I don’t think you understand why people gave that advice.
You say that wanting to get taller is not a superficial desire, but realistically speaking… that depends.
I completely agree with you there. Jon Jones has an incredible reach and the heavyweights look quite monstrous. Nobody is denying the advantages of height in combat sports. Speaking of Jon Jones, he was training with Henry Cejudo (5 ft 4) lol just throwing that out there.
If you’re into fighting, then height can help but it’s more so to help you with goals in the sport or if you want to fight at a higher weight class. This isn’t a superficial desire.
The superficial desire we’re talking about in regards to wanting height is where the desire is driven by stuff like this:
“Plz plz plz like me and respect me because I’m a fucking dismissible wimp with no frame or masculinity.”
“Girls, plz like me and accept me plz”
Only weak men look for approval like this. It’s called using height as a way to fill in the void of your own internal issues. The epitome of weakness.
Men like this can’t survive in the dating market… they eliminate themselves from the competition. I’ve seen it happen countless of times.
You should be quite familiar with this superficial, trauma fueled desire and you know what I’m talking about - I’m not even going to quote the family-related trauma in your journal.
Short men think everybody dismisses them because of their lack of height.
In actuality, they are being dismissed because of their subconscious internal framework. These men are incredibly insecure and constantly compare themselves to others. They’re so uncomfortable in their own skin that just seeing someone taller than them makes them feel threatened or inferior. They don’t like what they see in the mirror.
We’re here to grow, manifest and shift reality.
What we’re not here to do is use coping mechanisms for our internal issues.
I have met men much taller than me, who have tried to be my friend, start conversations with me and get into my social circle. Unfortunately, they didn’t pass my gigachad filter so I let them go lol.
When you tell weak-minded people to grow taller to get respect… I don’t know who you’re trying to get respect from.
Alpha Males, high status, high quality intelligent people and sharks look at character… we don’t give a fuck about your height. We pay attention to the details. We look through you and see if you’re even worth our time. Are you competent? Can we trust you? Are you reliable? Can you get shit done? etc.
We don’t look at what you’ve done or what you have, we look at who you are.
A few inches on your skeletal frame means nothing to the upper echelons.
When you tell a super insecure man that “hey buddy, if you get taller then people will respect you”, etc. All I’m going to see is a weak man with a longer skeletal frame. Like the ex-boyfriend (6 ft 3 college football player) of an IG model I used to date, who basically left him for me.
When I give this foundational advice to people, I’m trying to make sure that they don’t become like that guy. Getting your girl stolen from you because you have a piss poor foundation. This guy started to show up at her gym because his ego got destroyed and he didn’t understand what happened.
He is that outlier guy in the “redpill” groups going “but what about my situation? I’m 6 ft 3?..” because people don’t understand that there’s levels to this shit until it hits them in the face.
Like, you can learn the hard way if you want but just don’t complain after lol.
You don’t dominate with size or height, you dominate with mentality, beliefs, intention, energy and exudation of your entire fucking being as a consciousness. Your height doesn’t co-create or have an influence on other people and reality… it’s your mind. This isn’t “snowflake” shit, this is real truth and complete power. Even in Planet of the Apes… Caesar wasn’t the tallest but he was the most noble, compassionate, wise, mature, intelligent, authentic, determined and mentally formidable. His entire being commanded respect. Who even gave a shit about his height lol. If you fucked with him, you knew that it wasn’t wise.
Men need to become like that lol. It sounds like I’m coining some “super archetype” but this is just part of being a normal, grown adult man.
We live in a superficial society… don’t be a product of that.
Anyways, I was quite confused when you said that this is “snowflake” advice when it’s the complete opposite.
Our advice is to grow a pair of balls and become a monster. When you listen to LBFH, you kind of do this because you stop comparing yourself to others, which @SWITCH is already beginning to do. He is getting his power back and becoming Alpha. He is becoming a secure man and this is what grown adults respect. This is what women shit-test.
Once you level up even a little bit in your sense of self (becoming congruent), suddenly you become a different type of animal.
You gain a level of respect from people that is infinitely deeper than something superficial like height. You begin to emanate a sense of leadership that even the tallest men would happily kneel down to, seek guidance from and get inspired by.
Basically, there are fucking levels lol.
Now if you want to be the top percentile, top dog that gets all the women… first work on strengthening your internal framework and becoming congruently Alpha at a level which compels the people who implemented these control structures and disempowering systems to shit their pants.
But then again, this is all nothing more than my opinion lol. Feel free to do whatever you want, I just felt like your unhappiness was due to misunderstanding so I’m clarifying.
In other words, be happy lol.