- I’m starting to think that a lot of the notions I have about women are wrong and disadvantageous. These notions I learned mostly from PUA material, which has been a part of my life for a long time, having never had other sources of teaching.
The notions I am talking about are mostly related to those of Inner Game. I will try to list some of them and describe the doubt I had practicing them:
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Do not let yourself be seen too needy or that you are looking for her: this thought would not even be bad, if it were not that I, as mentioned in the previous points, do it in an extreme way by showing myself, I do not say too detached, but not very available to interact. I think it is one of my biggest causes of loss and failure, because I don’t go direct for what I want, I speak little to a girl or text little to her with the fear of showing too much interest and therefore too much need, and I always find myself to lose the girl out of her boredom, or to have it stolen by someone who is more assertive and persistent, or worse to find myself on the other side of the spectrum, over time, becoming too available and clingy.
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Don’t show interest, be indirect. If she finds out that you are interested she may lose attraction to you. Seduction must be done under the radar: This is similar to the first and always implies not expressing one’s interests directly. I have known for a long time now that it is not correct to always be like this, but this mentality, in acting, I have carried with me until now. I think in the long run I start to get boring if I stay so indirect and make a girl lose interest. Showing interest should be done, albeit in a certain way (without showing need) and at a certain time.
For now I can’t think of other things. If something got in my mind I will write and comment on it.
I’m questioning a lot of what I’ve been and a lot of what I am and what I’m doing, but that’s okay, because I’m noticing that everything I’m doing right now doesn’t bring me any results. Questioning and doubting myself is part of the change process, and I really need to change and become better.