Thank you Luther! I appreciate your time and attention brother, thank you for the guidance.
I’ll keep at it, and apologies for derailing your journal haha
@Luther24 you mentioned that your sleeping like 4hours, how does it effects your recovery, muscle recovery, testosterone level etc. How do you compare 6-8 hours sleeping to sleeping less. Does sleeping less make the body more inflamed?
I don’t do 4 hours anymore. I do 6 hours with waking up intermittently throughout the night.
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I’ll give you a more in-depth answer.
My religion is QoL (Quality of Life).
My goal is to have the highest quality of life possible.
I have 7 areas:
Health
Fitness
Wealth
Social Life
Romantic Life
Skills
Spirituality
The more you level up in all of these areas, and the more balanced they are - the higher your QoL.
QoL is the overall level of life.
Let’s say you have a monk/guru with the following levels (very common):
7/10 = Spirituality
3/10 = Health
3/10 = Fitness
They may have a high level in Spirituality, but their Health and Fitness are level 3/10 (health problems, low testosterone, weak vitality, poor movability, etc). Yes, one is “wise”, but they are also walking around in a state of physical weakness which feels like shit. Their overall level is low.
Let’s say you have a rich playboy with the following levels (very common):
8/10 = Wealth
5/10 = Romantic Life
2/10 = Spirituality
Yes, they might have financial ease and access to sexual partners… but things like connectedness, mindfulness, and mental-well being will be weak on a deeper level. Lack of full-range fulfillment.
(These are obviously just examples, or rather stereotypical level combinations).
This concept of categorizing human goals and pursuits into distinct areas, is ancient. It’s as old as humans could think because it’s merely the conceptualization of life. Through this conceptualization, frameworks are naturally created. Especially as it intersects with logic. Some examples: Four Pillars of Life (Chinese), Purusharthas (Hinduism), Aristotle’s Hierarchy of Goods (Greek), Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, etc.
My twist on QoL is a video game analogy.
Life is a video game, the 7 areas are skills to level up in, and QoL is your overall level.
I am someone who has a very high overall level.
That’s why you see me all over the place. I can talk financial success with the sharks, I can talk sex and seduction with the players, I can talk networking with the social butterflies, I can talk health (mental and physical) with the wellness enthusiasts, I can talk sports with the athletes, I can talk fitness with the bodybuilders or powerlifters, I can talk gaming with the gamers, I can talk creativity and art with the artists, I can talk spirituality with the sages.
I’m everywhere, lol.
The subconscious mind is very important when it comes to both the state and development of these areas. That’s the only reason why I use subliminals.
When I was a complete “noob” (lol), meaning my levels were:
2/10 = Health
2/10 = Fitness
2/10 = Wealth
2/10 = Social Life
2/10 = Romantic Life
2/10 = Skills
2/10 = Spirituality
I first started leveling Health, Wealth and Spirituality.
Once those were very strong, I developed my Fitness and Romantic Life.
One thing about me, is that I am typically leveling up my Spirituality every day passively, while also focusing on 1 or 2 other areas.
This is because Spirituality is the highest ROI area to level up. The higher your level in Spirituality, the faster, more easily and more powerfully you will be able to level up the other areas. It’s also the area most commonly kept at level 1/10 for logical reasons (low priority and self-transcendence is at the top of Maslow’s).
My level of self-worth and self-love is extremely high level because it’s internalized.
What most people have is called externalizing your self-worth and self-love.
Basically, where your self-esteem and self-perceived value is largely dependent on the external (parents, friends, women, society, etc).
If I ask your self:
“Are you accepted?”
“Are you loved?”
“Are you worthy?”.
Your self responds to me “let me check.”
He pulls out a document and begins looking it over.
On this document, is a list of expectations.
Could be a mixture of societal, parental, religious or general expectations and standards. A whole mixture of things.
Example: Your job, where you work, your net worth, your network, your height, your ethnicity, your skin color, your age, your grades in school, your college degree, how you look, what you’ve accomplished, how successful you are, how expensive your car is, how intelligent you are, how much you lift in the gym, how many women you’ve had sex with, how popular you are, how talented you are, how funny you are, etc.
