Today is the day where I drive the wife around for Instacart, she shops, I deliver it to the door. I wish she could do all of it, so I could focus my time on productive stuff.
Anyway, that isn’t in the cards at the moment, so my inner Stoic is all “Worry about it later.”
I’m listening to “Hoist the Colours” on my laptop here at the house while we wait for the first order to come up that’ll be worth a shit.
I’ve been cycling in and out of that “fuck you Imma live my own life” anger. Tonight is the night I usually call me dad (I call on Wednesdays and Saturdays).
I’ve had several “mental conversations” with him since Wednesday night.
If I’d been running my custom, I’d say it’s Submodel Alpha at work. Had that happen before regarding other people.
I’m resolved that if he starts saying crap tonight about how I don’t call enough, I’m gonna tell him to stop wasting the time I do call with that. I. AM. DONE.
I still have the same money issues I did before Wednesday night (talking to him) but I feel different now. I had what basically felt like a near-instant shift Thursday (which I posted about above).
One thing I forgot to post is prior to the pirate stuff, I was on the highway rounding the little body of water between my town and the next one over.
The sunlight hit the water just right or something, it looked so beautiful that I nearly cried. Eyes got a bit moist, which as anyone who read my private ZP journals knows that’s an achievement. Also thanks to dad.
I remember several times as a little kid him telling me shit like “big boys don’t cry”. And a kid tends to internalize shit like that. I’ve tried to get past that but I suspect only a serious run of something like DR will fix that.
Funny enough, he uses the waterworks now whenever he’s going on and on about how hard life is. I try to be sympathetic but he always finds ways to turn it around to being all about him
I’ve also been mentally cataloging the different ways he’s changed over the years that I personally remember him. In case he brings up the whole “I haven’t changed much since I was 13.”
I like this newfound sense of determination or whatever it is I found on Thursday. I’m just waiting for it to normalize and level out before I go back into any stacks. I know I can’t maintain this state of mind forever. Not even sure that would be a good idea if I could.
That would lead to burnout. “I HAVE FORESEEN IT”