I need The dark raw truth on this matter

The Emperor's Lounge
#1

I want you to help me, the story goes…
Am a 24yr old medical student in 4th year currently, when I was in 200L I meet this girl when she was around 16 yrs, that time I stay in a medical hostel. We became friends, we gisted and play with her whenever I come around her shop.
This last for about 1yr 6 Months after I asked her to be my girlfriend we started dating but due to my stay in the hostel we don’t stay in private that much, but we normally go to dark corners and kiss, finger and smooch.
When she clocked 18 , during one of our hideous meetings we had a quickie which was the day I disvirgined her, she left crying of pains, and left home.
After that we meet up but only finger and smooch.
Fastforward
On the long run we broke up due to some issues of me not giving her attention and how I abused her with words and always break up with her everyone and then (up to 5x)
In the middle of this year I made up some little cash and I left for off campus which I told her about, she started visiting me and we fucked and fucked over time. One certain days I asked her about her period because I was going raw sometimes she told me that she hasn’t seen it. I became afraid because I thought she was pregnant, after days of calling her and her not picking up , she told me within that week that she has seen her period, I believed.
But when we are together I noticed she was hiding something from me I confronted her and she brought up stories about a guy she dated while I was in the hostel and how the guy got her pregnant which she aborted that day I was calling her to know about her period status.
I decided to let it slide because I was staying in the hostel then. We moved on and she claimed to have the sex once with this guy that impregnated her, I laughed because I know it can’t be possible, after days for reasoning I asked her she said it’s only 5times
We moved on after a while I started noticing one man she chats up with even when I am with her. One day I confronted her about how I want to read the chat she struggled it and managed to make me forget about it. Days back I start reading the chat again for me to see that this man has been seeing her too, today when she came to sleep over in my house my beans got burnt while she was busy chatting the man and I seized the phone only for me to go through the phone and my doubts where correct. The was asking her for sexting while she was in my house.
The funny part she always claims she loves me and all that even the last time she left she wrote a letter

“Many are loved but one is always cherished. You are my cherry My heart beat for you,my lips smiles for you,my p***y craves for you and my boobs stand for you. You have given me reason to be confident,smile , happy,joyful and hopeful. I wish the love you shower on me now will not fade away when I desire it much more than now I wish your care and understanding will not turn to Shadow or fly away
From the deppest end of my heart I want to say I love you Vincenzo. I pray God’s grace upon you to encourage you and support you in all you do. Grow in wisdom above your peers and in success above your colleagues. Take care of yourself My KING
You are always loved by me.
My heart :sparkling_heart:”

I loved this girl in the past, I taught she was different but it’s seems I was fooled. I want to keep her for sex only, how do I play that game and still not build resentment.

How can she claim she love me and still see another man whenever am not there
Is she a sex addict?
Also I forgot to mention that I introduced this girl to rough crazy sex that she still comes back even if I say hurtful words to her , over and over again.

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#2

And What is the actual question?

#3

She’s not a sex addict, she’s an 18 year old

People that age do shit like that. When I was that age I did shit like that, and so did most people I knew.

It’s not uncommon.

Listen to Emperor bro, and journal about this situation

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#4

Am running The new Emperor. Do you think I should leave her and move on?

#5

She is 19 now.

#6

You have to date more than one woman at a time in order to be able to do this.

Date 3 women including her at any given time. If one woman leaves you, add another so it remains 3.

Am picking the number 3 as an example. It can be more than that but don’t let it be less since it will lead to a condition where if one or two don’t want to have sex with you, then you aren’t having sex.

Also, please use a condom.

Will add one more important point to this. Focus on developing your body and money (and studies if you are in school). That will keep your mind off women.

Have a serious girlfriend when you are over 35.

No. Women like sex just as men do. But they are more selective meaning if another man has more game, status or frame than you, she will go for him.

Don’t worry too much about it. Accept female nature just as you accept your own male nature.