Your self is checking this document and then proceeds to tell me:
“No, I’m not accepted”.
“No, I’m not loved.”
“No, I’m not worthy.”
I then ask, why not.
Your self says “I’m not meeting a lot of these expectations. Only if I check off all of these expectations, then I can be accepted, loved and worthy”.
Your self then looks past me and starts aimlessly looking around for an expectation to meet.
I go “Hello? What are you looking around for?”
Your self needs permission and it seeks this permission.
- An empty cup, trained to get filled by the external.
- A full cup, that doesn’t need anything external.
Only one of these is True, but I won’t get into that.
Anyways, most people are #1.
#1 is very weak and disempowering because your entire self-perception is dictated by something outside of your self.
Fundamentally, through mechanism and frame… one is not truly seated in personal power.
Through externalization you have handed the reins of your self-perception to something outside of yourself.
This thing outside of yourself has control over you. It dictates you. You kneel to it, and you actively seek to meet its expectation in order to feel safe.
You will accomplish things, and get things done, perhaps to prove people wrong. Perhaps to upset the “haters”, or to get revenge. It’s certainly viable in the human experience to get things done - but it’s not healthy. It’s driven by trauma-based beliefs rooted in falsehood and therefore limitation. It can be a fuel, but you won’t be powerful and the filter/wavelength is not fulfilling in a healthy manner.
There’s levels to things, and at a certain level (which is very high)… externalized self-love or self-worth, absolutely does not exist.
I’m not saying it’s “bad” or “wrong”, I’m saying that certain healthy, positive and fulfilling experiences, have different wavelengths and therefore different beliefs are involved.
When your self-perception is externalized, you start to factor in the expectations in all that you do.
It suddenly becomes the case that you’re not doing things for yourself, you’re doing things to sustain yourself.
Big difference.
This is 98% of people.
Generational trauma, externalized sheep culture (social media, etc), education system, inadequacy programming, comparison, narcissism, etc. Boom, boom, boom and that’s all she wrote.
It’s all normal, and everyone has these issues because it’s the default.
Every person I know who has good mental health, positive relationships and so on… has either done some self-love work or at the very least knows the importance of it. It’s a checkpoint in everyone’s growth.
So back to the document.
I go “What do you mean you need permission?”
Who? Where? Who made this document? Who made these requirements? Who told you that you need all of these permissions to merely accept yourself? Who told you that you are nothing unless you meet these things?
Who told you?
I snatch the document and rip it in half.
You don’t need permission.
That is a lie - one that we are all learning to see through.
And when you do… you will reach a different level of growth and empowerment.
You no longer need to look at anything, you are just seated in yourself regardless of any external “opinions”, “standards”, “requirements”, “permissions”, and “expectations”.
Your cup is full, and it’s always full.
You could be sent 50,000 different documents - doesn’t matter. Cup is still full.
Documents become toilet paper, and they no longer define you.
You see the power in this?
Your drive is no longer fueled by the need to fill the cup, it’s fueled by a cup full to the rim which creates an enriching feedback loop where you are doing things out of self-love and doing things because you deserve it.
Things that fulfill you, rather than fill you.
When you make that shift, things can become a little strange:
Most people are nowhere close to this level. The development of their self-worth merely coincides within the range of externalization.
If you want high self-worth in relation to women, then you have to use subliminals that help develop that. They will help you change your self-perception and help with shifting your beliefs so that you are no longer fearful, needy, or anxious around women. It will also help to take action and put yourself in places to have new experiences.
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Fuckin’ A, thank you for writing all that out Luther.
I need to go back and read it five more times to let it sink in.
Externalizing self worth is spot on though, and basically the reason I chase female validation to feel like a valuable man.
Self love work seems essential but I hardly know where to start. When you look online it’s mostly people shilling courses or journals you buy with prompts in them like “what do you like about yourself?” That doesn’t feel to me like it will actually do anything…
Anyway, I appreciate you brother thank you for sharing your wisdom
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Detailed answer part 2
Don’t worry about internalized vs externalized self-love or self-worth.
