you want more than WB. Maybe a combination of the two would work for you even, although depending on what you want you may need to drop WB at some point to focus on the person HS brought to you.

E: Pursuing your own personal interests and goals while not getting totally monk mode, and specifically not chasing companionship directly, is a great way to keep space open for someone in alignment with who you are to enter your life.

[R.E.M.P.O]

I can relate to all of it, buddy. Stay true to your beliefs, stand your ground, and you’ll exude an irresistible confidence. Just remember, even if she’s mad and won’t admit it, she’s secretly drawn to that sexy quality.

[Extraordinaire]

WB is like a custom in of itself, it has so much condensed in one: aura, physical shifting, s@x related performance, social, masculinity etc

It’s like stark, lots and wanted combined

My new staple.

[Beowulf]

@AlexanderGraves

Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

This is basically what came out after those 4 days, when she said she feels like she is never asked about anything in the marriage. What I do with the house, bills, etc.
Now, I might be traditional there but I keep this away from her intentionally, so she can focus on other things.

In an LDR and I’m not married but it sounds like she wants to be more included in your life. Her asking about the bills you’re paying and fixing the stuff without telling her makes me think that she feels left out.

@AlexanderGraves

To me, her claim seems like an excuse, because she’s free to whatever the fuck she wants with her life, I never stopped her from anything, and small purchases, I don’t see why I would mention this.
Or even repairing the fucking heating in the house. I just went and had it fixed by myself. She was pissed because I didn’t call someone to do it.

It sounds like you think she’s complaining that you’re doing things, correct me if I’m wrong. To me it seems that she’s the type of person that wants to know what you’re doing if it involves the both of you (the home, in this example). Not that you’re actually doing these things, she’s probably happy with that. She’s just not being straightforward about her actual reason.

You know her better than I do but that’s what it seems like from my POV. Maybe have a talk with her about her feeling left out/excluded from household stuff.

[emperor_obewan]

@AlexanderGraves

Interesting revelation though:
Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

Back in 2020 during my first Emperor run, when I had my last semi LTR which I was going to move state for, this was what really became the deal breaker under the surface. She began giving commandments and value judgements on how I spent my money; probably I over shared in the relationship and just should have not told her about shit. She would criticise me over spending on hygiene or hair products, or self care decisions. I eventually got frustrated and basically told her in no uncertain terms that this was a boundary she wasn’t going to cross.

Not long after that, she found an excuse to end the relationship, trying to use every guilting trick under the book to try to break my frame and accept that I was a bad person when it was clear the reason for her decision.

Beyond personal joint decisions on finance about keeping the household afloat, or putting a certain amount aside, decisions made in advance within the relationship, it’s my firm position you don’t want to give a woman that much control over your own finances. If you buy things for them, its a personal decision, but things you buy for yourself with your own paycheck should be nobody’s business but your own.

That was one of the things that Emperor did for me, was learning how to set healthy boundaries and have an iron frame in the areas that mattered to me.

[AlexanderGraves]

Thanks everyone for your insight!

[Meridians]

its good stuff man. i went through the same thing on emperor, butted heads with my alpha wife and came out on top and we’re in a good place. youll get through it

[ksub]

@AlexanderGraves

Do you guys tell your girl any single purchase you make?

Why should I?

[AlexanderGraves]

@ksub

Why should I?

Exactly. I don’t see a reason. And I’m not Tue guy for it.

@Meridians

its good stuff man. i went through the same thing on emperor, butted heads with my alpha wife and came out on top and we’re in a good place. youll get through it

I run Khan. So should be fine long term

[ksub]

My frame of mind is pretty simple: if you’re not helping me make my money you don’t get to tell me what to do with it (as long as the bills are paid). I’m certainly not worried about her money, why would she be watching mine?

[Melody]

@AlexanderGraves This is all in theory and could be completely wrong.

Maybe with your new WANTED energy, she’s getting nervous that she can’t fully ‘lock you down’ anymore?