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#7

How do I achieve this ?

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#8

Be open with the girls you are dating and tell them you are only casually dating now. And let them be open too. You can’t control women these days since if you do, they will sleep with someone else just to prove that you can’t control them. But if you allow them to do what they want, they will be less likely to sleep with other men.

Your own case is a good example of that. You tried to control her and she slept with someone else.

The only requirements you have of these women are that they are attractive and they don’t give you drama. They can give drama to others but not you. If they do cause drama, don’t see them for 3 days to a week and don’t reply to their messages or calls.

After that, talk to them and introduce them back to your life. You don’t have to tell them why you cut them off. Women are smart. They will know why you did so and they will reduce their drama. If they don’t reduce the drama, drop them from your rotation.

You don’t need the drama because you are focusing on improving your life and don’t have the time to deal with it.

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#9

I mentioned this Non exclusive relationship to the girl she disagreed to it, saying that it’s either I stick or I leave but she ain’t sticking herself.

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#10

Then it’s time to let her go.

Dictate your terms. Tell her, if she doesn’t want that, she is free to leave.

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#11

Did you talk to her about the fact that she’s having sex with someone else and you don’t want her to keep doing it?

Same difference haha

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#12

Women aren’t attracted to men who let women lead. If you stick with her because she asked for that, she will think of you as weak.

These are some hard truths about life that one learns as we grow.

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#13

I can also suggest another path for you.

While you run Emperor, also run Heartsong. That way you will find the right girl for you. Someone you can end up commiting to her earlier than 35 because she is loyal, feminine, friendly, fit and follows your lead.

But either way, I strongly recommend breaking up with the girl you are talking about. Let both of you have a fresh start after all these issues else it will lead to more problems later.

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#14

I think it’s the best thing to be direct and honest with her. If you want her for only haram stuff then make sure she understands. Don’t hide other partners and don’t lie… You don’t want your relationships to go that path.

If she leaves because of that, you saved your sanity from her in the future. Better ones will come.

It’s a good idea to do healing for you reading what you said about the whole “breaking up and getting back and making her feel like you are verbally abusing her”. This isn’t hurting just her but also you. Please do consider healing again.

heartsong + khan black ??
I’m sure others would have
great suggestions for this also

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#15

Sorry, to be blank, but this all sounds like a bad toxic relationship. I think you both try to control each other, everybody on their own terms.
I know it’s easier said than done, but I would say it would be best to end that relationship. It would be best for both of you.

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#16

Women only cheat when they’re not getting something they crave in a relationship.
Find out what it is.
I’m not saying you should keep or abandon her.
Just find out, what you are not bringing to the table. It will help you in the future.

Also keep in mind, that if you want only fwb, she will probably sleep with other guys as well.
So always use protection.

Yeah, raw feels better. But an abortion does serious harm to a female soul, because it’s the opposite of what they are made to be: a mother.

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#17

Deep introspection is necessary here. I’d suggest a time apart while you figure things out, as it seems that despite your idea of non-exclusive relationship, you still have feelings for her. Add on top of that the fact that you’re both still young, this becomes an emotional wild ride that is not easy to navigate.

Think deeply what it is that you want to achieve. And make sure it’s not some external idea (such as the non-exclusive thing, very common nowadays in red pill circles), but your own.

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#18

That’s true but I cant keep her as my main girlfriend because she has broken my trust and standard I had for her in the past.

Sex with her feels so good, even She knows she can’t leave me because I grew her in sex taught her wildness and craziness in sex , she has never meet one that give her orgasm like me.
But my problem is I have played multiple partners before so…
Currently am running khan black St1 and New Emperor but I want to add Sex and seduction X I don’t really know which one that can give me this playboy spirit

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#19

I think this affected her because she is no more happy and innocency spirit I use to know about.

#20

I feel it’s toxic and that what makes it fun and makes her to come back even after I have told her the worst things on earth.