Everybody is learning that flip of the script. I’m just sharing that so you have an idea of where the growth leads to, and what it will encompass… if you decide to go that far. It’s very advanced and it’s not for everyone, lol.
For self-love, you can just use something like LBFH.
I’ll just quickly share you my journey to developing high self-worth with women and having zero neediness.
I used to hate myself and was heavily into “redpill”. Women used to cringe at me because I had too much of a needy energy.
The first thing that helped me was quitting pornography. I used to binge pornography multiple times
a week in shame and self-hatred because I thought that it was the closest I’d ever get to sex. I was brainwashed that I would fail with women because I wasn’t 6 feet tall, lol.
That’s actually the very first thing I ever did in my entire self-improvement journey - quitting pornography.
If you struggle with that, then Subliminal Club has Khan Black.
Once I got off that, I spent 2 years working on nothing but trying to cultivate self-love. I was mainly just trying to figure out why I didn’t like myself. I didn’t grow up in a wholesome, mentally healthy family. I also had a whole bunch of traumas built-up.
This is why I have threads like this on here The importance of Self Love, before subliminals like LBFH were even made. Lol.
When I make posts talking about how a “beta-male” is just a traumatized male (lack of self-love, self-worth, personal power and masculinity, etc). People go “how do you know this stuff bro?” - because you do the work and then you learn. There are no “secrets”, there’s only congruent development, awareness, and evolution. Now folks have run LBFH for a hefty amount of time and they themselves begin to realize “well damn, these men are just super insecure and lacking self-love, etc”. It becomes very clear what is lacking in the subconscious framework.
Things are not my personal “opinions”, they’re checkpoints of realization in the journey of growth. It’s a linear science.
Anyways, lol.
Summary:
Step 1: Quit pornography
Step 2: Self-love
I also worked heavily on my masculinity, which is just as important as self-love - for men.
All of those posts talking about masculinity that have like 30+ likes or whatever and “where did you learn this stuff from bro” - same thing applies. Do the congruent development, do the shifts, heal the traumas, perceive differently, etc.
I’ve never read a single book on masculinity, nor have I followed any type of masculinity guru.
You won’t be an overly hyper-aggressive, hyper-dominant dick/bossy bully because that’s all trauma. There is no such thing as “too much” masculinity or “toxic” masculinity, which I’ve stated multiple times (you can search it on here). Masculinity by itself is a healthy and positive thing. Masculinity is starved out of men currently, and that inherent lack is being channeled into things like “Red Pill”, MGTOW, Dating Culture and women-blaming. It’s all nothing more than a bunch of toxic, trauma-boy nonsense. This is why when you begin to start congruently developing as a man, you become incompatible to these things - you don’t have a choice. It’s a paradox, because the very beliefs that men are so encumbered in, sticks out like a thumbtack in their internal framework preventing them from being congruent. That’s where all of the recon comes from, they’re essentially trying to desperately cling to being a beta male. Growth can be brutal, lol.
Any type of man who points fingers at women, or gets emotionally reactive, internally thrown off, or triggered by women - has very weak masculinity. When you have developed really strong congruent masculinity, the feminine energy feels virtually harmless and incredibly relaxing. You are basically steel to them and effortlessly auto-win all forms of what people call “shit-tests” just by naturally being. It’s all just frame - but in a congruent manner. That’s why I’m not big on coping mechanisms, I’m all about moving the internal goal-post, shifting beliefs, self-growth, etc.
Step 3: Masculinity
After all of that, I still didn’t have success with women. They would glance at me and that’s about it. I needed an attractant. I used subliminals like WANTED/Primal Seduction to help develop physical and natural attractiveness, etc. I also consciously guided subliminals to help address self-worth blocks. I also took a lot of action.
In 2023, it’s extremely easy for a man to get laid. Getting laid means very little. You want high quality and fulfilling romantic encounters with high quality women.
If you want to manifest that, then you internally need to be high quality. That’s where self-worth, plays the biggest factor. It’s all a reflection.
Khan also helps a lot with masculinity, lol.
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That’s about all I’ve got, lol.
Hahaha, cheers.
Now I can go back to journaling, normally.
