Long post.
Total Breakdown has really tested me these last 2 days.
It started a week ago when I was not paid once I’d submitted my deposit to Blockchain. No payment, no email, nothing at all. I found out later that my last payment, a measly $125, was not accepted since it came from a 3rd party (another bitcoin miner). This has been the catalyst for a lot of anger these last 2 days. I acted out on it yesterday, and today I was wanting to pull out completely. I was pissed today. “Total breakdown” is taking root now.
Why was I pissed? Since my miner literally vanished once this went down. Her connections are still active, but she’s not replied once in the last week. The bitch deserted me, and with it, my old trauma abandonment wounds opened up freshly. (This is the core of my anger).
I reacted to my daughter who’s visiting since she ignored texts I sent when we were supposed to meet yesterday. I was supposed to join them for fireworks last night, but I was soooooo pissed, this whole thing brewing. My daughter’s only 14. I texted her saying I wouldn’t be with her tonight. She replied “awww why?” I said “I asked you questions. I was ignored. I don’t like being treated like that”. She only replied “ok”.
It points more to how dismissive my ex was and is, and that was boiling in me. I felt alone whenever we went somewhere together. Anything or anyone that excited her was chosen over my company, and my daughter is now her sponge.
Today, that pain pointed towards my bitcoin miner. I texted her this morning “are you available?” Minutes later I shared how it worried me how she’d disappeared during my last 2 withdrawal attempts. I said it’s like something is in her head, and I’m paying for it (though I realized I am doing exactly that back to her today). My last words were “this angers me”. No reply. I thought of this “sweet or sour” approach throughout the day, and I sent one message this afternoon asking if she was ok. Another miner I work with, his mom died two months back. He’d gone incommunicado during that time. I’ll message her sister tonight.
Handling stress–since a good friend loaned me $2000 for the deposit–Total Breakdown is removing my normal escape hatches, denial being my main one. I thought of (and saw it yesterday on IG) a quote by Warren Buffet. He said:
“The most important thing to do if you find yourself in a hole is to stop digging”
Today I considered saying "fuck this!!’ and pulling out. My emails to Blockchain have been ignored, my miner’s ignored me, and I keep digging by seeking any communication from anyone. I’d say they’re all a scam, though it’d be said out of spite and anger, not truth. I don’t know what I’m supposed to be learning here.
I strongly considered picking up EoG today, but didn’t mainly since I’m in the hottest heat so far, and I’d be quitting on myself by jumping out of Kahn while lessons are likely everywhere. For additional income, I did pick up something I’d purchased 3 months back and not used, a simple SMS marketing tool, as it’s cheap marketing and an income earner since I can promote many products. Money comes from many sources, and this one I’ve thought of dozens of times, but not jumped in.
Kahn is definitely lighting my fire and awakening my anger at circumstances. Since I’ve dismissed so many little things, relationally and financially, I am accepting of this challenge to face them. Real life requires my eyes to be open to reality, and Kahn is doing a lot of work on this.
Lastly, I should be starting Stage 2 around the 15th…hmmm…I’ll be visiting my daughter during that time. I’ll likely wait until I’m back so I don’t damage the relationship. I’ll take advice.