When you spent time alone on Sunday, you did what you wanted to do which I would say is reasonable behaviour unless you promised you would do something that day with her.

Very logical but perhaps in her world you doing that meant you don’t like her as much anymore so the ‘arguments’ are to try to get you to care more.

Women: X means Y
Men: X causes Y

as the OG David Snyder teaches. Again I could be completely off the mark and aren’t the best person to ‘diagnose’ the problem but just something to consider perhaps…

Best of luck!

[unusualfellow]

@Melody

Women: X means Y
Men: X causes Y

Hahahahaha

[Golgo13]

@mountainguy

I know everyone is in love with WB, but HS really seems like it will deliver what you want more than WB.

@Extraordinaire

WB is like a custom in of itself, it has so much condensed in one:

I can’t speak for bombayduck, and please correct me if I’m wrong, but Heartsong doesn’t have self love. You need to love yourself before you can love another. Heartsong doesn’t have self confidence. You need self confidence to be with a woman. Heartsong doesn’t have verbal allure. You need to be comfortable and smooth talking to women. Heartsong doesn’t have sexual stamina and imprinting. You need to be able to satisfy a woman in bed and have her coming back for more. WB has those things.

The only thing is it’s focused on attracting a harem instead of the love of your life. This might be challenging on the subconscious if you have insecurities and difficulties attracting just one woman let alone hoards of them. This is why I’ve been asking @AnswerGroup for a title like WB, but instead of attracting sex you’re attracting love or the love of your life like HS.

Besides WB, is there any other title that has been mentioned more on this thread than HS? I would need to run HS, LBFH, Ascension, SMX, S&S, and who knows what else just to do what a Heartsong version of WB would do. That’s too many titles and a kitchen-sink custom.

Not everyone is like Invictus. Not everyone has a flow factor that can accept all of those cores. Not everyone gets results from running just one loop. Not everyone has the time and patience to run all of those titles just so they can accomplish what WB does. That’s why WB is so appealing. It has everything in one title.

@AnswerGroup @SaintSovereign @Fire Can you please acknowledge this concern? Can we or will we get a title like WB that is more catered to HS? I know this is the STKS era and you’re all about surprises these days, but man give us something. I am patiently waiting for the King to Speak on this.

[AlexanderGraves]

@Melody

Maybe with your new WANTED energy, she’s getting nervous that she can’t fully ‘lock you down’ anymore?

I think you’re fully on point there.

Aligns with some hints she gave.

Also because most ppl express their anxiety via anger. She’s definitely one of those.

Then again, what am I supposed to do about that?
I can’t change if she trusts me or not. Never did shot.

[Fractal_Explorer]

From the Heartsong description

Heartsong will help you find, meet and attract an individual that will fit you and the you in the future perfectly, complimenting your strengths and evening out your weaknesses while hitting all the qualities you desire in a partner (physical, mental, spiritual).

A partner that would align with both your subconscious and conscious needs and wants. This means that your future partner is likely to contain the qualities you consciously desire (such as your favorite hair color, body type, personality quirks, status, etc.), but will also surprise you with things you didn’t know you find attractive.

A partner that is able to grow with you, because life is never static and especially so when you are listening to profoundly powerful subliminals. A lover that will fit you like the lost puzzle piece or the missing lead violinist of the song of your heart.

You’re applying some really rigid principles on general attraction to a soulmate situation. The way I see it Heartsong makes it so none of that stuff matters.

Remember that subclub is all about choice and we have vastly different titles and goals. Goals from one program might not even be relevant for another.

[BreathingJaguar]

Thanks for pointing that out. It’s like have a laundry list of limitations to receiving the energy you are asking for. What if you were already that which you are asking for?

[Golgo13]

@Fractal_Explorer

The way I see it Heartsong makes it so none of that stuff matters.

I hear you, but with all due respect, I’m not trying to hear that. As a man I need self love, self confidence. And having verbal allure and being a sexual dynamo is vital because it’s not a guarantee that you’ll stay with the first woman you attract.