Almost halfway through November, I’ve been hammering away. I’ve been very quiet in my daily life. Too quiet.
This whole month has been an absolute blur so far.
I’m making some money from my new income stream, but not a lot. I’m expecting it to pick up this week.
Genesis: Mogul looks good.
Productivity and focus has been insane, I’m pretty much a cyborg.
I only slipped twice.
- I read a long book (fiction) and wrote a review about it on some website. Was a waste of time, even though the review blew up. Didn’t do anything. The book was also terrible, I’m never reading books again.
- I watched a YouTube comedy video that a friend sent me. Michael Davis at Ford’s Theater.
Other than that and this forum, I’ve been dialed in like a robot. I make the most of every hour.
Next month, I can’t have any slip-ups. For the rest of this month, definitely zero.
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Thankyou for writing this!
The 7 QoL is interesting. I used to sacrifice social & romantic life. Maybe that’s why LBFH had such a huge impact on me.
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Social Life is pretty straightforward, you’re just increasing the quality of all social interaction.
I found so far, that the highest ROI seems to be developing leadership traits, charisma, and authenticity. If you keep developing these 3 through a healthy filter, your Social Life will keep leveling up.
Romantic Life is pretty straightforward as well, you’re just increasing the quality of romantic encounters and bedroom activity. It’s pretty much healthy sexuality + attractant + bedroom performance. Attractant also encompasses things like self-worth and quality of partner. Though I don’t subscribe to qualitative definitions of people, especially women. All of that type of objectification comes directly from pornography and how it trains your mind to view women as sexual objects and dehumanize them. The quickest way I know if someone’s screwed, is if they start rating women out of 10. That’s a normal perception in today’s age, but it’s not a healthy one.
If you have unhealthy perceptions, then you have an unhealthy framework. An unhealthy framework can’t manifest or even in some cases see healthy, high quality women.
You can’t put Turok: Dinosaur Hunter into your Nintendo 64 and then expect to play Animal Crossing on the monitor.
This one of the biggest things that most people don’t understand. Most people want to play Animal Crossing, but they don’t want to swap out Turok: Dinosaur Hunter.
They will never meet any healthy high quality women because they’re too incompatible on a subconscious level. They will look around and go “where are all the amazing women?” because beliefs are literally blindfolds. They can’t see, lol. All they will see is Turok: Dinosaur Hunter, because that’s the game cartridge in the Nintendo 64. There will be no sign of Animal Crossing whatsoever. All of the women that come into your life are a direct reflection of where you are at internally.
This applies to anything by the way - it’s a fundamental of QoL.
For example, if we’re talking about wealth, then just swap “amazing women” with “wealth opportunities”.
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If you’re talking about having zero interest in social or romantic life, then that’s not normal.
Some people are like that, they go “I’m not interested in sex, romance or socializing”. This is called mental illness, lol.
I would be willing to bet that in 100% of these cases, the “lack of interest” is a rationalization or coping mechanism for deep-seated fear, extreme repression, limiting beliefs or trauma surrounding those aspects of life. At the very least, there are strings attached to that “lack of interest” and I’d be interested to see what those strings truly look like.
Because see, those aren’t hobbies, they’re fundamental aspects of being human.
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For example: In the case of many hyper-introverts, who have the stance of “I’m not really interested in being around people. I’m not very social”.
If you were to zoom in to their subconscious framework, you will commonly find a strong fear of rejection.
For most of my life, I was the super shy and quiet introvert. I didn’t go out much in my teenage years. I didn’t like going to social events or family gatherings. Low self-esteem, in my shell, and not very social. Subconscious fear of being judged and what others would think of me. Closed-off.
If one were to look at me now… I’m the complete opposite. I’m the guy you see in public places who is naturally talking to everyone with strangers. I also love to be around people, exchange energy with them, have conversations, and go to social events. I’m the center of every family gathering.
What you will never find in personality “tests” or “typing” is the consideration for subconscious fears or traumas. Where do you draw the line? They don’t even have a line. Mainstream stuff is way too far behind things, lol.
This is personally why I generally don’t subscribe to those types of tests, because there’s no distinction between labeling truly you, versus labeling your limitations. That lack of distinction is dangerous because it normalizes the idea that you are your limitations.
Imagine if your fear of rejection with women, was “well that’s just my personality type”. No, it’s not your “personality type”, it’s a false fear based on a weak framework which you’re meant to grow out of through real internal growth and work.
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Agreed, I’m extrovert with certain social groups but not others. That told me this is stuff my mind makes up. Because how can I be an introvert and an extrovert? It’s just I’m shy here or insecure there and secure over that place.
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Exactly, lol
They’ll usually go “well of course your personality is fluid and depends on the situation. What is your average baseline, meaning which way do you typically lean more towards the other? In your day to day life, are you more introverted or more extroverted”.
Typical tendencies and baseline.
This is why in many personality assessments, they use a lot of qualifiers in the questioning such as “frequently” and “often”. They do this to gauge the regularity of those behaviors or preferences.
It all goes out the window when you ask the question:
Is this average baseline of my personality and tendencies?..
Or is this the average baseline of the situations and environments that I encounter on a regular basis.
This is why personality assessment is nothing more than a snapshot… all forms of it are far too lacking in comprehensiveness to be used as a definitive categorization - which many people use it for.
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I don’t know how I got here in my journal. Just went on some wild tangents somehow.
Hahahaha. I should get back to work.
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It’s good stuff. Food for thought.
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It’s only been a few days and I’ve made $100. Mostly manifestation. I noticed today that I have to tweak a bunch of stuff. My social media game is kind of crazy at the moment. Nouveau R.I.C.H. has helped give me a lot of ideas. They just keep flowing. My business partner gave me really good feedback on my UX. I’ve made my own entire formula for that. Keeping it in the folder to potentially sell down the line.
I am expecting to make somewhere close to $1000 by the end of the month.
In December, I want to go insane. Expecting to double it, hoping to triple it. I have access to influencer marketing, but I need to solidify myself more before I even touch stuff like that. I’m not comfortable right now. Too many things to do. I’m relaxed, but the checklist drops down to the floor. I need to meet my own standards, which are very high.
My biggest danger isn’t lack of ideas or lack of clear direction… it’s procrastination and productivity. As long as I keep strong, then I’m confident that I’ll progress.
I got good feedback on my copywriting. I still think I can make it a lot better.
I’m in my rhythm. Low recon lately too. It’s weird being here on this forum, as I type this because I feel different. I’ve been very quiet, the last few days completely focused like a cyborg… and it feels weird. I feel weird. It’s somehow halfway through the month and I did so much. Us humans can really get a lot of stuff done when we want to. I love it, hahaha.
My plan was to get really focused this month and cut out all distractions. I’m realizing that next month is going to be potentially even more hectic. Just less boring stuff. I also no longer only get it cracking during night hours. I really try not to waste an hour.
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Money “manifestation” certainly works.
Manifestation is a cool thing, but I don’t really like what it’s become in the mainstream.
Those New Agers, lol.
I’ve been trying to figure out how to sum up the issue and I cracked it in only 2 sentences with a video game analogy:
The problem is not thinking that one can play PS5 games.
The problem is thinking that you can play PS5 games on a PS1.
New Agers will go on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on… about the first sentence.
They will usually know nada, zilch, and absolutely nothing about the second sentence.
Like, yes you can play Marvel’s Spider-Man 2. No, you can’t play it on a PS1. New Agers don’t understand that you can’t put the Marvel’s Spider-Man 2 disc into a PS1 and expect to play the game.
This is the issue in extreme ROI terms, and I have yet to find a better analogy. I’m very proud of myself, lol.
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What you end up with is these weird, like unsocialized people who stick around in New Age forums all day long with zero life experience. Low QoL all across the board.
Then they talk and talk all types of crazy shit with nothing to back it up. “Yeah bro I can manifest a billion dollars, anything possible”.
Stuff is madness
I don’t like how these young adolescents still slaving in college and getting yelled at by their parents to clean their room are talking all this nutty and crazy shit. The subliminal community on YouTube and etc is chalk full of these young people, I don’t know where they come from. The morphic field civilization and all of them. Mad wild shit. Lmao.